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Maybe it's just me, but as I become older I tend to guard my heart, not completely closed off, but a lot more selective with who I will open up too, some people that know me think I am a little too hard on others, but I consider myself an honest and moral person and I expect others that want to get close to me to act in the same manner.
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Scary world, equally frightening is the people inside said world. Have anyone of you guys taken a chance and confessed how you felt for somebody you loved? Thrown caution to the wind sorta speak? For the first time I did. I actually feel kind of liberated, regardless of the reaction. Certainly feels like a weight has been lifted. Feel all growd up.  I've done it, probably wouldn't again. People try to take advantage of that sort of thing. So? Let them show their true colors. People can only "take advantage" if you let them. Historically, I'm kind of an idiot on this sort of thing. Easier not to be in that position in the first place. You have a point Lex, though I think its really hard to predict anything when it comes to expressing how you feel. But I feel Jeannie has a point too. But I don't get mad at guys for not feeling the same. Its all luck. There are other factors but I'm starting to believe its a lot more simple than people think. |
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Maybe it's just me, but as I become older I tend to guard my heart, not completely closed off, but a lot more selective with who I will open up too, some people that know me think I am a little too hard on others, but I consider myself an honest and moral person and I expect others that want to get close to me to act in the same manner. As long as you're heart is in the right place, it shouldn't matter. I guess we close off from past relationships coming back to haunt us. Those shouldn't cloud our judgements in the long run, as long as you are honest, I don't feel like its so scary. |
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I am a very shy person! And me being 18, I am still figuring things. I've tried to tell a certain person how I felt, but the words never came out. It would have been nice to know what could have happened.
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There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. |
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I am a very shy person! And me being 18, I am still figuring things. I've tried to tell a certain person how I felt, but the words never came out. It would have been nice to know what could have happened.  Shy since I was a sperm. We're both young-ins. We're naturally going to feel the pressure to know everything and anything when life gets crwazy and drama-filled. We wanna have things all figured out right then and there. Truth is, there is no handbook or course you take to get it right. I know that feeling all too well. Sometimes the words sputter out in some way. I mean I had to strip it down. I just called and told him the truth. One sentence, sports article-style. If I had rambled, well people get nervous on the spot, not much you can do, but at least you got it out of you. No one knows this more than a shy gal. But hey, we stick up for each other cause we've been there.  Sometimes you just gotta say it, even if your voice sounds like its about to erupt like Mount Doom. 
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I am a very shy person! And me being 18, I am still figuring things. I've tried to tell a certain person how I felt, but the words never came out. It would have been nice to know what could have happened. Shy since I was a sperm. We're both young-ins. We're naturally going to feel the pressure to know everything and anything when life gets crwazy and drama-filled. We wanna have things all figured out right then and there. Truth is, there is no handbook or course you take to get it right. I know that feeling all too well. Sometimes the words sputter out in some way. I mean I had to strip it down. I just called and told him the truth. One sentence, sports article-style. If I had rambled, well people get nervous on the spot, not much you can do, but at least you got it out of you. No one knows this more than a shy gal. But hey, we stick up for each other cause we've been there. Sometimes you just gotta say it, even if your voice sounds like its about to erupt like Mount Doom. mmhmm! I tend to ramble, and get off topic when something like that happens. Sound like a complete idiot but that's okay. :) |
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The guy who finds it endearing, you should keep a close eye on. Not everyone is going to sound confident all the time.
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Scary world, equally frightening is the people inside said world. Have anyone of you guys taken a chance and confessed how you felt for somebody you loved? Thrown caution to the wind sorta speak? For the first time I did. I actually feel kind of liberated, regardless of the reaction. Certainly feels like a weight has been lifted. Feel all growd up. I've done it, probably wouldn't again. People try to take advantage of that sort of thing. So? Let them show their true colors. People can only "take advantage" if you let them. Historically, I'm kind of an idiot on this sort of thing. Easier not to be in that position in the first place. You have a point Lex, though I think its really hard to predict anything when it comes to expressing how you feel. But I feel Jeannie has a point too. But I don't get mad at guys for not feeling the same. Its all luck. There are other factors but I'm starting to believe its a lot more simple than people think. But I also have the George Costanza thing going on: "When you like them, they don't like you. When they like you, you don't like them!!" It's a curse, I tell ya....! 
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Edited by
Spidercmb
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Tue 02/28/12 04:58 PM
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Yes, I did. And I'm so happy I did.  I'm happy you did too.
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Scary world, equally frightening is the people inside said world. Have anyone of you guys taken a chance and confessed how you felt for somebody you loved? Thrown caution to the wind sorta speak? For the first time I did. I actually feel kind of liberated, regardless of the reaction. Certainly feels like a weight has been lifted. Feel all growd up. 
