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Topic: Independence and Relationships
48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 06:17 AM
I would like to know if you all agree,that if your in a relationship with someone that they would be ok with your partner taking off whenever to work for(guy/girl?) and spending the night there or to hang out with friends and party for 4 days and exped you to be ok with it and thought it was ok to not call you or have a way for you to contact them,would you be ok with that?.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45399	Tue 04/17/12 06:22 AM
Work usually sets the schedule. The only bothersome part for me would be if I were not told of the event ahead of time and the other person was out of contact.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/17/12 06:27 AM
While I'm fine with independence and wanting to spend time with friends, I would be wary of someone who runs off often without saying anything about where he's going to be and also being out of contact. If we're in a relationship, there's a level of trust there. That includes keeping each other updates about what's going on in our lives.

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 06:41 AM
So what you are saying you would be ok with your boyfriend/girlfriend cleaning and spending the night at a guys/girls house for 2 weeks or at an outdoor event at someones place in the boonies doing drugs,drinking and who knows what else and not answering your calls or calling you?.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/17/12 07:02 AM
So what you are saying you would be ok with your boyfriend/girlfriend cleaning and spending the night at a guys/girls house for 2 weeks or at an outdoor event at someones place in the boonies doing drugs,drinking and who knows what else and not answering your calls or calling you?. I can't speak for others, but no, that's not what I said. For one, why would he need to spend the night at someone's house to clean it? And why would he need to be gone for days doing "who knows what?" Communication is important.

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 07:13 AM
She sasen't out of contact she just woulden't call or return calls

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 07:17 AM
Communication is important,but I guess not to my now ex,who blamed me because I wanted communication and she diden't think it was important 5 months into the relationship

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Tue 04/17/12 07:18 AM
Dump her..You deserve better

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 07:18 AM
And get this I met her here and she is a supposidly a Shaman

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 07:19 AM
She dumped me with no remorse.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/17/12 07:21 AM
Communication is important,but I guess not to my now ex,who blamed me because I wanted communication and she diden't think it was important 5 months into the relationship Sounds like you're better off without her.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Tue 04/17/12 07:22 AM
And get this I met her here and she is a supposidly a Shaman Meeting her here...does not really justify her actions..I have dated 3 off here..one lasted for over a year.till his wife knocked on my door. You have to be very careful of scammers.Anywhere. I still say you deserve better..but thats JMO.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Tue 04/17/12 07:23 AM Edited by 2KidsMom on Tue 04/17/12 07:24 AM
She dumped me with no remorse. Good!!! Best thing that could have happened..when one door closes,another opens. Your handsome..Move on

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 07:27 AM
I believe that but I keep getting these women that really have no idea what a serious relationship is supposed to be or they think it should be a free enterprise where you can do whatever you want in it and that would be ok with each partner

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 07:28 AM
I get that a lot thank you,but that usually gets me not the nice ones lol

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 07:30 AM
So I am told I am better off without her just wist we diden't pick out my new truck together before she split

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45399	Tue 04/17/12 08:01 AM
..I have dated 3 off here..one lasted for over a year.till his wife knocked on mydoor. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 You make everything more exciting :-)

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Tue 04/17/12 08:05 AM Edited by 2KidsMom on Tue 04/17/12 08:19 AM
..I have dated 3 off here..one lasted for over a year.till his wife knocked on mydoor. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 You make everything more exciting :-) right..handled it well...that evening..he was just about go to the store for Milk for my little one and more beer..when his wife left...he looked like shi!tz..saying..what do you want me to do?....rolled eyesI said go to the damn store!.. We called it quits a short time after that.

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Tue 04/17/12 08:59 AM
Dump her..You deserve better

48andstilllooking Joined Mon 10/15/07 Posts: 22	Tue 04/17/12 09:00 AM
Wow that sucks to have happen to you.