Topic: Self esteem & decision making
Cheer_up's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:18 AM


Low Self Esteem Signs

Low self esteem signs are not always easy to recognize. This is probably due to the fact that low self esteem is so subtle and so deeply impregnated in our subconscious, that the connection between our self worth and our behavior can be hard to evaluate.

Our behavior and actions are always in accordance with our self beliefs or self image

Therefore, looking at how we act and express ourselves can give us a pretty good idea of where our self esteem stand.

So let's look at some behavior patterns that could be translate as symptoms of low self esteem.

* Always doubting yourself and a can't do attitude.
People with low self esteem have trouble to make decisions, they fear changes, challenges and the unknown because they have little faith in themselves.
*

Cannot handle criticisms, overreacting and taking it personally.
"It is a well-known psychological fact that the people who become offended the easiest, have the lowest self-esteem." ~ Dr Maxwell Maltz
*

Being suspicious and jealous in your relationships.
If you don't believe you are worth to be with, you will end up doubting others and their intentions
*

Can't take a compliment or a praise.
You are so used to diminish yourself that you will brush away a praise by thinking something like "I got lucky", "they don't know I'm a fake" or "he just loves me" but rarely "thank you for the compliment, I actually feel good about myself"
*

Being dependant of others and not taking your responsibilities.
You expect others to look after you and your businesses.
*

Lack of assertiveness.
Being assertive means speaking up for yourself, giving your opinion and your view simply and effectively. When plagued with low self esteem, you will rather mumble and whine to yourself than risk a confrontation.
*

Shyness
*

Feeling like a failure or inferior in comparison of others.
*

Never happy with your look.
*

Feeling depressed and/or anxious especially,
o when changes and/or challenges arise.
o after failing
o after being criticised

These are a few low self esteem signs, there are more to add to this list but you can start to get a good idea of the importance of your self image in your life although these symptoms cannot be attributed exclusively to low self esteem as there are so many factors that can cause jealousy or depression for example. so self esteem plays a huge part of life and decisions:) :banana: waving :thumbsup:


He got it from a book ;)
no i already knew a lot of this but this was off the net see years ago i was going to be a psychologist and changed my mind and owned my own business instead:)flowerforyou

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:18 AM



Low Self Esteem Signs

Low self esteem signs are not always easy to recognize. This is probably due to the fact that low self esteem is so subtle and so deeply impregnated in our subconscious, that the connection between our self worth and our behavior can be hard to evaluate.

Our behavior and actions are always in accordance with our self beliefs or self image

Therefore, looking at how we act and express ourselves can give us a pretty good idea of where our self esteem stand.

So let's look at some behavior patterns that could be translate as symptoms of low self esteem.

* Always doubting yourself and a can't do attitude.
People with low self esteem have trouble to make decisions, they fear changes, challenges and the unknown because they have little faith in themselves.
*

Cannot handle criticisms, overreacting and taking it personally.
"It is a well-known psychological fact that the people who become offended the easiest, have the lowest self-esteem." ~ Dr Maxwell Maltz
*

Being suspicious and jealous in your relationships.
If you don't believe you are worth to be with, you will end up doubting others and their intentions
*

Can't take a compliment or a praise.
You are so used to diminish yourself that you will brush away a praise by thinking something like "I got lucky", "they don't know I'm a fake" or "he just loves me" but rarely "thank you for the compliment, I actually feel good about myself"
*

Being dependant of others and not taking your responsibilities.
You expect others to look after you and your businesses.
*

Lack of assertiveness.
Being assertive means speaking up for yourself, giving your opinion and your view simply and effectively. When plagued with low self esteem, you will rather mumble and whine to yourself than risk a confrontation.
*

Shyness
*

Feeling like a failure or inferior in comparison of others.
*

Never happy with your look.
*

Feeling depressed and/or anxious especially,
o when changes and/or challenges arise.
o after failing
o after being criticised

These are a few low self esteem signs, there are more to add to this list but you can start to get a good idea of the importance of your self image in your life although these symptoms cannot be attributed exclusively to low self esteem as there are so many factors that can cause jealousy or depression for example. so self esteem plays a huge part of life and decisions:) :banana: waving :thumbsup:


He got it from a book ;)


For UShappy ( Okay...just for ME)


rofl

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:20 AM



Low Self Esteem Signs

Low self esteem signs are not always easy to recognize. This is probably due to the fact that low self esteem is so subtle and so deeply impregnated in our subconscious, that the connection between our self worth and our behavior can be hard to evaluate.

