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singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 05/10/12 10:09 AM
And none of that is a bad thing. I'm just trying to understand why some people would care so much about others' preferences and why it would bother them so much that others have preferences. Oh didn't you know. If you go against the grain; you are an outcast. LOL Through life; people will always try to convince you that their way is the right way but I just brush them off. As I said; you are an adult and you make the decisions that you feel right for you. Me; I will listen; weigh the options and make my decision. As I said about the boiling water analogy; its not necessary to go through some stuff when you know the outcome. Right here on mingles I saw some insulting comments from young guys calling people my age grannies. Now why would I date someone like that? I feel bad enough being my age so they would only make me feeel worse. I'm not trying to be insulting to anyone about age. But, some people are. I've even been asked what's wrong with me since I am in my 30s with no children and have never been married.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 05/10/12 11:10 AM Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 11:13 AM
And none of that is a bad thing. I'm just trying to understand why some people would care so much about others' preferences and why it would bother them so much that others have preferences. Oh didn't you know. If you go against the grain; you are an outcast. LOL Through life; people will always try to convince you that their way is the right way but I just brush them off. As I said; you are an adult and you make the decisions that you feel right for you. Me; I will listen; weigh the options and make my decision. As I said about the boiling water analogy; its not necessary to go through some stuff when you know the outcome. Right here on mingles I saw some insulting comments from young guys calling people my age grannies. Now why would I date someone like that? I feel bad enough being my age so they would only make me feeel worse. I'm not trying to be insulting to anyone about age. But, some people are. I've even been asked what's wrong with me since I am in my 30s with no children and have never been married. No you aren't insulting about age. People ask me that all the time; why didn't you get married; why no kids? They say I am missing out. Well, I could be equally immature and say gee you were missing out by not joining the military. I think thats were maturity comes in where you don't push your ideals on someone else. Society plays havoc on our thinking. An older person may seen a younger person as immature where as a younger person sees an older person as old, decrepit, and senile. I didn't get hired for the 911 dispatch job because the person hiring was 30. Is it fair; of course not but the fact is a lot of people my age are suffering from illness such as diabetes, heart problems, back problems, etc. Its not fair but no point getting my panties in a bunch as I can't do anything about it. Its called life. I don't give a crap what a younger person thinks of me. Generalizations will always be there. I see lots of it here on Mingles where people say a woman wants a man with money; needs him to fix things, needs him for heavy lifting, needs him for her very survival. Its pure bull. I don't think men and women need each other unless they want to procreate. Personally; I am quite capable of taking care of myself but people don't seem to get that in thier heads. They always think they know whats best for you and I find that just plain silly.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 11:49 AM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. i agree 100 % my friend people should not judge according to age:)

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Thu 05/10/12 11:50 AM
You Ladies keep telling them, common sense is lost for alot of people. Age will teach, if they want to learn.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 05/10/12 11:53 AM Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 11:55 AM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. i agree 100 % my friend people should not judge according to age:) Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 12:03 PM
Age does matter because with age comes maturity. How can I relate what its like to have a 20 year career to someone who has never had one? How can I relate to a 20 or 30 year old guy that because of age; my best friends are dying from heart attacks? How can I relate how age is affecting me and my body to someone who is 20 or 30 years younger? How would I relate to someone about the 70s when they weren't even born? I doubt very much that I would have much in common with a younger man that say has never served a day in the military or has only served a couple years. Sorry; but guys my age have a hard enough time understanding me; a younger guy would be way worse. well its communication.... ok put it this way how would you relate to someone your age that hates war? or someone thats older but just drinks booze all day? or someone in 70s that never went anywhere and just stayed at home most of his life and hardly know anything ? see you only saying negatives not positives lollllllll ok now positives put it this way i was part owner of a business when i was 19 and owned a business too ,different people are different i also have lots of friends young and old from 19 to in the 90s don't mean i date them but i do know about health and life a lot , and the point i was making if a person judges why i say the word judge is ..........think this way,say a person never ever talks to a different age group cause of their age is that not judging that person ? because saying it won't work cause of age? cause if the person never ever tried ,they already judged that person ...... cause of age????????? right????? i know people have a right to choose who they want or don't want ,thats up to them but if a person never ever tried or don't even know a person and say oh that person is immature cause of their age ,then they judged them Judgemental \| Define Judgemental at Dictionary.com judgmental or judgemental —adj. of or denoting an attitude in which judgments about other people's conduct are made. judgemental or