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Topic: Guys point of view : dating a mother
_ambtiousgirl_ Joined Sun 04/01/12 Posts: 1	Sun 04/01/12 10:26 PM
I just want some honest answers/ opinions. what runs through your head when meeting girl you like that has a child from a previous relationship. Is it an automatic "red flag" in your eyes? What if the "father" is not in the picture? Or even the same country? Does that matter or is it just the fact she has a kid?

MarquisDucky Joined Fri 07/15/11 Posts: 3	Sun 04/01/12 10:52 PM
Having a child does not set up a "red flag". I will say from experience, those who have new born children have slim to null time to date or spend with a significant other without the child. It has made romance very difficult(as one could assume). Don't know if that answers your question. Enjoy.

DavidisGoofy Joined Wed 04/25/12 Posts: 1	Wed 04/25/12 11:09 AM
Far from a red flag. I am a single father and I feel it is the same for men that have children as well.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Wed 04/25/12 01:39 PM
It makes no difference whatsoever to me. I think I would prefer it but at my age it isn't likely.

khiwarrior Joined Sun 04/01/12 Posts: 434	Wed 04/25/12 05:07 PM
its more about va connection with the person u meet...so not a red flag imo...but it depends on the guy

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Wed 04/25/12 05:27 PM
It makes no difference whatsoever to me. I think I would prefer it but at my age it isn't likely. Dont sell yourself short. Plenty of younger gals looking for older guys.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Wed 04/25/12 05:36 PM
I have raised my children and it was such a wonderful time in my life. I love kids, they are sooo much fun, do and say the funniest things. and they can be brutally....honest. I would never red flag a woman with kids. Fathers location and status is not an issue as long as he is good to his kids!!! JMO

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Wed 04/25/12 07:49 PM
It makes no difference whatsoever to me. I think I would prefer it but at my age it isn't likely. Dont sell yourself short. Plenty of younger gals looking for older guys. Well if that is what happens to me, that is what happens. I'm just floating on the river right now.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Wed 04/25/12 08:04 PM
I just want some honest answers/ opinions. what runs through your head when meeting girl you like that has a child from a previous relationship. Is it an automatic "red flag" in your eyes? What if the "father" is not in the picture? Or even the same country? Does that matter or is it just the fact she has a kid? Not at all. I've dated single mothers in the past, no regrets. It makes no difference to me. I'm pretty much raising my nephew anyway.

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Thu 04/26/12 12:33 PM
Not a red flag at all , I got kids so I prefer that she would as well

HTXMan Joined Fri 12/16/11 Posts: 12	Thu 04/26/12 01:14 PM
Makes no difference as long as you remember the potential that the kids canbe hurt too if it doesn't work out

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Thu 04/26/12 04:17 PM
As a single parent I prefer not to date.....no one will hurt my children.....I hang out with friends and do the bike ride, kayaking, beach thing....

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Thu 04/26/12 06:04 PM
As a single parent I prefer not to date.....no one will hurt my children.....I hang out with friends and do the bike ride, kayaking, beach thing.... That's what I did when raising my kids. The downside is when they leave the nest you get lonely.

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Thu 04/26/12 06:12 PM
As a single parent I prefer not to date.....no one will hurt my children.....I hang out with friends and do the bike ride, kayaking, beach thing.... That's what I did when raising my kids. The downside is when they leave the nest you get lonely. Well I can only hope mine capable of leaving the nest....because I am kayaking somewhere.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Thu 04/26/12 08:15 PM
As a single parent I prefer not to date.....no one will hurt my children.....I hang out with friends and do the bike ride, kayaking, beach thing.... That's what I did when raising my kids. The downside is when they leave the nest you get lonely. Well I can only hope mine capable of leaving the nest....because I am kayaking somewhere. If I was dating a mother I wouldn't want to meet her kids until/unless we got serious.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Thu 04/26/12 08:59 PM
To me, it means that the woman knows her way around the business end of a penis. I don't care if a woman has spawned out a few sex trophies.....roaches and fleas breed. A good women is special...but, most of them ain't.

Kaleijoscope Joined Fri 10/15/10 Posts: 3319	Fri 04/27/12 02:35 AM
As a single parent I prefer not to date.....no one will hurt my children.....I hang out with friends and do the bike ride, kayaking, beach thing.... That's what I did when raising my kids. The downside is when they leave the nest you get lonely. VERY TRUE.THAT'S EXACTLY WHATP HAPPENED TO ME,I'VE RAISED 3 KIDS ON MY OWN,20,16,13..NOW THEY ARE THEIR OWN PERSON,I'M ALONE MOST OF THE TIME,BACK TO SQUARE ONE,BUT I DONT FRET,MINGLE2 COMMUNITY KEEPS ME SATE..

RainbowTrout Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13869	Fri 04/27/12 03:12 PM
Just the fact that she has a kid is a major discovery. More than one kid would be more major discoveries. I think the same would hold for grandparents or anyone else with kids as well.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Fri 04/27/12 05:30 PM
Being a step-parent is the hardest job in the world, I would approach that very carefully. It's better when both bio parents are in the picture, it takes the pressure off and allows you to just be the cool "uncle" who sleeps in mom's bed.

watch_me86 Joined Tue 04/10/12 Posts: 1	Fri 04/27/12 09:44 PM
It is not and could not be a straight red flag but it could be if the mother only want to date and marry me because she desperately need a father for her child