Our behavior and actions are always in accordance with our self beliefs or self image

Therefore, looking at how we act and express ourselves can give us a pretty good idea of where our self esteem stand.

So let's look at some behavior patterns that could be translate as symptoms of low self esteem.

* Always doubting yourself and a can't do attitude.
People with low self esteem have trouble to make decisions, they fear changes, challenges and the unknown because they have little faith in themselves.
*

Cannot handle criticisms, overreacting and taking it personally.
"It is a well-known psychological fact that the people who become offended the easiest, have the lowest self-esteem." ~ Dr Maxwell Maltz
*

Being suspicious and jealous in your relationships.
If you don't believe you are worth to be with, you will end up doubting others and their intentions
*

Can't take a compliment or a praise.
You are so used to diminish yourself that you will brush away a praise by thinking something like "I got lucky", "they don't know I'm a fake" or "he just loves me" but rarely "thank you for the compliment, I actually feel good about myself"
*

Being dependant of others and not taking your responsibilities.
You expect others to look after you and your businesses.
*

Lack of assertiveness.
Being assertive means speaking up for yourself, giving your opinion and your view simply and effectively. When plagued with low self esteem, you will rather mumble and whine to yourself than risk a confrontation.
*

Shyness
*

Feeling like a failure or inferior in comparison of others.
*

Never happy with your look.
*

Feeling depressed and/or anxious especially,
o when changes and/or challenges arise.
o after failing
o after being criticised

These are a few low self esteem signs, there are more to add to this list but you can start to get a good idea of the importance of your self image in your life although these symptoms cannot be attributed exclusively to low self esteem as there are so many factors that can cause jealousy or depression for example. so self esteem plays a huge part of life and decisions:) :banana: waving :thumbsup:


He got it from a book ;)
no i already knew a lot of this but this was off the net see years ago i was going to be a psychologist and changed my mind and owned my own business instead:)flowerforyou


You know i was only kidding right? If not, then ohhhhhhhh boy! :)

prashant01's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:24 AM
Edited by prashant01 on Tue 03/20/12 09:25 AM




Low Self Esteem Signs

Low self esteem signs are not always easy to recognize. This is probably due to the fact that low self esteem is so subtle and so deeply impregnated in our subconscious, that the connection between our self worth and our behavior can be hard to evaluate.

Our behavior and actions are always in accordance with our self beliefs or self image

Therefore, looking at how we act and express ourselves can give us a pretty good idea of where our self esteem stand.

So let's look at some behavior patterns that could be translate as symptoms of low self esteem.

* Always doubting yourself and a can't do attitude.
People with low self esteem have trouble to make decisions, they fear changes, challenges and the unknown because they have little faith in themselves.
*

Cannot handle criticisms, overreacting and taking it personally.
"It is a well-known psychological fact that the people who become offended the easiest, have the lowest self-esteem." ~ Dr Maxwell Maltz
*

Being suspicious and jealous in your relationships.
If you don't believe you are worth to be with, you will end up doubting others and their intentions
*

Can't take a compliment or a praise.
You are so used to diminish yourself that you will brush away a praise by thinking something like "I got lucky", "they don't know I'm a fake" or "he just loves me" but rarely "thank you for the compliment, I actually feel good about myself"
*

Being dependant of others and not taking your responsibilities.
You expect others to look after you and your businesses.
*

