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Topic: CHEATING
Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Fri 03/30/12 10:04 PM
How many times does your lady/man have to cheat on you before you call it quit. Is there room for forgiveance after the first one? Once, yes it's forgivable, but that doesn't mean the relationship will still exist. Once there is unfaithfulness, the bond is broken, and the relationship dissolves.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Fri 03/30/12 11:18 PM
Cheat? Delete.

Unknow Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 241	Fri 03/30/12 11:26 PM
Most people would forgive other forms of cheating, but sexually infidelity is simply outta the question.

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Sun 04/01/12 08:18 AM
I can forgive depending upon the circumstances, our history, and what I know about their character and upbringing. AS unpopular a view as it is , I really do think people can sometimes MESS up bigtime. I think its the exception more than the rule, but I have no steadfast rule to never forgive. I would never not forgive, I just wouldn't be able to ever trust again. For me trust is the main part of any relationship, if you trust everything runs smootly and is not a hassel, but once that was lost, I wouldn't have a relationship. Totally agree. If you truly love your significant other, how could you cheat? And if you could cheat, you have a skewed perception of love.

Ghostrider2u Joined Thu 05/17/07 Posts: 6953	Sun 04/01/12 08:20 AM
No 3 strikes here........ 1 and done. Forgiveness has little to do with acceptance. Infidelity is UNACCEPTABLE...can be forgiven but the dance is..... OVER!!!!!

TexasScoundrel Joined Wed 10/29/08 Posts: 3693	Wed 04/04/12 06:07 AM
It depends. Usually after the first time I kick her to the curb. However, there could be other issues. Children for example. I wouldn't leave a woman I had a child with unless she'd become a promiscuous trollip. The first time, I'd forgive her. The second time, I may take her back, but I'd have some hoops for her to jump through. In other words, I'd punish her. But, the third time, She gone.

CoolWater38 Joined Wed 03/21/12 Posts: 1	Wed 04/04/12 07:52 AM
Who wants to be with a cheater?Thats like inviting satan in your house.1 time is all it takes for me,because the relationship will never be the same.You can forgive,but its hard to forget something of that nature.Take the time out to learn that person.

newg78 Joined Thu 03/01/07 Posts: 3672	Wed 04/04/12 06:52 PM
Chit cheat! Hate it!

Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541	Wed 04/04/12 07:01 PM
I believe anyone can be forgiven & given a second chance. However...once that trust is broken, it's almost impossible to get it back. And no trust = insecurity & jealousy, which is just a broken relationship waiting to happen.

Jhavez Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 15557	Sun 04/08/12 10:43 PM
Strike One...... You are out!!!!!

BadBoyD1985 Joined Wed 04/11/12 Posts: 22	Wed 04/11/12 06:27 AM
it's only cheating if you get caught LOL :) nah but seriously .. if everything is satisfying in a relationship meaning .. both on a mental and sexual level, then I see no need to cheat.

romee Joined Tue 08/15/06 Posts: 14265	Fri 04/13/12 07:50 PM
Cheat? Bye bye!

oldboater Joined Thu 01/12/12 Posts: 3	Tue 04/17/12 02:40 AM
If ones wife will not have sex with one for the past say 6 years and a chance for very discrete sex with another becomes available. I really want to. I love my wife dearly but it is a marriage without sex. I am not sure how to decide. CAn anyone help. I am so so tempted and feel so so much in need.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/17/12 05:29 AM
it's only cheating if you get caught LOL :) nah but seriously .. if everything is satisfying in a relationship meaning .. both on a mental and sexual level, then I see no need to cheat. Do you see a need to cheat if something is not going as well as you'd like?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 04/17/12 05:29 AM
If ones wife will not have sex with one for the past say 6 years and a chance for very discrete sex with another becomes available. I really want to. I love my wife dearly but it is a marriage without sex. I am not sure how to decide. CAn anyone help. I am so so tempted and feel so so much in need. Sounds like you've got some issues to work on in your marriage. If there are already problems, do you think cheating is actually going to help?