judgemental. —adj ... * o Judge \| Define Judge at Dictionary judging ones character ..................so it is judging cause only reasons i getting is they immature of a age before they know the person so it is a judge lolllllllllll hope i explained it clear enough to you all Communication won't work with someone younger. Somebody that lived the 70s may have not gone out but they can still relate as they were alive; not sucking on a baby bottle. I couldn't take a younger guy seriously. If the person is anti-war; why would I be with them at all? They still can't understand how it is to lose friends because of age? A person my age would certainly understand that. Actually in my experience; younger guys drink way more booze than an older guy because lets face it as we age; we can't drink as much. Also; how does a 30 year relate to an aging body? I am tired at the end of the day and a younger man wants sex; but I am say I am tired. As we age; our bodies tire more. How do I relate with aching joints or a sore back to a younger guy? How about menopause? How about when I retire? I can travel but sony boy still has to work for another 20 years. Seriously; you think someone wants that? Sorry; I see no point of dating someone that has little or no life experience. Bottom line; he needs to grow up or better yet date someone his own age that can grow with him. You want to call me judegmental; so be it but not dating someone young enough to be my son. I would be too embarrassed to even be seen with him. Besides if you guys are so mature; why don't you date mature women your age? lolllllllll i date my age and other ages too depends on the person :) as for drinking your wrong my friend .............a new study has found that older adults who have alcohol dependence problems drink significantly more than younger adults who have similar problems. The findings suggest that older problem drinkers may have developed a tolerance for alcohol and need to drink even more than younger abusers to achieve the effects they seek.Researchers at Ohio State University found that adults over age 60 with alcohol dependence drink more than 40 alcoholic beverages a week on average, compared to between 25 and 35 drinks a week on average for those in younger age groups with similar problems...............ok now back to other your right why would you want to be with someone anti-war i was just showing you a negative thinking :)They still can't understand how it is to lose friends because of age? A person my age would certainly understand that. <<<< now that is just so wrong you saying cause if a person in 20s or 30s they would not understand if they lost a love 1 cause of age? you ever think some have lost lots by the age of 20? or 30? i know i have lost tons of friends older and younger death is not a age thing my dear :)ok next thing there are young guys retired my friend and travel more then you :) so all your reason are nothing ...maybe the joint pain lolll :) ps oh the truth comes out ........... I would be too embarrassed to even be seen with him. :) my goodness my friend if you worry to much what others think then life will be more narrow in that way ,you should never worry like that ,thats just so sad hugsss:) I call BS that a 20 or 30 year old lost someone because of age; an accident or illness yes but not because of age. Research is pure bull as you go to any pub in this city (Calgary) and the majority is 30 year olds and as I said in my experience. You see how that works; with age comes experience. As for joint pain; that is a major issue. As for sex; that is another major issue as younger guys want sex on a regular basis and after putting in a 14 hour day; I am beat and that's the last thing on my mind. How about kids? What 50 year old woman wants to bear or raise kids? Sorry; but I want someone that is in the same age category as well as mental capacity. A peron's mental capcity at 30 is not the same as one at 50. I should know as I have been there. I can't explain it on terms that you could understand. I could care less if younger guys traveled more than me; that still does not give them the experiences I have gone through. Going to Europe now and 20 years ago are like night and day. Also some young guy that has traveled Europe for a vacation can't compare to me dealing with terrorists while serving in Europe. You forget; I am around young people all the time so I see what they are like. I was in my 20s and 30s; yes I was an adult but in no way did I have a clue of what I really wanted. I at least am mature enough to admit that. An older woman is nothing more than a novelty to you and when you tire; you will dump her or cheat on her for someone younger. I am not going to keep arguing the point. If a guy has mommy issues; then he needs to find himself someone else; I have more self respect for myself. I am not a cougar. I also teach kids and I am well known in the community as well as the city. I have a reputation to uphold and being known as a cougar would be a source of embarassment for me. I can't take a young guy seriously as a boyfriend of lifemate and I find it laughable when young guys approach me. I tell them to go back to mommy. well a lady around 36 just hits prime in sex my friend but guys its in their 20s but i not sure what you trying to say? lollllll 50 years old to me is still a young person my friend when you over 60 i think you start to feel a lot older but then again it depends on the person:)

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 05/10/12 12:08 PM
well a lady around 36 just hits prime in sex my friend but guys its in their 20s but i not sure what you trying to say? lollllll 50 years old to me is still a young person my friend when you over 60 i think you start to feel a lot older but then again it depends on the person:) Yes, it depends on the person. The pain I feel in my back and knee is quite real. Yes a car accident caused it but age makes it worse. Some women increase their sex drive in menopause and others lose it completely. Eventually; age being a factor will make just about everyone lose their sex drive as that is just the nature of aging.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 12:10 PM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. i agree 100 % my friend people should not judge according to age:) Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. well i not judging no 1 lolllll i accept people for what they want i just think its wrong to judge before you even know them :) its also very immature ! lolll mature people talk and listen and see before they judge its like a car oh my car is way faster then yours you can say but if you don't know whats under the hood you would never know :)lolllll when you in a navy and go to war do you just bomb anywhere? no you look and see first and have a reason right? but on age its no i can't give them a chance they immature thats sad