Lack of assertiveness.
Being assertive means speaking up for yourself, giving your opinion and your view simply and effectively. When plagued with low self esteem, you will rather mumble and whine to yourself than risk a confrontation.
*

Shyness
*

Feeling like a failure or inferior in comparison of others.
*

Never happy with your look.
*

Feeling depressed and/or anxious especially,
o when changes and/or challenges arise.
o after failing
o after being criticised

These are a few low self esteem signs, there are more to add to this list but you can start to get a good idea of the importance of your self image in your life although these symptoms cannot be attributed exclusively to low self esteem as there are so many factors that can cause jealousy or depression for example. so self esteem plays a huge part of life and decisions:) :banana: waving :thumbsup:


He got it from a book ;)


For UShappy ( Okay...just for ME)


rofl

rofl rofl

....This was for example

I don't like arguing & many times prefer to work out as others wish than to argue...may be that is due to my short temperament,if so,will it also be termed as low self esteem?



Cheer_up's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:25 AM




Low Self Esteem Signs

Low self esteem signs are not always easy to recognize. This is probably due to the fact that low self esteem is so subtle and so deeply impregnated in our subconscious, that the connection between our self worth and our behavior can be hard to evaluate.

Our behavior and actions are always in accordance with our self beliefs or self image

Therefore, looking at how we act and express ourselves can give us a pretty good idea of where our self esteem stand.

So let's look at some behavior patterns that could be translate as symptoms of low self esteem.

* Always doubting yourself and a can't do attitude.
People with low self esteem have trouble to make decisions, they fear changes, challenges and the unknown because they have little faith in themselves.
*

Cannot handle criticisms, overreacting and taking it personally.
"It is a well-known psychological fact that the people who become offended the easiest, have the lowest self-esteem." ~ Dr Maxwell Maltz
*

Being suspicious and jealous in your relationships.
If you don't believe you are worth to be with, you will end up doubting others and their intentions
*

Can't take a compliment or a praise.
You are so used to diminish yourself that you will brush away a praise by thinking something like "I got lucky", "they don't know I'm a fake" or "he just loves me" but rarely "thank you for the compliment, I actually feel good about myself"
*

Being dependant of others and not taking your responsibilities.
You expect others to look after you and your businesses.
*

Lack of assertiveness.
Being assertive means speaking up for yourself, giving your opinion and your view simply and effectively. When plagued with low self esteem, you will rather mumble and whine to yourself than risk a confrontation.
*

Shyness
*

Feeling like a failure or inferior in comparison of others.
*

Never happy with your look.
*

Feeling depressed and/or anxious especially,
o when changes and/or challenges arise.
o after failing
o after being criticised

These are a few low self esteem signs, there are more to add to this list but you can start to get a good idea of the importance of your self image in your life although these symptoms cannot be attributed exclusively to low self esteem as there are so many factors that can cause jealousy or depression for example. so self esteem plays a huge part of life and decisions:) :banana: waving :thumbsup:


He got it from a book ;)
no i already knew a lot of this but this was off the net see years ago i was going to be a psychologist and changed my mind and owned my own business instead:)flowerforyou


You know i was only kidding right? If not, then ohhhhhhhh boy! :)
lollllll kidding on what my friend a book? haha roflnothing bugs me to much my friend lifes to short to worry to much :) have a awesome dayflowerforyou :banana: :thumbsup:

prashant01's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:29 AM




Low Self Esteem Signs

Low self esteem signs are not always easy to recognize. This is probably due to the fact that low self esteem is so subtle and so deeply impregnated in our subconscious, that the connection between our self worth and our behavior can be hard to evaluate.

Our behavior and actions are always in accordance with our self beliefs or self image

Therefore, looking at how we act and express ourselves can give us a pretty good idea of where our self esteem stand.

So let's look at some behavior patterns that could be translate as symptoms of low self esteem.

