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Topic: Can you be Intimate with Someone with No "Strings" Attached
niyiduke01 Joined Tue 12/13/11 Posts: 5	Sat 03/31/12 02:55 AM
Someone people believed that if there is urge or feelings to be intimate with opposite sex,you just find somebody with the same urge and satisfy each other,after that go your different ways,no monetary gains and emotional feelings like love. Can you do that?

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 03/31/12 02:57 AM
nope, my heart is attached to the rest of me,, I Cant know or control what it will do, and I wouldnt put it at that risk,,,

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45349	Sat 03/31/12 03:19 AM
Someone people believed that if there is urge or feelings to be intimate with opposite sex,you just find somebody with the same urge and satisfy each other,after that go your different ways,no monetary gains and emotional feelings like love. Can you do that? Sheep-herders don't have this problem.

Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Sat 03/31/12 04:06 AM
Someone people believed that if there is urge or feelings to be intimate with opposite sex,you just find somebody with the same urge and satisfy each other,after that go your different ways,no monetary gains and emotional feelings like love. Can you do that? People can think themselves into all sorts of things! Whether the action backfires on them later on remains to be seen!

XeroCross24 Joined Mon 04/27/09 Posts: 17	Sat 03/31/12 06:45 AM
It would only work with a prostitute >_< cause then it's all business. I belive that sex is the final step into letting your guard down completely and taking your partner into your heart and soul, that shouldn't be taken lightly.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sat 03/31/12 06:56 AM
There is a difference between .....sex and Intimacy. Can I have sex without strings....probably. Do I want to is another question. Can I be intimate without strings????? Depends on what you call strings. If strings are emotional attatchment.... then NO I cannot. Being intimate to me means a bond of emotion has already joined us in some way. Intimacy is just the next progression in solidifing that bond.

Chazster Joined Tue 08/28/07 Posts: 6206	Sat 03/31/12 08:56 AM
Yes if that is the idea from the beginning and thats pretty much all we do. When I was single in Japan I had a filipina cougar who I saw on a regular basis. It was a fun no strings thing.

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Sat 03/31/12 09:30 AM
Just depends on the person. I don't have a shut off valve so that would not work for me. Heck..I can't kiss someone if I do not feel it.

Godiva Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 5330	Sat 03/31/12 03:05 PM
Yes. If by intimate you define that as purely sex. People do it all the time. I am not one of those people though.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 03/31/12 03:50 PM
Intimacy is so much more than sex. But, I assume you are talking about sex. No, I could not.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 03/31/12 03:53 PM
Sometimes sex is just sex. And it's fun.

ShannonMarie21 Joined Thu 02/17/11 Posts: 1169	Sat 03/31/12 04:40 PM
I don't normally, but I shock the crap out of myself with the stuff I do all the time, so who knows!!

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Sat 03/31/12 06:02 PM
I don't normally, but I shock the crap out of myself with the stuff I do all the time, so who knows!! yea tell me about it i got charged a pretty penny

machug Joined Sun 09/04/11 Posts: 6601	Mon 04/02/12 01:12 AM
I seriously doubt it.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Mon 04/02/12 04:44 AM
If I like them I can. Of course, if it occurs often I will develop feelings.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 04/02/12 04:45 AM
I think I might be able to help you all with this one. You see, I use to use string but after a few of my dates got away I now use rope.

SanneHan Joined Thu 03/01/12 Posts: 356	Mon 04/02/12 05:35 AM
"Being intimate" and "having casual sex" are two different pairs of shoes for me... "Being itimate" for me is "knowing each other deeply" - and that has A LOT of strings attached. Somebody once used to say to me "We need to fu.. a lot - and we need to make love a lot". I liked this statement (apart from the activities it meant) a lot, because it made a difference that I can also feel... "Having sex" is what you probably meant - it's about MY fun, and if my partner has fun, too, that's fine, because it intensifies my fun, but the ultimate aim is MY fun (Well, for me, for him/her it's probably the other way around - that's okay for me). "Making love" is about showing my partner with he means of my body that I love him/her - my aim is HIS/HER pleasure, the wish to give a gift. If I have pleasure at that moment, too, it's because I feel the pleasure I give, and how it is accepted, but it is not MY aim... So, to answer your question: yes, I can have sex with someone, say "Thank you" and walk away... but I can not make love to someone that way!

LookinRound Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 7894	Mon 04/02/12 06:10 AM
No

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Mon 04/02/12 06:20 AM Edited by Leigh2154 on Mon 04/02/12 06:22 AM
Someone people believed that if there is urge or feelings to be intimate with opposite sex,you just find somebody with the same urge and satisfy each other,after that go your different ways,no monetary gains and emotional feelings like love. Can you do that? People can think themselves into all sorts of things! Whether the action backfires on them later on remains to be seen! Exactly Conrad!... Yes, it is not only possible to be intimate with "no strings" attached, it can (and does) happen without one or both people realizing it is casual.... Just because intimacy looks and sounds committed, without specific elements like progression, continuity and balance, mutual trust and respect, and EVENTUAL love, it is not necessarily a serious relationship...

indianadave4 Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 1308	Wed 04/04/12 06:27 PM
A Friend With Benefits (to me) is a bit different than a one night stance, or a no connection event. A true fwb is a friend to start off with. Sex buddies, NSA and the such to me is uninteresting.I was some sort of connection. Maybe not marriage but some sort og connection.