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 05/10/12 12:13 PM Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 12:21 PM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. i agree 100 % my friend people should not judge according to age:) Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. well i not judging no 1 lolllll i accept people for what they want i just think its wrong to judge before you even know them :) its also very immature ! lolll mature people talk and listen and see before they judge its like a car oh my car is way faster then yours you can say but if you don't know whats under the hood you would never know :)lolllll when you in a navy and go to war do you just bomb anywhere? no you look and see first and have a reason right? but on age its no i can't give them a chance they immature thats sad As I said before; it would be immature of me to tell you that you are missing out because you didn't join the military. If you feel its not for you even not knowing a thing about what its like to serve; who am I tell you that you are wrong? This is what you and MG are trying to tell Sing and me. Incidentially; we don't bomb in the Navy; that is the job of the airforce. Also you are twisting words. I won't date younger guys because of age difference and I could care less about you maturity. I want someone who has been alive as long as I have. Sorry; you can't grasp it.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 12:30 PM
We all know couples who have large age spans, I do anyway. It seems to me that 'society' whispers 'cougar' when the woman has chosen younger and has admiration for a man who has chosen younger. Yes, very unfair. your right bro i see so many dating in different age brackets and i think people should admire that , cause to many are narrow minded and never open up their horizon, and maybe if they did talk to couples in different age groups or see more they may think and open up but its their choice :) cheers thanks for your input Ah, I'm starting to get it. You think that because some date in different age groups, that everyone should give it a try. You have to realize, though, that everyone is different. What works for some may not work for others. Why should everyone try and be the same? did i say that?lolllllllllll i said its "their choice" i notice you try and twist peoples words , or maybe you need to just think a bit more lolllll IN my opinion i think everyone should do what they want but should not have such a narrow minded view or judge on a age before they know a person, its like a simple opinion lolllllllllllll What exactly is this narrow view you think I have? Sing; you don't have a narrow view. In fact; you have a level head on your shoulder and are smart enough to know what you want. Don't let these guys bully you. I agree with you 100% on the age thing. It doesn't work for me either. NO ONE IS BULLYING LOLLLLL its called opinions my friend thats a big difference with maturity too :) some just jump a blab and accuse others but i just stating a fact i said its UP TO WHOEVER CAN DATE WHOEVER RIGHT? only 2 things i said its sad to judge a person cause of their age and its narrow minded not to open a horizon on age and i even showed definitions of both :) so i just stating a FACT nothing more :)

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 05/10/12 12:53 PM Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 01:02 PM
We all know couples who have large age spans, I do anyway. It seems to me that 'society' whispers 'cougar' when the woman has chosen younger and has admiration for a man who has chosen younger. Yes, very unfair. your right bro i see so many dating in different age brackets and i think people should admire that , cause to many are narrow minded and never open up their horizon, and maybe if they did talk to couples in different age groups or see more they may think and open up but its their choice :) cheers thanks for your input Ah, I'm starting to get it. You think that because some date in different age groups, that everyone should give it a try. You have to realize, though, that everyone is different. What works for some may not work for others. Why should everyone try and be the same? did i say that?lolllllllllll i said its "their choice" i notice you try and twist peoples words , or maybe you need to just think a bit more lolllll IN my opinion i think everyone should do what they want but should not have such a narrow minded view or judge on a age before they know a person, its like a simple opinion lolllllllllllll What exactly is this narrow view you think I have? Sing; you don't have a narrow view. In fact; you have a level head on your shoulder and are smart enough to know what you want. Don't let these guys bully you. I agree with you 100% on the age thing. It doesn't work for me either. NO ONE IS BULLYING LOLLLLL its called opinions my friend thats a big difference with maturity too :) some just jump a blab and accuse others but i just stating a fact i said its UP TO WHOEVER CAN DATE WHOEVER RIGHT? only 2 things i said its sad to judge a person cause of their age and its narrow minded not to open a horizon on age and i even showed definitions of both :) so i just stating a FACT nothing more :) Its equally narrow minded to tell a person that they should open up their horizons on age just because you think its right. Its called having a choice. You have no right to tell anyone that they are judgemental or narrow minded. We all have our reasons why we don't date younger or older and it is based on experience. Go ahead and find yourself a cougar but don't you dare lecture me on opening up my horizons or what I am missing. You see there again; you are the one being judgemental now by saying its narrow minded. How mature is that?