* Always doubting yourself and a can't do attitude.
People with low self esteem have trouble to make decisions, they fear changes, challenges and the unknown because they have little faith in themselves.
*

Cannot handle criticisms, overreacting and taking it personally.
"It is a well-known psychological fact that the people who become offended the easiest, have the lowest self-esteem." ~ Dr Maxwell Maltz
*

Being suspicious and jealous in your relationships.
If you don't believe you are worth to be with, you will end up doubting others and their intentions
*

Can't take a compliment or a praise.
You are so used to diminish yourself that you will brush away a praise by thinking something like "I got lucky", "they don't know I'm a fake" or "he just loves me" but rarely "thank you for the compliment, I actually feel good about myself"
*

Being dependant of others and not taking your responsibilities.
You expect others to look after you and your businesses.
*

Lack of assertiveness.
Being assertive means speaking up for yourself, giving your opinion and your view simply and effectively. When plagued with low self esteem, you will rather mumble and whine to yourself than risk a confrontation.
*

Shyness
*

Feeling like a failure or inferior in comparison of others.
*

Never happy with your look.
*

Feeling depressed and/or anxious especially,
o when changes and/or challenges arise.
o after failing
o after being criticised

These are a few low self esteem signs, there are more to add to this list but you can start to get a good idea of the importance of your self image in your life although these symptoms cannot be attributed exclusively to low self esteem as there are so many factors that can cause jealousy or depression for example. so self esteem plays a huge part of life and decisions:) :banana: waving :thumbsup:


He got it from a book ;)
no i already knew a lot of this but this was off the net see years ago i was going to be a psychologist and changed my mind and owned my own business instead:)flowerforyou


You know i was only kidding right? If not, then ohhhhhhhh boy! :)


But you were right,I think that data must be copy pasted from wikipedia,I have read those lines many times & also noted in my diary few days before.:wink:

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:33 AM
lollllll kidding on what my friend a book? haha roflnothing bugs me to much my friend lifes to short to worry to much :) have a awesome dayflowerforyou :banana: :thumbsup:



lol, cool. And thanks. Hope YOU have an awesome day, too :). Life REALLY IS too short to take things to heart. Yeah. I'll drink to that. I always find myself cutting down the number of copy and pasted quotes, cos if you copy and paste lots in one big reply, then it ends up almost being a novel. Ha ha.

Cheer_up's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:34 AM
Here you go my friend this is for you prashank and for anyone that feels they have low self esteem:)>>> Self Esteem Tips


1. Set an intention. Before you get out of bed, decide what kind of day you want to have. Make a deliberate, conscious decision about how you want to create your day. Write it down. Play a little with how it might feel. When you get up, act accordingly. Remind yourself throughout the day of your intention. Look for ways your intention is playing out in your world. Suggested intention: Today is the best day ever!

2. Be true to yourself. Live your life doing what feels right to you, not what someone else thinks you should do. It’s ok to listen to advice, but in the end, make the decision that feels best for you. Being a people pleaser is a very frustrating way to live. Get in the habit of pleasing yourself. You are responsible for your own happiness. Your feelings are important.

3. Change your mental diet. Read uplifting books. Listen to uplifting tapes and CDs and attend uplifting workshops. What you focus on expands. What you put your attention on becomes more real. Don’t focus on negativity. Stop watching the news. Avoid whiners and complainers. Walk away.

4. Be aware of what your monkey mind, the voice in your head, is saying. Widen back and observe your thoughts. If a particular thought isn't kind or isn’t serving you, note this and redirect your focus to what you are wanting. This may take a bit of practice. Remember to be kind to yourself as you are gaining awareness and strengthening your will.

5. Upgrade your physical diet. Processed foods contain very little nutritional value when compared to raw, organic fruits and vegetables. Eat fresh produce rather than processed foods whenever possible. Drink plenty of water, fresh juices and smoothies instead of caffeinated beverages or energy drinks. Add nutrient dense superfoods to your diet. When you take care of your body by supplying it with good nutrients, you will naturally feel better and have more energy.

6. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are not supposed to be like anyone else. You are you. You are the only one who can be you. Your perspectives, gifts and value are exclusively yours. You are a unique expression of God. Revel in it! If you want something to measure yourself by, compare how you were yesterday to how you are today, and be kind.

7. Create an uplifting environment for yourself. This can be joyful colors, uplifting music, nature photos, plants, uplifting posters, open windows… you decide. Wear clothes that you feel good in.

8. Celebrate your successes. Even the small ones. Don't wait to get perfect. Any progress at all is worthy of celebration. When you celebrate, you are telling the universe “I am loving this. Please give me more!” Yay!

9. Be grateful. You have much to be grateful for. Before you go to bed each night, write down ten things you are grateful for that day and why. This is an important step. Gratitude alone can turn things around for you. What are you grateful for right now?

10. Create a list of accomplishments and review it often. We tend to get overwhelmed looking at what’s left to be done and forget to give ourselves credit for how far we’ve already come.

11. Don’t take yourself, or life, too seriously. Lighten up. Dare to have fun. “Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly” ~ G.K Chesterton

12. Learn something new. Become an expert. Get curious and learn all there is to learn about what interests you. Learning is growing, and it feels good.

13. Do things that stretch your comfort zone. Anytime you feel fear, as long as it isn't life threatening, is an opportunity to grow! "Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." ~Anais Nin

14. Do something nice for yourself. You deserve it! Maybe a massage, a bath or nap. Take yourself out on a date. Treat yourself with the same honor, courtesy, respect and kindness you would if you were taking someone else out that you really, really liked. The key here is to enbrace and enjoy the experience. Feeling guilty defeats the purpose.

15. Do something nice for someone else. Volunteer. Being of service, without expectation of reward, feels really good.

16. Spend time regularly doing things you find joyful. What make your heart sing? Do more of it! Remember being happy is not a selfish act. Your joy is a gift to the world! When you feel joyful, your joy is contagious.

17. Do something physical. Clean out a closet. Get out of the house. Go for a walk. Do some gardening. Visit the nature preserve. Exercise. Fly a kite. Ride a bike. Exercise produces endorphins that help you feel better. Also, being outdoors in the sunshine helps the body produce vitamin D, which contributes to a healthier, happier you.

18. Spend time with supportive, uplifting people. We do exist!

19. Create positive affirmations about yourself. Post them about your home. Say them often and out loud.

20. Allow yourself to be where you are. Just feel whatever you are feeling, without judging it or judging yourself for feeling it. Let go of the story you have created around it and just be with the feeling. Embrace it. Explore it. Feel it. All any feeling wants is to be felt fully. This can only be done when you let go of your resistance to feeling it, which is kept in place by the story and the judgment around it. Without the story and the labels, feelings are inherently neutral. Feel the feeling fully, then just let it dissolve.

21. Remind yourself often you are a miraculous, sacred, perfect expression of Life. Amazing, incredible you are worthy and loved always, without having to do a thing.

22. Spend some time just being. This is much easier in Nature. Go camping. Take a walk. Climb a tree. Sit by a stream. Put up a hammock and climb in. In reconnecting with the Earth and Nature, we slow down and have time for some inner reflection. Priorities become clearer. Who you truly are is more easily recognized here............... Good luck cheers:):thumbsup: :banana: think happy waving :banana:

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:41 AM
Edited by Shy_Emo_chick on Tue 03/20/12 09:42 AM

22. Just be.



i like that one. Some days it's easier to do, than others.

prashant01's photo
Tue 03/20/12 09:59 AM
Edited by prashant01 on Tue 03/20/12 10:04 AM





Low Self Esteem Signs

Low self esteem signs are not always easy to recognize. This is probably due to the fact that low self esteem is so subtle and so deeply impregnated in our subconscious, that the connection between our self worth and our behavior can be hard to evaluate.

Our behavior and actions are always in accordance with our self beliefs or self image

Therefore, looking at how we act and express ourselves can give us a pretty good idea of where our self esteem stand.

