brilliance

a GOOD man who knows how and when to be 'nice' and how and when to be 'firm' (no jokes here,,,lol)

There is a lot between just starting someone down and avoiding eye contact.

You have yet to prove that your definition of "nice" is the same as that of women.

Funny ..but I have yet to have a NICE man break my heart.
But many pricks have.

I have a question:

If a man who breaks a woman's heart is called a prick, then what do you call a woman who breaks a man's heart?

Nope!!!! No nice guy here.
I'm a Baaaddddd Man........
But.........
I'm sooooooo goooood at it!!!!!!!

a prickette

As that famous human philosopher Mae West said, "When I'm good I'm very, very good, but when I'm bad, I'm better."

I love the prickettes!

Or was that the Rockettes... I always get them mixed up.

Anyway, I don't buy into the whole nice guy routine and those who obsess over it, this includes both women and men. If you are a nice guy, great, fantastic, swell! Now quit moaning about it and show her instead of fussing about it to anyone in earshot. If you are a good guy then most likely your actions will eventually show that... if not, then she is just not interested for whatever reason... or maybe you are just too busy complaining and you missed your chance.

Half the guys I know who complain about women not liking nice guys would not talk to a woman if they were the only two people on a life-raft in the middle of the ocean. Because of that, in my opinion it is less about "women being only interested in bad boys" and more about personal insecurity.

You are too young to be so cynical...."WOMEN" do want to love and be loved by nice guys....Keep in mind, nice is just one aspect of the whole and does not guarantee a healthy, happy, permanent relationship....

Just an observation.....

I came to this thread and read it...a new guy making a statement of the obvious....

He got swarmed. It was like a pirhana feeding frendzie....everyone taking a bite.

Bear in mind that this is a cool place and every new person comes here with no real idea. We all did.


I got nothing against any of you cats and dolls.

I would be suprized if the dude comes back.

That ain't what Mingle is about.

I married a nice guy and he is wonderful

Josie AnacondaArms

I have a question:

If a man who breaks a woman's heart is called a prick, then what do you call a woman who breaks a man's heart?
A GODESS lol ^5

Yea! Yippie Skippie!!! Whooo Raaa!!

I really applaude your statement. It hurts my heart every time a new wonderful member of Mingle get slambasted when they post something that has been posted before. "They are new!" How hard is it to give them a break and actually help them by just answering their question or statement politely.

Grandma and Thumper said it best, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

I am going to start a new catch phrase, Stop Over Thinking Every Word!

Now, as to the OP, There is nothing wrong with being nice. Do not let anyone change who you are. I think the advice others are trying to share with you is to not let your niceness be a door mat for folks that will use you and hurt you. Eventually it is just a matter of meeting the right person for you.

While I think this is a good idea, I'd applaud your post more if you always followed your own advice.

NICE has ALWAYS worked for me! nice means respect in my books

The moment I've lost respect... I become an instant A-Hole.

Govern yourselves accordingly

I'm voting this best male response so far..... IMO of course...

just go wit tha flow