With the economy in the sh**ter, we all know times are hard in this day & age. That being said, there are quite a few people with the skills, knowledge and experience, having to struggle with a line of work that they may not have planned on doing (with people being laid off, hiring freezes, etc...).

I mean, I have a full time job & I always pay my bills on time, and am able to get by (not very comfortably, basically paycheck to paycheck). But still able to do a few luxurious things as I see fit.

What I wanna know is how many of you hold this in high regards over say...love, companionship, & happiness?

Right now, a job is a job. I work to live, not the other way around. I'm able to support myself and expect someone I'm dating to be able to support themselves. Other than that? I don't worry much about what someone's job is.

Of course, one needs to be able to pay their bills, but I don't put a high paying career as a pre-requisite to a relationship. I'd rather live in a tent with the one who treats me like a queen, than in a mansion with the one who treats me like I'm nothing.

Well a job maybe, but no relationship should be that way! Just my honest opinion!

Golddiggers

Really? I hope you're being sarcastic.

Who are you talking about?

It's important to me that I have a career and a job that will allow me to support myself, my wife, and our kids, how ever many we decide to have. I'm working on all of that. I already found the love of my life, and now I'm working on getting the other pieces to fall into place.

It's important that she have a great job....in case I need taking care of in my old age....



Did I say that out loud???????????



Really tho......

I don't care what she does as long as it pays her bills and isn't in the smut industry.

“What matters is where you want to go rather than where you are right now. Your starting place is just that, where you start. Nothing more and nothing less.”―Alissa Finerman

I don't generally care what a gentleman does for his living; as I support myself, but I just wish more people would take a chill pill when asked what it is they do for a living. After all if you do something forty plus hours a week it stand to reason it is a big part of your life and lifestyle . And to at least some small degree the lifestyle of anyone who has a relationship with you. If you want a smooth relationship and support for what you do it only makes sense to me to tell the person you want to date something about the kind or work you do. I am not talking about corporate secrets but if you want more than marginal acceptance than put some cards on the table.

I could care less what he does for money....most of us are just playing the game cause we have to.

I'd rather live in a van down by the river with the right guy than in a big fancy house with bling, with an *******. Been there, done that.

My needs are simple...

The fact is, she didn't require that all the other pieces be in place before she entered into a relationship with you. That's what I'm saying. It's always good that your NEEDS are met, and as long as the two people make each other happy, that's all that matters.

Work doesn't always define who you are. For some, it's just work. When the 8 hour work day is up, we forget about it until the next day. When someone asks me what I do, I'll tell them, but I have no desire to get into a big discussion about it, as it's just work.

I kinda disagree with making each other is all that matters. It depends on what you want out of life and the relationship though. If kids are involved, it's a different story as well.

Some people are perfectly happy in an unhealthy relationship. Some couples can be happy and have kids, yet not properly care for their kids. Sometimes there's more to it than just being happy.

That's why I said, "NEEDS" being met.

Exactly!!! Your job is what you do, it is NOT who you are. Or it shouldn't be anyway.

I've come across quite a few couples in the RECENT years, that their marriage had ended after 20+ years, because they spent most of their married life trying to work to give their kids everything, then when the kids are grown, (and most of them ungrateful for the sacrifices their parents made for them) the marriage ends because their focus wasn't on keeping their marriage alive, they were focused on the material things to give to their kids. They had lost the connection with each other.

This is actually an issue in regards to me moving to the coast to be with my Mingle B!tch of Love.

I will only go when I know I can contribute to the relationship. I won't let anyone pull my weight....I will not be with my woman until I can honestly contibute.....there is no way that I would show up and take a free ride. I know, that a lot of people do it on faith....it rarely works.

Honestly, I would dig ditches and shovel schitt if it gets me a day closer to my woman.

But...talk is cheap......when you hear me talking about how much I love my woman in 5-20 years....you will know I am serious.

But...all that aside....I work everyday to get myself one day closer to being with my lover.

right now, companionship has to do with productivity and contribution, I need someone that can be giving to the family unit and not just taking,,,so its pretty on par with love and happiness for me