So let's look at some behavior patterns that could be translate as symptoms of low self esteem.

* Always doubting yourself and a can't do attitude.
People with low self esteem have trouble to make decisions, they fear changes, challenges and the unknown because they have little faith in themselves.
*

Cannot handle criticisms, overreacting and taking it personally.
"It is a well-known psychological fact that the people who become offended the easiest, have the lowest self-esteem." ~ Dr Maxwell Maltz
*

Being suspicious and jealous in your relationships.
If you don't believe you are worth to be with, you will end up doubting others and their intentions
*

Can't take a compliment or a praise.
You are so used to diminish yourself that you will brush away a praise by thinking something like "I got lucky", "they don't know I'm a fake" or "he just loves me" but rarely "thank you for the compliment, I actually feel good about myself"
*

Being dependant of others and not taking your responsibilities.
You expect others to look after you and your businesses.
*

Lack of assertiveness.
Being assertive means speaking up for yourself, giving your opinion and your view simply and effectively. When plagued with low self esteem, you will rather mumble and whine to yourself than risk a confrontation.
*

Shyness
*

Feeling like a failure or inferior in comparison of others.
*

Never happy with your look.
*

Feeling depressed and/or anxious especially,
o when changes and/or challenges arise.
o after failing
o after being criticised

These are a few low self esteem signs, there are more to add to this list but you can start to get a good idea of the importance of your self image in your life although these symptoms cannot be attributed exclusively to low self esteem as there are so many factors that can cause jealousy or depression for example. so self esteem plays a huge part of life and decisions:) :banana: waving :thumbsup:


He got it from a book ;)


For UShappy ( Okay...just for ME)


rofl

rofl rofl

....This was for example

I don't like arguing & many times prefer to work out as others wish than to argue...may be that is due to my short temperament,if so,will it also be termed as low self esteem?



Can anyone answer ^ this question?

Can it be termed as low self esteem,if I'm doing something against my mind but for avoiding arguments?

wux's photo
Tue 03/20/12 05:16 PM

How do you relate both things?

Do you see any direct or indirect effect of your self esteem on the decision that you make for your & others actions?

In my case,I feel an urge to improve my self esteem whenever has to follow the decision made by someone else (decision which is not agreed to me)




This reminds me of an old stand-by of mine I had made up a long time ago:

I've been honing my judgement and improving my mental capacity, until I achieved my goal. Which is that now I am completely non-judgmental.

That is, non judge-mental.

This has been a bad pun. But Phrashant, look at it and analyze it.

wux's photo
Tue 03/20/12 05:22 PM

What does your self esteem have to do with decisions others make that you don't agree with?


This is a very good question.

Hitler's anwer was to kill a lot of Jews.
George W. Bush started several wars and never said a complete sentence that made sense.
Mother Theresa healed the sick and raised from the dead.
Princess Di died, looked pretty, and performed charitable acts. Not necessarily in this order.
Mick Jagger sang and screwed an immense amount of women.
Jona Schtitznaber, the Golden Voiced Guru of Hindirabad, stood on a pillar, imported from the Forbidden City of Ng Abhu tamir-Da by his rich uncle, for forty years without ever closing her mouth.

no photo
Tue 03/20/12 05:23 PM
I have very high self esteem..........ummmm.....errr.....
well......maybe I don't..........

No......Yes I do.....

ehhhhhhhhhh............I don't know........

But.........

I think very highly of..........

Myself.......

I think!!!!!!

huh laugh huh

wux's photo
Tue 03/20/12 05:24 PM
Edited by wux on Tue 03/20/12 05:26 PM





Low Self Esteem Signs

Low self esteem signs are not always easy to recognize.

