oops...lemme read a bit more...

You don't use this site as a promotional vehicle...cause it would be wrong? ......you ain't getting paid....USE this resource...like an old stank ho.

I understand that it offers you friendship and social interaction...that is the reason I am here to brother....But I ain't a moderator....

I love this site....it has brought me a wonderful woman to love and more real friends than I can count on my fingers and toes.

I use it every damned day. I ain't doing this site dirty....and I am gonna stand straight the f**k up and say "Brother.....stand the hell up and TAKE some pleasure from this Mingle thing"

I know you were chosen to be a modereator because you are moderate....this ain't a bad thing.

I will never be a moderator cause I just say what I think.

P.S.

Who is Amazon? I hope she is sucking up 5" of bedsheets through your butt when she is giving you a blowjob. Send me a pic of her bro.

Sure you can it's like writing a book, one word at a time.

The hardest part from what others tell me is putting yourself out there. I would not know about that personally, I have no problem talking to anyone. ( light-bulb over the head) maybe thats why guys shy away from me, I am not shy and demuring. Ehh their loss.

Thanks, I only have to do about 494 more to catch Isaac Asimov....!

Thank you for the kind words!

I guess the real problem is I just don't have anything remotely resembling a social circle where I live. It is really difficult to get to know anyone here -- my impression is that the locals can't actually detect your presence unless your family has lived here for 17 generations or used to own some unspecified number of farm animals.

aha.
i laughed a little because this sounds eerily exactly like me.
well besides the book part.
o.O
i paint,
but you get the point.
i think you need some tough love.
a beating does you good every now and then.
i notice everyone on here is extra nice to you.
someone who cares about you needs to be mean.
i'd volunteer,
but i don't know you.
it'd be quite insincere.
someone beat this man up.

Well, that's what all of my previous relationships were for. Been there, done that.



You have obviously missed a few threads! OK, most people are very nice to me, but then there are a few who have been sniping at me for years. Sometimes they try to be a little less obvious about it.



Trust me, that's not gonna be good for anybody.



I don't know if anyone is going to take you up on that one. Not overtly, anyway.

You have chosen your niche brother.

It will continue to be what you make it.....

eventually, Lex you will see the common denominator.

I wish I could take you out on the town but....that will have to wait a bit.

No arguments there.

And the common denominator, yeah, that's pretty clear....

But the issue now is whether or not it's worth trying to make any alterations. As much as I'd like to believe there's someone worth it out there, the trend thus far has been to the contrary. I don't know.

Maybe looking back at your past work, just brought back old feelings again. It happens. At least you're not denying that the woman was in your life, otherwise that'd be a bad sign. I can relate to what Teadipper said. Me and my first ex, had seen each other go through the college years, and university. Though, when he started university, i started feeling a bit lost without him. We were mentally joined at the hip. It isn't a crime if you go remembering happy times. You should allow it. If i think i need to go off somewhere, to feel refreshed, then i just do it. Only if i really want to. You choose how you live your life. Your state of mind has a lot to do with it. Btw, i'd happily buy your books, as i read your forum posts. You have my support. You have made books. That is a huge achievement in itself. You should be celebrating :)

Lex, congratulations on the new book! And on your soul-searching, too. I may be mistaken, but I interpreted B's post about the beating as a form of toughlove, a different way of saying what Krupa was also saying. I'd agree with him that if you're not satisfied with the way things are, you need to change something. Easier said than done, I know (believe me, I know!) But you owe it to yourself.

You've mentioned several times that you moved away from everyone you knew. What about moving back? Just a thought -- not saying it's the best solution. But sometimes we get stuck in boxes and need to have the lid pried off by someone else. I hibernated for a good 15 years myself that way -- would hate to see you do the same. There ARE women out there you could be happy with.

Asimov is a great model, not just as an author but as a human being.

Agreed, there's nothing inherently wrong with remembering the happy times. It's just the sheer rareness of those times that causes concern.

It seems that I have enough going for me that people continue to be interested -- but only with the proviso that I completely and totally change who I am, so as to fit more comfortably into their idea of what a relationship should be. And I'm just not interested in being the person they want to mold me into. There are millions of those guys out there already, so why not go after them?

To run across one who accepts me for who I am, someone who sees no need to change me, that's the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow (obligatory St. Pat's reference). But I've only ever found one like that -- and what I've seen on the 15,881 dating sites I've tried, doesn't convince me there are any more of them out there....!

Unfortunately, I just don't have the resources to make it happen right now. If I did, I would have moved (somewhere, anywhere) ages ago.



To be creative, on a level that prolific, amazes me. His focus must have been something to see. I remember watching him on "Jeopardy" years ago, he seemed fairly normal but very very smart!

Thank you, I'm currently working on three more!



I don't really feel broken -- I feel a little banged up, a little bruised, but intact, for the most part.



Yeah, that's a bit of a trap. I find myself noticing the ones who remind me of her, in some way. And that's usually not a good thing, because they remind me of her in ways that don't have anything to do with the important stuff.



I think it's important to maintain a sense of humor about it. And the writing is a tremendous help there.

But -- the other thing is that the writing doesn't really address the problem; it deflects it.

it's called "falling into The Abyss" ..which generally one has to do in order to get into the mind frame to complete a work or works

in the abyss you forsake all others because concentrating on them will take you out of that mind frame

it can be referred to as an addiction

that's one of the purposes of Mingle2

so...Links Man...provide Links

Congrats on your book Lex..

Sometimes I have a load of people around me and still feel lonely. Outside of my family, there's only a few people in my life that I can enjoy the silence with.

All I know is one day she "needed" me and "couldn't live without" me, and a week later, she's gone like pffft! Just vanished.

My creative process is probably a little abnormal. I can't push it. It's either on or it's not, and it comes and goes arbitrarily.

I've got an Author Page on Amazon, and that should answer most questions.

Anything more involved than that, I can refer people to a number of other sites if they're interested.