No, it does not seem dead to me really. Yeah, local people seem to be in short supply in a sense, but I actually have found several people worth talking to, and that really works for me.

Quality is the way to go, I think as we get older you just want someone you can be happy with. No time for moodiness and rubbish.

That is an approach that will serve you well here my good man.

If a lot of your emails are getting ignored (especially on a site like POF), look at what kind of emails you're sending out. Make sure you're actually paying attention to profiles and giving the other person something to respond to.

While there are some really awesome people here, the forums are super slow lately.

O'h, believe me when I say that I am a profile reader. I know some men don't, I do. I'm a talker and a writer. If you give me enough in your profile to elaborate on, I can elaborate. I don't write generic - copy & paste messages. If that person gives me enough to talk about, I can talk. I write to that person a note that pertains to her profile and how well I mix with what she likes. I have to see something in that person's profile before I can even start thinking about writing the person. That's why I don't write very many. Most I see no connection with. They don't put enough in their profiles to start with. Even those refuse to answer. While others may put enough but also refuse to answer.

I have found that at least on POF it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter how good your profile is or how well you write to the person. It's a 95% chance she will not answer. A lot of them come across like they are looking for something they will never find.

They come across like they are still waiting for prince charming to come down out of the clouds on his white horse and sweep them off their feet. While others that are either my age or close to it have no idea what they want. They have been married, Some more than once. Got kids. They know what life is and what it about. Or should. And still have no idea what they want.

I don't mean to be ugly. I'm just being honest and telling what I have seen from my perspective. In the time I have been there only three women that I dated impressed me. The other 20 or so, NO. They didn't impress me. That's why I finally decided to look around someplace else. I'm looking for better quality.

Honestly I am a Mum of 6, have been married 3 times and am not totally normal.
So really if I can find a wonderful bloke on here, I don;t see why anyone can't find someone
If you don;t find someone who suits you, thenyou will at least meet some great blokes and sheila's on here.

@ josie68

You're a good-looking woman. If a guy doesn't pay you any attention he's dead. (:o) I think the biggest problem with me, I'm in a small town in NW Georgia. There is nothing here really. We are pretty much a spot in the road.

One of the main things I've noticed about dating sites, Not since gas got so high. But the whole six years I have been doing this on-line dating thing. Women in general seem to want men right outside their back door. I'm about 60 miles from the biggest city in Ga. Atlanta. The second largest is Macon. It's 125 miles away. Cities that are not as big as the big two, But still considered big are even farther away.

Most women I come across don't want a man an hr or more away. It seems that seeing each other on the weekends is not enough for most. They want to be able to see their man during the week to. To me it almost comes off as wanting to be "smothering". Which, I guess it being I'm an Aries, I can't stand that. At least not in the start. Maybe down the road I would be OK with it. After we dated a couple of yrs maybe. I've had many to come on to strong to fast. It runs me off.

Gotta get ready. Gotta go to work.

There are always going to be people who don't answer. I think we've all come across that issue. There's not much you can do other than move onto the next person. It isn't site specific.

If you've dated 20+ women from there, it sounds like people were responding to you.

Let me break down the problem to ya.

You see, whenever I go on a "vacation" hehe, from Mingle,

everyone stops coming here.

Soooooo,

as soon as the news gets out, that im back,

this place will be jumpin and rockin!!

Hang in there baby,

it only gets better!

I am one of those women who prefer to date someone local. Around here, 60 miles away could mean up to 2 hours depending on traffic and the time of day. And yes, I want to be able to see him during the week at times, rather than just on weekends. Does it always work out that way? No. Why would seeing someone during the week, rather than just on the weekend, come off as smothering?

Heyyyyyyyy!

I met my dream guy on POF, (thank you Charles)

and both sites rock, for different reasons.

Lots of dating action, and emails, on Plenty of Fish,

and

Lots of dating action, and emails, on Mingle2,

PLUS the forums,(which give me more laughs, and fun, than anything else.)

And IMO, Mingle2, is the best thing invented, since sliced bread!!

Well. I, for one, am totally dead. Not a smidgen of life left in me bones.

I hear it's been going around.

Yoo, hoo, lovetootoo, my micro moo-moo, welcome back, I am so glad you'r back!!

Back to back, cheek to cheek, nose-to-nose!!

Who nose? Mebbey I come back from death, too, me cheeky cherub.

Nyah! Nyah! Nyah!

(How's this for a toe-tapping, face-friggin' how-do-you-do. And some say the site is dead!)

You can say that again, Charles. Josie, mm-mm-mm.

But she walks upside down. And she gets up when everybody goes to sleep, and she goes to sleep when everybody gets up.

And on top of that she has deathly dropping bears in her backyard, eating her shrubberies.

There are no berries left at all on her berri-bearing shrubberies due to the beri-beri bears' unbearably voracious appetite.

Perverts, yuk Ooops, sorry about that. Its my tourettes.

Grk! Women don't get tourette's syndrome.

You must be thinking of Pirouette's.

Damn!

You have been dead!

Ive BEEN back!

So when you were here, I was gone, and then you were dead, and then I came back, and you were gone, and then you got undead, and now HOPEFULLY we can meet up, and do the internet lunch thing! <---thats how we do it in LaLa L.A. land, ya know? And yeah, you can take the girl out of L.a., but you cant take the L.A. out of the girl. LIKE TOTALLY, TOTALLY, FOR SURE, LIKE OMG, NO WAYYYYYY!

<----*does the happy dance*

I didn't say they didn't respond at all. That 20 is over a 6 year span. Wait min, Mis-calculated. I joined POF in 2005. That makes it 7 yrs. Not 6. The great majority of women a man writes there will turn their nose up to you. In other words, Over that 7 yr span I would say I've written close to 500 women. Just to get that 20. And only three of those that I can think of impressed me. Also, It seems that most of the people there don't use the forums. In the 7 yrs I've been there I have never seen anyone local to me on the forums.

One more quirky thing. I don't know if this is everywhere or what. But like I said in another post. Women seem to want someone right out side there back door. To this day I have never gotten a woman to answer me that lives within 5 to 20 miles from me. It's a d.a.m.n if you do and d.a.m.n if you don't thing seems like. 50/60 miles is to far. 20 miles is to close. If your 5 miles away, You may as well forget it.

I know, Sounds weird. But its the truth. It's like some want you at arms distance. But that's to close. If you're not at arms distance,That's to far. It's ike with some there is no middle ground. They can't be pleased either way. On line dating is weird to me.