(etc. etc. etc.)

cause jealousy or depression for example. so self esteem plays a huge part of life and decisions:) :banana: waving :thumbsup:


He got it from a book ;)
no i already knew a lot of this but this was off the net see years ago i was going to be a psychologist and changed my mind and owned my own business instead:)flowerforyou


You know i was only kidding right? If not, then ohhhhhhhh boy! :)
lollllll kidding on what my friend a book? haha roflnothing bugs me to much my friend lifes to short to worry to much :) have a awesome dayflowerforyou :banana: :thumbsup:



Fools! I wrote that book. It was my autobiography.

krupa's photo
Tue 03/20/12 05:40 PM
Edited by krupa on Tue 03/20/12 05:44 PM
I got your point immedieately Prash...

I will point out the obvious in that I got way too much self esteem but, I am a kick*** guy.

Secondly, I HAVE had a few incedents at work with people giving me orders:

that were not exactly legal (commit fraud): I let the Chief of Operations know that I flat out refused the idea and if the owner had a problem with it..he could come do the f'n job himself cause I understand making the most of supplies..but defrauding our customers who were paying money for what we were representing....I refused loudly. The C.O.O agreed and the order was dropped.

I also have had a new manager recently..when were were first working together and butting heads...he was giving orders that were not feasable, less efficient and detrimental to functionality. I took him aside and said "I am gonna do everything EXACTLY as you order! And when this system collapses you will have no one to blame but you" The system collapsed 2 days later.

Now, I am given complete autonomy at my work.


wux's photo
Tue 03/20/12 05:51 PM
EXACTLY as you order! And when this system collapses you will have no one to blame but you" The system collapsed 2 days later.

Now, I am given complete autonomy at my work.




Wow!! You got your own company car!!!

===

It's a trick, don't fall for it. They gave you the car so you'll never be able to put your foot down. Not in quick succession of alternate feet, anyhow.

prashant01's photo
Wed 03/21/12 12:02 PM

I got your point immedieately Prash...

I will point out the obvious in that I got way too much self esteem but, I am a kick*** guy.

Secondly, I HAVE had a few incedents at work with people giving me orders:

that were not exactly legal (commit fraud): I let the Chief of Operations know that I flat out refused the idea and if the owner had a problem with it..he could come do the f'n job himself cause I understand making the most of supplies..but defrauding our customers who were paying money for what we were representing....I refused loudly. The C.O.O agreed and the order was dropped.

I also have had a new manager recently..when were were first working together and butting heads...he was giving orders that were not feasable, less efficient and detrimental to functionality. I took him aside and said "I am gonna do everything EXACTLY as you order! And when this system collapses you will have no one to blame but you" The system collapsed 2 days later.

Now, I am given complete autonomy at my work.




:thumbsup: You are gr8 at daring,krupa.

There are few people around me,who are quite aggressive like you.
I would lose peace of mind if even try to act like that aggressive.

krupa's photo
Wed 03/21/12 03:12 PM
For me my friend....

The right thing to do is the right thing to do. Things like tact, subtlety and diplomacy only slow or stall the process. I don't negotiate a nail into a piece of wood....I pick up a hammer and I get the job done.

If I am not sure about something, I learn from others perspectives and expertice....But, when I KNOW through actual experience...no damned way am I gonna let someone to tell me to do my job wrong.

But, right or wrong...I always look them in the eye.

Self-esteem has never been an issue with me.....I am just as good as anyone out there.

prashant01's photo
Thu 03/22/12 11:26 AM
That is good,krupa.

I actually thinks much & always had some doubts in mind & fear for unknown things.

I always remain cautious & thinks about many possibilities before doing something,even if it is my routine job.

Many times people considers me as under confident or slow,but I know my worth.

Many times people acts as cliques at work,I don't involve with any of the group.I experienced that they considers me SELFISHslaphead

Few of my colleagues advised me to convert & utilize incidences into opportunities for dominating people or to increase importance of our self,but I keep my responses similar & fair always.


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Thu 03/22/12 01:49 PM
for sure; why do you think so many women especially; stay with a guy that is obviously a dog. He could be cheating with a million women but the girl says,"but I love him". Or the best one, he said he loved me.

If you have self esteem you dont let people hurt you or take advantage of you. First time shame on them, second time shame on me.