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Scary world, equally frightening is the people inside said world. Have anyone of you guys taken a chance and confessed how you felt for somebody you loved? Thrown caution to the wind sorta speak? For the first time I did. I actually feel kind of liberated, regardless of the reaction. Certainly feels like a weight has been lifted. Feel all growd up. I've done it, probably wouldn't again. People try to take advantage of that sort of thing. So? Let them show their true colors. People can only "take advantage" if you let them. Historically, I'm kind of an idiot on this sort of thing. Easier not to be in that position in the first place. You have a point Lex, though I think its really hard to predict anything when it comes to expressing how you feel. But I feel Jeannie has a point too. But I don't get mad at guys for not feeling the same. Its all luck. There are other factors but I'm starting to believe its a lot more simple than people think. But I also have the George Costanza thing going on: "When you like them, they don't like you. When they like you, you don't like them!!" It's a curse, I tell ya....! Wise fella...he know great a many things we still apply today. For a show about nothing, he always made the most sense. |
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If you keep you're heart locked away...
noone will ever break it, Pain will never touch it, Life will never harm it, and........ Love will....... Never Find it!!!! In spite of all I have been tru.... Mine is still open..... Live Like theres no Tommorrow, Dance Like noone is watching, Love like there are........ NO Limits!!!! I would see no reason to live, If I could not keep my heart open to..... Possibility!!!!!!! JMO |
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There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. It was 100% sincere and I practice it myself. Its called detachment and free love.' Free love is when you love someone and don't expect anything in return. It's not hard really. If you give anything and expect something in return... then it is NOT GIVING. |
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There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. It was 100% sincere and I practice it myself. Its called detachment and free love.' Free love is when you love someone and don't expect anything in return. It's not hard really. If you give anything and expect something in return... then it is NOT GIVING. It just seems like an infinite loop. You can only give so much. Unrequited love is just foolish. |
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There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. It was 100% sincere and I practice it myself. Its called detachment and free love.' Free love is when you love someone and don't expect anything in return. It's not hard really. If you give anything and expect something in return... then it is NOT GIVING. Its definitely free love. I am not thinking of what I will gain from this. Expecting someone to love you back is so rare. They almost never do, get scared, run away. This is my genuine feeling about this: I want to show him every day how special he is and be a positive light in his life. Help him see how beautiful he is, in my eyes. I want so much for him to realize how truly wonderful he really is. Anything more, like I said, would be amazing. *shrug* I just don't know. |
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There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. It was 100% sincere and I practice it myself. Its called detachment and free love.' Free love is when you love someone and don't expect anything in return. It's not hard really. If you give anything and expect something in return... then it is NOT GIVING. I agree. Reciprocation should never be a requirement of love. But it's still hard and scary to take that step of saying "I love you". |
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There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. It was 100% sincere and I practice it myself. Its called detachment and free love.' Free love is when you love someone and don't expect anything in return. It's not hard really. If you give anything and expect something in return... then it is NOT GIVING. It just seems like an infinite loop. You can only give so much. Unrequited love is just foolish. UNREQUITED?  WIKI: "Unrequited love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such, even though reciprocation is usually deeply desired." That is not "free love" when you expect to be loved in return or if you expect anything else for it. If you think you can only give "so much" love, then you have no idea what love really is. Love is unlimited. If you let love flow, there is an infinite amount of it. |
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Edited by
Jeanniebean
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Tue 02/28/12 05:35 PM
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There is nothing to lose in telling someone you care. Unless you are expecting something in return. Give freely. I'm calling self-righteous bull on this one. Sounds good on paper, but just quite doesn't work out. It was 100% sincere and I practice it myself. Its called detachment and free love.' Free love is when you love someone and don't expect anything in return. It's not hard really. If you give anything and expect something in return... then it is NOT GIVING. I agree. Reciprocation should never be a requirement of love. But it's still hard and scary to take that step of saying "I love you". The fear comes because of what we mere humans attach to the meaning of human love. Most people do not understand free love. It is divine love. Most people think it involves a commitment with expectations etc. You can show a person that you love them without saying "I love you." When you love someone they will feel it in everything you do for them and they will feel it by how you speak to them. |
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UNREQUITED? WIKI: "Unrequited love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such, even though reciprocation is usually deeply desired." That is not "free love" when you expect to be loved in return or if you expect anything else for it. If you think you can only give "so much" love, then you have no idea what love really is. Love is unlimited. If you let love flow, there is an infinite amount of it. I don't see a problem here. When you love someone, it's perfectly natural to want them to love you back. It's only a problem when you need someone to love you back in order for you to love them. Unrequited love is when person A loves person B, but person B doesn't love person A. It's not reciprocal, person A is in love, regardless of how person B feels. Unrequited love is the very definition of what you are calling "free love" |
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