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Tue 04/17/12 05:31 AM
Here is what I love about this subject. The majority here have stated "one and done", and I believe that all who have said it do actually mean it. And I am sure that 99% of the Earth's popualtion says this. However, how many times have you heard a friend say, "I know he/she cheated, but I believe they made a mistake and I love him/her and want this to work"? Oh man, I know I have heard it tons of times. Fact is, when faced with this situation in real life, you might not always stick to your guns and say goodbye when you find out that your lover cheated on you. Sometimes, people don't want to be alone, and they feel that if they leave someone (who cheated) that they will never find someone else. Sometimes people invest so much into someone that they just can't walk away that easily. There are so many reasons given as to why people stay with cheaters.

oldboater Joined Thu 01/12/12 Posts: 3	Tue 04/17/12 07:55 AM
We have both tried to resolve this but to no avail.

oldboater Joined Thu 01/12/12 Posts: 3	Tue 04/17/12 07:55 AM
We have both tried to resolve this but to no avail.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Tue 04/17/12 07:58 AM
Here is what I love about this subject. The majority here have stated "one and done", and I believe that all who have said it do actually mean it. And I am sure that 99% of the Earth's popualtion says this. However, how many times have you heard a friend say, "I know he/she cheated, but I believe they made a mistake and I love him/her and want this to work"? Oh man, I know I have heard it tons of times. Fact is, when faced with this situation in real life, you might not always stick to your guns and say goodbye when you find out that your lover cheated on you. Sometimes, people don't want to be alone, and they feel that if they leave someone (who cheated) that they will never find someone else. Sometimes people invest so much into someone that they just can't walk away that easily. There are so many reasons given as to why people stay with cheaters. This.

boonedoggy61 Joined Fri 09/09/11 Posts: 10425	Tue 04/17/12 09:10 AM
Here is what I love about this subject. The majority here have stated "one and done", and I believe that all who have said it do actually mean it. And I am sure that 99% of the Earth's popualtion says this. However, how many times have you heard a friend say, "I know he/she cheated, but I believe they made a mistake and I love him/her and want this to work"? Oh man, I know I have heard it tons of times. Fact is, when faced with this situation in real life, you might not always stick to your guns and say goodbye when you find out that your lover cheated on you. Sometimes, people don't want to be alone, and they feel that if they leave someone (who cheated) that they will never find someone else. Sometimes people invest so much into someone that they just can't walk away that easily. There are so many reasons given as to why people stay with cheaters. This. Boy!!!!! i am not sure I should say anything here.......... My last marriage that ended in 99 was like this!!!!!! now I am not a good looking man by a long shot , And I know this. I married my ex in 88....I was so in love with this woman...She could do no wrong in my eyes! I caught her cheating after about four years into our marriage We fought about it and she left me for about six months....I was so miserable, I turned to drinking,fighting in bars,and I cut myself off from everyone..... She came back and I tried to work thru it like it never happened......Again I must stress I was so in love with this woman nothing else mattered!!!!!!! This happened several more times over the course of our marriage until toward the last part of our marriage, I came home from a trip to bike week in Daytona Beach! We rolled into town and stopped at the bar we hung out at. we were drinking and shooting the **** and One of the guys that I rode with came in while we were there and thru the course of our conversation dropped the ball and told me my wife and one of my best friends was having an affair while I was gone.......... this was all I could take......... She was the lead singer in my friends band, His name was Gary...I hunted Gary down and found him in another bar we haunted....I walked in and walked up to him, My other friend Jimmy was right behind me, Gary put out his hand like he wanted to shake hands....I slapped his hand away................and looked him straight in the eyes and asked him what kind of friend screws his best fiends wife!!!!! I pulled out my 9MM and placed it to his head and cocked it, I said you are about to meet your maker....Ya got anything to say????? All the time my friend Jimmy was behind me saying Boone they are not worth it Brother..........let it go....please!!!! Something in Jimmy's voice brought me back to realize he was trying to keep me from making a real bad mistake!!!!!! I pulled back my gun and ejected the shell into my hand and placed it on the bar in front of Gary...... I whispered in his ear ...You better keep this as your luck rabbits foot my friend because Jimmy just saved your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I walked out of there and went home..... I gathered all my belongings while my wife was asking why I was doing this..............I rode off and never looked back!!!!!!!!