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Topic: Lying
TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Thu 04/05/12 02:01 PM
I believe that honesty is the sole foundation & most important (along with trust & respect) for ANY relationship. So...no. Lying is never excusable with me. For me, it does depend on the nature of the relationship..at a time when I wasn't lookiing for something more substantial from a relationship, I didn't tend to get too emotionally involved so unless it involved something I was morally opposed to, I wasn't really that fussed. OK, all is good. If a person has no more respect for me than to lie to me, no matter how serious the relationship, that person won't be around. For me (and I'm not making any judgements..), it's about accepting people warts and all as they have to do with me. As I said, I don't accept lying about things that I am morally opposed to but I can live with some lies. I'm sorry, I wasn't judging you or anyone. I was just making a statement about my boundaries. No need for apologies Tammy. I didn't think you were making judgements...I guess I've just gotten into the habit of typing that just in case 'people' think I am making personalised comments.

JOHNN111 Joined Wed 05/13/09 Posts: 9273	Thu 04/05/12 02:08 PM
My reality is many women I've been with, could somehow find entertainment in trying to catch me in a lie... Must have been "entertainment" because the drilling was daily and about everything. As a youngster, My parents did that so my first reaction is to stay silent... some people work themselves into a tizzy if they don't get a response, or one that doesn't ease their concerns(this I've learned the hard way).... so now I sometimes work in a alien abduction story... don't judge me I'm a private person so the VERY inquisitive types don't jive with my personality. Not that I have anything to hide, I don't, I just hate getting drilled. Some, take others for fools and continue this way their whole lives Chronic liars suck!

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Thu 04/05/12 02:11 PM
Can/Do you accept lying? And if so, where do you draw the line? Are "little white lies" ok? No, no No, "little white lies" are not OK. Painting black stripes on a white horse doesn't make it a zebra.

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Thu 04/05/12 02:12 PM
My reality is many women I've been with, could somehow find entertainment in trying to catch me in a lie... Must have been "entertainment" because the drilling was daily and about everything. As a youngster, My parents did that so my first reaction is to stay silent... some people work themselves into a tizzy if they don't get a response, or one that doesn't ease their concerns(this I've learned the hard way).... so now I sometimes work in a alien abduction story... don't judge me I'm a private person so the VERY inquisitive types don't jive with my personality. Not that I have anything to hide, I don't, I just hate getting drilled. Some, take others for fools and continue this way their whole lives Chronic liars suck! Some people have an inability to trust, therefore believe that everyone is lying to them.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 04/05/12 02:27 PM
I will not lie or rather try not to lie even if it means being brutally honest. An example of it is a girl once asked me "Do I look fat in these jeans?" and I replied "It's not the jeans,but your big fat @ss." she hates me now. You can be honest without being an @ss. I don't put up with liars, but I will try to be honest tactfully.

ShannonMarie21 Joined Thu 02/17/11 Posts: 1169	Fri 04/06/12 09:54 AM
I can't handle lying. There's no need to with me. I'm the most laid back, understanding, FORGIVING person ever...until you lie to me. If you tell me the truth about something i don't like, I may get mopey but I get over it wicked quick and will forgive you since you were honest. But the lying p:sses me off to no end. Lying is where you lose my friendship, bc there was no reason to do it in the first place.

JERMANICUS Joined Sat 01/28/12 Posts: 597	Fri 04/06/12 09:59 AM
an Alien Abductuion Story.. That's great! I always say I robbed a liquor store!

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Fri 04/06/12 10:00 AM
Can/Do you accept lying? And if so, where do you draw the line? Are "little white lies" ok? I never tell lies..... An Australian friend said to me If one tell lies they have to have a very good memory' I have a very good memory for those that tell lies

JERMANICUS Joined Sat 01/28/12 Posts: 597	Fri 04/06/12 10:02 AM
Can/Do you accept lying? And if so, where do you draw the line? Are "little white lies" ok? I never tell lies..... An Australian friend said to me If one tell lies they have to have a very good memory' I have a very good memory for those that tell lies To say you never lie is a lie!

Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173	Fri 04/06/12 10:04 AM
Can/Do you accept lying? And if so, where do you draw the line? Are "little white lies" ok? I never tell lies..... An Australian friend said to me If one tell lies they have to have a very good memory' I have a very good memory for those that tell lies To say you never lie is a lie! I don't believe you

boonedoggy61 Joined Fri 09/09/11 Posts: 10425	Fri 04/06/12 11:12 AM
Can/Do you accept lying? And if so, where do you draw the line? Are "little white lies" ok? I never tell lies..... An Australian friend said to me If one tell lies they have to have a very good memory' I have a very good memory for those that tell lies To say you never lie is a lie! Here............. here.............

josie68 Joined Mon 11/22/10 Posts: 6270	Sun 04/08/12 03:16 AM
I hate lying, but at the same time I will tell a to save hurting someones feelings. But I won;t lie to protect someone who is doing something wrong, even my own children. It's not really something that you can gauge it just do what you think is right. But there is a fine line. If my hubby lied about where he was or who he was with, that to me is a huge lie and would be the end of a relationship.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Sun 04/08/12 08:32 AM
I never lie. Well, besides right now.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Sun 04/08/12 08:36 AM
I never lie. Well, besides right now.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sun 04/08/12 08:37 AM
a lie is a lie. leading to another lie, yet another and sooo on ...... gets hard to keep up with. Truth takes a minute to tell, and it is done. Sparing someone's feelings can be done without lying. It just requires tact. Lying only accomplishes..... everyone knowing you as a liar!!!

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Sun 04/08/12 08:40 AM Edited by Torgo70 on Sun 04/08/12 08:40 AM
Ok...I've been lying this whole time and I need to come clean- I like Twilight, no that's a lie...I LOVE Twilight, I eat sleep drink Twilight. I feel like a great weight has been lifted.

BettyB Joined Tue 01/29/08 Posts: 31912	Sun 04/08/12 08:41 AM
Lying is for wimps, afraid of the backlash from speaking the truth .

ShannonMarie21 Joined Thu 02/17/11 Posts: 1169	Sun 04/08/12 08:45 AM
Ok...I've been lying this whole time and I need to come clean- I like Twilight, no that's a lie...I LOVE Twilight, I eat sleep drink Twilight. I feel like a great weight has been lifted. I effin KNEW I saw you wearing a Team Jacob t-shirt! And that "I Brake For Cullens" sticker on your car was NOT fooling anyone!! You're the Twihard of all Twihards. Don't be ashamed of that. Now slap some glitter on and go show your love to the world!!

ShannonMarie21 Joined Thu 02/17/11 Posts: 1169	Sun 04/08/12 08:46 AM
Lying is for wimps, afraid of the backlash from speaking the truth .

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Sun 04/08/12 08:48 AM
Ok...I've been lying this whole time and I need to come clean- I like Twilight, no that's a lie...I LOVE Twilight, I eat sleep drink Twilight. I feel like a great weight has been lifted. I effin KNEW I saw you wearing a Team Jacob t-shirt! And that "I Brake For Cullens" sticker on your car was NOT fooling anyone!! You're the Twihard of all Twihards. Don't be ashamed of that. Now slap some glitter on and go show your love to the world!! Harsh! I like it. Or do I?