I am learning. Who cares to admit defeat? I know I don't like to admit defeat but there can come a point in a relationship when you just have to count the cost. Is it worth it? I have come to that point with this coffee pot maker I bought for a buck that needed a six dollar used filter holder. Then the repairman calls back and says the thermostat may be fifty to a hundred bucks to fix it. I was so proud of myself when I said, "No, just keep it." He said that he would fix me up with a case of water in exchange for the parts that he could use. It is not like the 500 hundred van that 2000 dollars later I am still forking over parts and repair bills for. Imagine if I had learned that the first time I got married then divorced then married again to the same person. I would have only had to make the same mistake once.

I learned at a very young age not to beat my head against a wall. There are times to retreat so to speak and I do it in my best interest and don't really care what others think of me. I have been called selfish and I just say damn right. When it comes down to it; the only person that will take care of me or make me happy is me. I only get one shot at life and not going to live in a miserable existence just to live up to everyone else's expectations.

Whoa...you had a coffee pot maker, and you just gave it away?

Think of all the coffee pots you could sell...surely that thing would have paid for itself?

I used to be stubborn and hang on to a broken relationship way past its expiration date...now I push people away and give up too quickly and for the lamest reasons. I have no effin middle ground, apparently. Lol

Anything, really. Maybe it's not really so much pushing away for lame reasons, but just not looking for reasons to fight for someone . If I feel like your attention or attraction has decreased, I just let it go and dont bother to work on why. I've fought to keep guys all my life and I'm done. Now I want a guy who will fight to keep me. ;)

I was just going to say it may be lame to you but not to the other person. You are correct though; it takes a lot out of a person to fight to keep a relationship together.

Good point. Once my ex could get me angry enough so I would communicate with her out of desperation because we had come to some kind of agreement it was always the "We still have unresolved issues" speech lecture she would give me. But when I would bring up an issue she would say that was years ago. And I would always think, "And your point is?"

i think that when you,ve been with that special someone. or so you thought!! for years. and it,s that big rollercoaster ride over and over again we all get tired and frustrated with it. until were broke completley.. then the little voice inside. says time to let go of this.. we run it over and over ion our minds.. and look at all the possibilities.. witch mostly meens we are alone again!!. then we start backtrackin. and ratiomally trying to covince ourselfs that hey!! i,ve put a lot of effort into this guy/girl. i want this to work!! but the sad reality is.. is not goin to.. were just bidin time and foolin ourselfs. sad really!

I hear ya. Around here we have this tale of these two guys selling this dead mule to each other. Each time when one would buy the mule from the other the price would go up. They would say, "I need something for boot", Profit, in other words. But one day a stranger gave more for the dead mule than either of them would bid for it. It was sad to them because they remember how much money they were making from each other.

Um.. can we get back to the coffee pot here? ... How do you think the coffee pot felt?

Good point. Would one prefer a coffee pots that just works or one with high maintenance but with all the fancy bells and whistles. Wow. The road not taken. I see your point. Alas, poor Yorick. I knew him well. Do I take the coffee pot or what is behind one of the three doors? Hmmm, we may never know how the coffee pot felt. I will say a prayer for the coffee pot.

Whew! Thank you. Can we have coffee while we do prayer time?

Can I have a cup, too, pretty please? :-D

Hmmm on what you are talking about... Who ever likes to admit defeat... But what makes our personality in the end is the sum of all our errors, the sum of all of our defeats. You learn little, if anything, from winning... Persons who say they never made any mistakes make me suspicious, because they are either liars (probably) or they never had to fight... And I will never know if I can rely on that person in a storm...

Do you know the song "Standing outside the fire" by Garth Brooks?

When I saw the title of this thread, I thought that someone was going to tell me to turn myself into the pol...Wait! Did some say "coffee"?