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 01:09 PM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. i agree 100 % my friend people should not judge according to age:) Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. well i not judging no 1 lolllll i accept people for what they want i just think its wrong to judge before you even know them :) its also very immature ! lolll mature people talk and listen and see before they judge its like a car oh my car is way faster then yours you can say but if you don't know whats under the hood you would never know :)lolllll when you in a navy and go to war do you just bomb anywhere? no you look and see first and have a reason right? but on age its no i can't give them a chance they immature thats sad As I said before; it would be immature of me to tell you that you are missing out because you didn't join the military. If you feel its not for you even not knowing a thing about what its like to serve; who am I tell you that you are wrong? This is what you and MG are trying to tell Sing and me. Incidentially; we don't bomb in the Navy; that is the job of the airforce. Also you are twisting words. I won't date younger guys because of age difference and I could care less about you maturity. I want someone who has been alive as long as I have. Sorry; you can't grasp it. loll your first statement look back my friend Age does matter because with age comes maturity. navygirl so in other words you saying that younger guys are immature right? i was not talking about me my friend lolllll and also if you look up there they use to have navy firebomb ships my friend:)also missiles that explode like a bomb right?

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 05/10/12 01:15 PM Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 01:22 PM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. i agree 100 % my friend people should not judge according to age:) Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. well i not judging no 1 lolllll i accept people for what they want i just think its wrong to judge before you even know them :) its also very immature ! lolll mature people talk and listen and see before they judge its like a car oh my car is way faster then yours you can say but if you don't know whats under the hood you would never know :)lolllll when you in a navy and go to war do you just bomb anywhere? no you look and see first and have a reason right? but on age its no i can't give them a chance they immature thats sad As I said before; it would be immature of me to tell you that you are missing out because you didn't join the military. If you feel its not for you even not knowing a thing about what its like to serve; who am I tell you that you are wrong? This is what you and MG are trying to tell Sing and me. Incidentially; we don't bomb in the Navy; that is the job of the airforce. Also you are twisting words. I won't date younger guys because of age difference and I could care less about you maturity. I want someone who has been alive as long as I have. Sorry; you can't grasp it. loll your first statement look back my friend Age does matter because with age comes maturity. navygirl so in other words you saying that younger guys are immature right? i was not talking about me my friend lolllll and also if you look up there they use to have navy firebomb ships my friend:)also missiles that explode like a bomb right? I am saying that younger guys are not at the same maturity level as me. They may be mature but not in a way to relate to me and this I know from my own personal experience. I know teenagers that show maturity but that doesn't mean we have the same maturity level; it does come with age and I stand by that statement as its what I believe. I could care less if anyone agrees with me as its just my opinion. To me there is no right or wrong answer; its what ever you are comfortable doing. I am certainly not as mature as a 70 year old and I will be the first to admit it. I am no more comfortable dating a young guy than I would be say to date a single parent; a smoker, a heavy drinker, or a drug user. If I am not comfortable with a younger man; then that should be my choice. Missles explode but not the same as bombing as bombs are dropped from overhead and none of my ships could fly.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 01:24 PM
We all know couples who have large age spans, I do anyway. It seems to me that 'society' whispers 'cougar' when the woman has chosen younger and has admiration for a man who has chosen younger. Yes, very unfair. your right bro i see so many dating in different age brackets and i think people should admire that , cause to many are narrow minded and never open up their horizon, and maybe if they did talk to couples in different age groups or see more they may think and open up but its their choice :) cheers thanks for your input Ah, I'm starting to get it. You think that because some date in different age groups, that everyone should give it a try. You have to realize, though, that everyone is different. What works for some may not work for others. Why should everyone try and be the same? did i say that?lolllllllllll i said its "their choice" i notice you try and twist peoples words , or maybe you need to just think a bit more