Talking to more and more people about my life style choice I am starting to realize a shared curiosity that most people have. Have you ever thought poly? Loving multiple people in intimate ways.

Most people that I have talked to have thought about it, but rarely share their personal feelings with others. Why is that?

Being called unique for most of my life I have gotten use to people saying I am weird, but I know there are a lot of people who wish they could share in a healthy, balanced relationship with another person other than their primary partner. Don't get me wrong, thinking about the work involved in just sustaining a poly relationship sounds exhausting on the emotional tip, but I have seen what open communication can bring. It's beautiful.

Tell me what you think about poly relationships. I am curious to know how people feel and possibly meet someone who understands that love is big thing and it can be shared.

Have a good one!

poly? whats that?

Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is not to be confused with polysexuality, which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory

There's only ONE woman out there that I give ALL of my heart and attention to. I don't wish to share my heart with any other, just her and her alone. That's my view on it. :)

Not my thing...I can barely put up with one person

But as long as all involved are consenting adults...none of my business. Best thing to do is to make sure all understand the "ground rules and boundaries"

Best of luck to you

i'm not gay, but i wouldn't have a big problem with it, as long as the women were ok with it too...

That's cool. A lucky lady she shall be. :)

lol My mother said the same thing. lol Communication is key, thanks. ;)

She's actually quite blessed, as am I. :)

Love is not finite. If you can love many friends and family members all at the same time, who's to say you can't have more than one romantic love at the same time? We don't get to pick who we fall in love with- it just happens. Polyamory seems to be a much saner way of dealing with things than cheating and lying. Open, honest communication is good. So is accepting a different approach.

I disagree, we do pick who we fall in love with. We control our feelings and emotions. We control our wants and desires.

i have to agree, if your being honest, then no wrong is being done. people are going to have multiple loves anyway, why not have a few at the same time? sometimes being honest with yourself is harder than being honest with others...

Maybe you haven't spoken to a mother who has post postpartum depression. Some want to love their baby but have no emotions towards it. Sometimes you cannot control who you love. In regards to adult intimate relationships, sometimes you fall for the least expected. I have even had erotic thoughts about my professor and I think he is a jerk. I so was not controlling that desire. yek :P

Mental disorders are different, but can be dealt with. Also, having thoughts or fantasies is not love and we can choose to control them or not.

We can choose to control ourselves and our feelings and emotions.

You may have had thoughts of your professor, but that doesn't mean you slept with him, right?

I don't agree with this. I've never decided who I'm going to fall in love with. I don't just walk up to someone and say "hey, I think I'm going to be attracted to him and fall in love with him."

I was going by what he said about how we pick who we fall in love with. I just don't agree.

We have preferences, types, deal breakers, etc. Which set parameters for who we may fall in love with. We choose has strict we follow them or not. We choose to stay with one person, or have multiple partners. It's not that we're helpless and controlled by our feelings, we choose to follow them or not.

Have you never become interested in someone who does not fit into your preferences? And on the other side, are you interested in all women who fit into your preferences?

No, I've never had an interest in a woman who hasn't fit my preferences, and just because they fit my preferences, doesn't mean I'll be interested.

I've seen a few people try it.

And the few that were married are all divorced now.

I've read that some people can make it work, but I've never actually seen it done.

When you enter a poly relationship, at least know that you are fighting a huge uphill battle that very few (if any) really win.


Best of luck to you.