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Topic: Is self esteem hereditary?
krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Fri 03/16/12 05:45 PM
Not good enough Doll....try harder to put people under your boot heel. (don't roll your eyes at me) It's fun!!!! hehehehehehehe

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Fri 03/16/12 05:55 PM
Not good enough Doll....try harder to put people under your boot heel. (don't roll your eyes at me) It's fun!!!! hehehehehehehe you are a mean one.... mr Grinch

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Fri 03/16/12 06:04 PM
My belief is self isteem is hinged on a lot of things. While good parents defintiely can help a person it is by no means the whole deal because great parnet can set a child in the right direction and school environment, natural disasters, the pressure of competeing with a sibling , any number of problems can knock that down; sometimes progrssively over years. Or a child in a miserable family relationship will do the work that is needed to find healthy relationships and move forward in spite of a lousy family situation. I don't think necessarily being the the Popular model of what most peple aspire to physcally realy assures self confidence either. I have seen too many "nodel" children be more miserable than children with half a dozen strikes against them. I might add just saying you have self esteem doesn't make it so. I think some people percieved as having high self esteem are just folks that have been over compensateing all their life. I also think that culture plays a lot in self esteem. In a society that highly values the individual, versus one that puts forward your value is on teamsmanship tend to have a completely different ranking system.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Fri 03/16/12 06:21 PM
Not good enough Doll....try harder to put people under your boot heel. (don't roll your eyes at me) It's fun!!!! hehehehehehehe you are a mean one.... mr Grinch ....boner.... :)

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Sat 03/17/12 08:09 AM
I also think that culture plays a lot in self esteem. In a society that highly values the individual, versus one that puts forward your value is on teamsmanship tend to have a completely different ranking system. This is true. In few countries even human life is not precious than money & time.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Sat 03/17/12 08:39 AM
Prof Plomin added: "We are not saying that genes are the only factor or that upbringing and environment cannot change things. "But there is something genetic in self confidence which I would think of as a personality trait that would be stable throughout life." The study's findings are published in the June issue of the journal Psychological Science. ....... well from what i looked up it has partly to do with genetics but not all is that its how your raised too and how you been treated in life and how you react can change self esteem but it is 100% partly from genes but not all from it :) in a science study on self esteem

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21886	Sat 03/17/12 08:40 AM
Some people who seem to have a high self worth, or big egos, are in reality frighted that their self perceived faults may be discovered. For example, a lot of salespeople may seem to be confident and self assured, but in reality they are looking for approval.

Cheer_up Joined Tue 11/02/10 Posts: 3269	Sat 03/17/12 08:51 AM
I think my brother, sister and myself got our self-esteem (over inflated egos) from my Dad. But not through genetics...though our family is lucky with good genetics. We learned to be proud and confident, independant and take no crap honest people from the example Dad always set. We were raised in Dad's Kyokushinkai Karate' school from day one till we left home. We were treated with lots of love and lots of physical discipline. Anything we wanted to try was encouraged even when looking back it had to be a pain in the @$$ for him. I doubt genetics have anything to do with it. I spoke to my actual biological womb donor when I was 28 and had never met such a cowering, repressed, mentally defficient person in my life. My dogs got better self esteem than her. My brother inherited her eyes and nose. I inherited her hair and skinnyness. Thank god that being a cowering human doormat ain't inherited...it is learned by example. I also at the same time spoke to a half-sister and half-brother....they were all the same. "Our dad only lets us listen to country music"..."our dad won't let me wear anything but blue jeans"..."he is letting me get my driver's liscence and get my first job serving water at a hotel" (My biological mother..AT 56 YEARS OLD..just getting her liscense and a job) Blew my mind.... I couldn't be more grateful that my Dad raise me....cause otherwise...I woulda been f*#ked. It is all in the raising. well thats all true krupa to a point but science says it is partly from genes but not all my friend http://www.nih.gov/researchmatters/september2011/09262011optimism.htm Prof Plomin added: "We are not saying that genes are the only factor or that upbringing and environment cannot change things. "But there is something genetic in self confidence which I would think of as a personality trait that would be stable throughout life." The study's findings are published in the June issue of the journal Psychological Science.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Sat 03/17/12 08:56 AM
Some people who seem to have a high self worth, or big egos, are in reality frighted that their self perceived faults may be discovered. For example, a lot of salespeople may seem to be confident and self assured, but in reality they are looking for approval. As you said about sales persons,I always had a curiosity to know about there self esteem & confidence level.In particular I feel symapthy about tele marketing executives who has to compulsorily call hundred's of unknown people over phone & has to convince them for buying product or service which usually they don't want. I'm sure 99.99% people must be saying NO to them,some must be treating them badly due to irritation caused by anonymous calling,hence I wonder,what happens to these tele marketers self esteem & confidence after few years service in same field.