lolllll IN my opinion i think everyone should do what they want but should not have such a narrow minded view or judge on a age before they know a person, its like a simple opinion lolllllllllllll What exactly is this narrow view you think I have? Sing; you don't have a narrow view. In fact; you have a level head on your shoulder and are smart enough to know what you want. Don't let these guys bully you. I agree with you 100% on the age thing. It doesn't work for me either. NO ONE IS BULLYING LOLLLLL its called opinions my friend thats a big difference with maturity too :) some just jump a blab and accuse others but i just stating a fact i said its UP TO WHOEVER CAN DATE WHOEVER RIGHT? only 2 things i said its sad to judge a person cause of their age and its narrow minded not to open a horizon on age and i even showed definitions of both :) so i just stating a FACT nothing more :) Its equally narrow minded to tell a person that they should open up their horizons on age just because you think its right. Its called having a choice. You have no right to tell anyone that they are judgemental or narrow minded. We all have our reasons why we don't date younger or older and it is based on experience. Go ahead and find yourself a cougar but don't you dare lecture me on opening up my horizons or what I am missing. You see there again; you are the one being judgemental now by saying its narrow minded. How mature is that? heres what you wrote????????????????.......... Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 11:55 AM ...........then you say your not judging lolllllllll 1 minute you say you are next you say your not ......lolllll you keep contradicting yourself my friend :) better to drop it lollllll

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 05/10/12 01:27 PM Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 01:41 PM
We all know couples who have large age spans, I do anyway. It seems to me that 'society' whispers 'cougar' when the woman has chosen younger and has admiration for a man who has chosen younger. Yes, very unfair. your right bro i see so many dating in different age brackets and i think people should admire that , cause to many are narrow minded and never open up their horizon, and maybe if they did talk to couples in different age groups or see more they may think and open up but its their choice :) cheers thanks for your input Ah, I'm starting to get it. You think that because some date in different age groups, that everyone should give it a try. You have to realize, though, that everyone is different. What works for some may not work for others. Why should everyone try and be the same? did i say that?lolllllllllll i said its "their choice" i notice you try and twist peoples words , or maybe you need to just think a bit more lolllll IN my opinion i think everyone should do what they want but should not have such a narrow minded view or judge on a age before they know a person, its like a simple opinion lolllllllllllll What exactly is this narrow view you think I have? Sing; you don't have a narrow view. In fact; you have a level head on your shoulder and are smart enough to know what you want. Don't let these guys bully you. I agree with you 100% on the age thing. It doesn't work for me either. NO ONE IS BULLYING LOLLLLL its called opinions my friend thats a big difference with maturity too :) some just jump a blab and accuse others but i just stating a fact i said its UP TO WHOEVER CAN DATE WHOEVER RIGHT? only 2 things i said its sad to judge a person cause of their age and its narrow minded not to open a horizon on age and i even showed definitions of both :) so i just stating a FACT nothing more :) Its equally narrow minded to tell a person that they should open up their horizons on age just because you think its right. Its called having a choice. You have no right to tell anyone that they are judgemental or narrow minded. We all have our reasons why we don't date younger or older and it is based on experience. Go ahead and find yourself a cougar but don't you dare lecture me on opening up my horizons or what I am missing. You see there again; you are the one being judgemental now by saying its narrow minded. How mature is that? heres what you wrote????????????????.......... Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 11:55 AM ...........then you say your not judging lolllllllll 1 minute you say you are next you say your not ......lolllll you keep contradicting yourself my friend :) better to drop it lollllll I I never said I didn't judge; I just said I don't like being lectured by you. I read my posts and no where does it say I don't judge. Everyone judges in some way and if they say they don't they are liars. I am saying you have to accept that at one time or another you will be judged. I am saying you have no right to attack anyone for their beliefs even if they are judgemental. You are equally judgemental about those of us who chose to not date younger yet you call us judgemental. People in glass houses. Maybe you should read you own comments. "i think everyone should do what they want but should not have such a narrow minded view or judge on a age before they know a person" Why is it narrow minded if a person doesn't want to be with someone because of age? Thats merely your opinion but that doesn't make it right. Anyways; I am out of here. You obviously don't understand and making me wonder if your age might be a factor in this whole thing. Either way; I am leaving this thread as its pointless discussing this with you.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 01:41 PM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. i agree 100 % my friend people should not judge according to age:) Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. well i not judging no 1 lolllll i accept people for what they want i just think its wrong to judge before you even know them :) its also very immature ! lolll mature people talk and listen and see before they judge its like a car oh my car is way faster then yours you can say but if you don't know whats under the hood you would never know :)lolllll when you in a navy and go to war do you just bomb anywhere? no you look and see first and have a reason right? but on age its no i can't give them a chance they immature thats sad As I said before; it would be immature of me to tell you that you are missing out because you didn't join the military. If you feel its not for you even not knowing a thing about what its like to serve; who am I tell you that you are wrong? This is what you and MG are trying to tell Sing and me. Incidentially; we don't bomb in the Navy; that is the job of the airforce. Also you are twisting words. I won't date younger guys because of age difference and I could care less about you maturity. I want someone who has been alive as long as I have. Sorry; you can't grasp it. loll your first statement look back my friend Age does matter because with age comes maturity. navygirl so in other words you saying that younger guys are immature right? i was not talking about me my friend lolllll and also if you look up there they use to have navy firebomb ships my friend:)also missiles that explode like a bomb right? I am saying that younger guys are not at the same maturity level as me. They may be mature but not in a way to relate to me and this I know from my own personal experience. I know teenagers that show maturity but that doesn't mean we have the same maturity level; it does come with age and I stand by that statement as its what I believe. I could care less if anyone agrees with me as its just my opinion. To me there is no right or wrong answer; its what ever you are comfortable doing. I am certainly not as mature as a 70 year old and I will be the first to admit it. I am no more comfortable dating a young guy than I would be say to date a single parent; a smoker, a heavy drinker, or a drug user. If I am not comfortable with a younger man; then that should be my choice. Missles explode but not the same as bombing as bombs are dropped from overhead and none of my ships could fly. you ever hear the saying ....ship-to-shore bombing:)i not talking air bombs lolll from plane my friend:)but yes you have a right to choose who you date no 1 said you didn't :))))))) all i saying every person at the same ages are not the same maturity or everyone would just be robots lollllllll thats all cheers have a good day lolllll

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 02:00 PM
We all know couples who have large age spans, I do anyway. It seems to me that 'society' whispers 'cougar' when the woman has chosen younger and has admiration for a man who has chosen younger. Yes, very unfair. your right bro i see so many dating in different age brackets and i think people should admire that , cause to many are narrow minded and never open up their horizon, and maybe if they did talk to couples in different age groups or see more they may think and open up but its their choice :) cheers thanks for your input Ah, I'm starting to get it. You think that because some date in different age groups, that everyone should give it a try. You have to realize, though, that everyone is different. What works for some may not work for others. Why should everyone try and be the same? did i say that?lolllllllllll i said its "their choice" i notice you try and twist peoples words , or maybe you need to just think a bit more lolllll IN my opinion i think everyone should do what they want but should not have such a narrow minded view or judge on a age before they know a person, its like a simple opinion lolllllllllllll What exactly is this narrow view you think I have? Sing; you don't have a narrow view. In fact; you have a level head on your shoulder and are smart enough to know what you want. Don't let these guys bully you. I agree with you 100% on the age thing. It doesn't work for me either. NO ONE IS BULLYING LOLLLLL its called opinions my friend thats a big difference with maturity too :) some just jump a blab and accuse others but i just stating a fact i said its UP TO WHOEVER CAN DATE WHOEVER RIGHT? only 2 things i said its sad to judge a person cause of their age and its narrow minded not to open a horizon on age and i even showed definitions of both :) so i just stating a FACT nothing more :) Its equally narrow minded to tell a person that they should open up their horizons on age just because you think its right. Its called having a choice. You have no right to tell anyone that they are judgemental or narrow minded. We all have our reasons why we don't date younger or older and it is based on experience. Go ahead and find yourself a cougar but don't you dare lecture me on opening up my horizons or what I am missing. You see there again; you are the one being judgemental now by saying its narrow minded. How mature is that? heres what you wrote????????????????.......... Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. Edited by navygirl on Thu 05/10/12 11:55 AM ...........then you say your not judging lolllllllll 1 minute you say you are next you say your not ......lolllll you keep contradicting yourself my friend :) better to drop it lollllll I I never said I didn't judge; I just said I don't like being lectured by you. I read my posts and no where does it say I don't judge. Everyone judges in some way and if they say they don't they are liars. I am saying you have to accept that at one time or another you will be judged. I am saying you have no right to attack anyone for their beliefs even if they are judgemental. You are equally judgemental about those of us who chose to not date younger yet you call us judgemental. People in glass houses. Maybe you should read you own comments. "i think everyone should do what they want but should not have such a narrow minded view or judge on a age before they know a person" Why is it narrow minded if a person doesn't want to be with someone because of age? Thats merely your opinion but that doesn't make it right. Anyways; I am out of here. You obviously don't understand and making me wonder if your age might be a factor in this whole thing. Either way; I am leaving this thread as its pointless discussing this with you. ok i made it soo clear my friend i said if YOU DON'T KNOW THE PERSON RIGHT? AND YOU JUDGE THEM BECAUSE THEIR AGE Judgemental \| Define Judgemental at Dictionary.com judgmental or judgemental —adj. of or denoting an attitude in which judgments about other people's conduct are made. judgemental or judgemental. —adj ... * o Judge \| Define Judge at Dictionary judging ones character THAT IS NARROW MINDED BY NOT GIVING PEOPLE A CHANCE HOW CLEAR CAN I SAY IT LOLLLLLLLLLLL HERE..............do you know what narrow minded means? ........breadth of view,and ...........lacking tolerance or flexibility or breadth of view..........Meaning of breadth. ... of knowledge of the subject".....so how would a person know a persons if they never talked to the person? and are blocked cause of a age? thats called lack of knowledge or narrow minded RIGHT?????????????????????? ITS SO SIMPLE AND A FACT:) lolll

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Thu 05/10/12 02:09 PM
You Ladies keep telling them, common sense is lost for alot of people. Age will teach, if they want to learn. sorry knowledge wisdom and facts teach my friend:)age is a number say a person 85 years old can't read or write he can teach what he sees only in his realm of life right? opening a horizon you can learn all ages and reading facts and learning from them and seeing facts with wisdom will teach a person not age lollllll :) cheers

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Thu 05/10/12 02:18 PM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. I could not agree more! And the folks that may disagree with this might be late maturity bloomers themselves. That's not a bad thing, it's just the way it might be and probably is.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 05/10/12 02:30 PM
Some of you have a very low opinion of the younger people. How can you judge someone's maturity level based upon their age. Ms Harmony had the right idea on page one of this thread; ''Someone of 23 could have easily obtained a degree at a young age while raising younger siblings their whole life and supported themselves financially''. This is SO true, for me that statement is partially true. What I'm basically saying is that none of you can judge me or people my age JUST based on age. None of you know my story or my ''life experience'' as another person has mentioned. And so, if some of you guys have had bad experiences with younger people then fine stick with people your own age if that's what suits you BUT, please don't paint everyone with the same brush because I can assure you this much, we're NOT all the same. Everyone is DIFFERENT. i agree 100 % my friend people should not judge according to age:) Maybe not; but in the real world people do judge according to age. Young people judge older people too. No one likes it but we need to accept it and just move on; that's where the maturity comes in. well i not judging no 1 lolllll i accept people for what they want i just think its wrong to judge before you even know them :) its also very immature ! lolll mature people talk and listen and see before they judge its like a car oh my car is way faster then yours you can say but if you don't know whats under the hood you would never know :)lolllll when you in a navy and go to war do you just bomb anywhere? no you look and see first and have a reason right? but on age its no i can't give them a chance they immature thats sad You're judging people who don't agree with you, though. You judged me based only on the fact that I have an age preference. You even said later you don't know me and didn't know my actual age preference, so why are you doing exactly what you are saying others shouldn't do?