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Edited by
msharmony
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absolutely
anytime a doctor will be taking something out or cutting something open, I say, learn as much as you can about options and risks,,, |
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Before anyone freaks out, this is NOT about me. My ex is married to a woman who is 40 and she wants to have a baby. She has had 3 children but wants to have one with her new husband. This concerns me greatly as she is 40 and he is 45. What are your thoughts on having babies when you are over 40? Provided she is healthy and her doctor says it is ok, I think it is good. I had my two at the age of 34 and 37. A mature mother is more chilled-out. I would wish her all the best if I knew her. |
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Saying what I really mean...a woman of 40 with three children already wanting another child is being selfish. Regardless of whether she/they have the means to support another child shouldn't matter, she needs to concentrate on the children she already has and work on ensuring that they grow up as well adjusted young adults. I agree with this as well. |
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If I know my ex-husband, he will want her to have the genetic counseling and they will abort if there is anything wrong with the baby. I think that's what bothers me even more.
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If I know my ex-husband, he will want her to have the genetic counseling and they will abort if there is anything wrong with the baby. I think that's what bothers me even more. Not to get preachy, but the "charity" named Autism Speaks is looking for an Autism gene, so that they can do the same thing. Over 90% of Downs Syndrome babies are aborted now, imagine a world without Autistic people. 
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imagine a world without Autistic people. No, I don't want to. |
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gosh so many important historic figures are beleived to have autism...or aspergers really. Edison, Ford, Jefferson, Gates, blah blah blah. Sadly it has come to dollars and cents. Some countries will not provide any help or money to the parents if they have a child with any disabilities. I also think some parents themselves are just not equipped mentally to deal with these children. Having two brothers with mental illness my family could not afford to get them proper help nor could we help them so their lives were less than happy. One died from an accident and the other is homeless. The one that is homeless is beyond help and won't accept any help. |
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I think it would be terrible to just go by physical age I do think women should be checked for their HEALTH and told about their options and their risks based upon health In first pregnancies, then I totally agree as I think that every woman should experience childbirth however, I'm not as tolerant if a woman has existing children as I think the risks of possible, ongoing health issues with the child should outweigh a woman's desire for more children. Just because some women are able to carry a pregnancy to term at 40 or over with no problems, doesn't mean that they should. but all in all it really is no one else's business |
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i have a friend that had a baby girl at the age of 42 and the baby has (turners syndrome)so i dont think i would have a kid in my 40's but thats just me
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Edited by
wux
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Sun 02/19/12 08:33 PM
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As long as there are no health issues, what's the problem? Well... when the baby is ten, daddy's going to be 55. When daddy is still a young 68, the kid will already just have graduated from college... no problem. That is the problem. |
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Now days people are just starting familys at 40.
Although it mey not be some of our choice.It still remains theres.And they are the only ones that have to deal with it. j.m.o. |
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I think it would be terrible to just go by physical age I do think women should be checked for their HEALTH and told about their options and their risks based upon health In first pregnancies, then I totally agree as I think that every woman should experience childbirth however, I'm not as tolerant if a woman has existing children as I think the risks of possible, ongoing health issues with the child should outweigh a woman's desire for more children. Just because some women are able to carry a pregnancy to term at 40 or over with no problems, doesn't mean that they should. but all in all it really is no one else's business Actually, it kinda is as a proportion of my taxes go towards financing the health care system in the UK 
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Well, I don't want to turn this into a debate on abortion or taxpayers money being used for healthcare. But, they are issues that concern me on a greater level.
I have personal reasons for being concerned about this pregnancy as well. The effect it will have on my two daughters being the primary one. But, they will do what they will do. If she gets pregnant I will be praying very hard that she and the baby stay healthy. |
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I thought Autism Speaks was in the US...Or do you mean other countries would benefit by that. Actually the US doesnt include insurance coverage for autism treatment generally. There are plenty of Government programs to help autistic children and adults, you just have to find them. |
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If I know my ex-husband, he will want her to have the genetic counseling and they will abort if there is anything wrong with the baby. I think that's what bothers me even more. Not to get preachy, but the "charity" named Autism Speaks is looking for an Autism gene, so that they can do the same thing. Over 90% of Downs Syndrome babies are aborted now, imagine a world without Autistic people. imiagine if u were wrong and aborted a healthy baby & then something happened where u couldn't have any more? Don't people ever wonder - what if the tests are wrong this whole subject gives me the heebee geebees |
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its not about age,, its about HEALTH
“A healthy 42-year-old with no medical problems who is in good physical shape and conceives naturally is likely to have just as nice a pregnancy as a woman who is a decade younger,” says Laura Riley, MD, a maternal-fetal-medicine specialist at Massachusetts General Hospital and chairwoman of the communications committee of the Society of Maternal-Fetal Medicine. “But there are a fair number of women in their mid-40s getting pregnant through IVF who have a ‘touch’ of hypertension, are a little overweight, or are prediabetic, and that’s where we start running into problems.” http://www.health.com/health/article/0,,20411699_2,00.html if your body can still NATURALLY bear children and you are healthy, it shouldnt be much of an issue,,, |
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Before anyone freaks out, this is NOT about me. My ex is married to a woman who is 40 and she wants to have a baby. She has had 3 children but wants to have one with her new husband. This concerns me greatly as she is 40 and he is 45. What are your thoughts on having babies when you are over 40? Then,,the knowing for sure within their hearts that their love,,is ALL THAT for wanting to take this BIG step forward to do.. Then,,my own personal thoughts as to this,, Their abilities to KEEP-UP with that baby,,as babies are all the same as for their energy levels and fits of crying all night and them staying up with them,,and STILL being able to function at their jobs or to still tend to the baby's needs that very morning and all through that day,,w/o falling asleep and things,, PLUS,,not to many sixty year olds can play like when they were twenty year olds,,so if their health limits them to playing with their child in sports and outside doings,,THEY may feel guilt in that and never thought about THAT,,right now,,in wanting to have a baby...Just THINGS to think about here? And many of that babys friends,,will kid THEM,,about their parents being their grand parents,,,as the baby grows,,,I have SEEN THAT,,and lived it through a friend,,not a big deal,,but still,,an added stress for all if that were said and done...? |
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its not about age,, its about HEALTH “A healthy 42-year-old with no medical problems who is in good physical shape and conceives naturally is likely to have just as nice a pregnancy as a woman who is a decade younger,” says Laura Riley, MD, a maternal-fetal-medicine specialist at Massachusetts General Hospital and chairwoman of the communications committee of the Society of Maternal-Fetal Medicine. “But there are a fair number of women in their mid-40s getting pregnant through IVF who have a ‘touch’ of hypertension, are a little overweight, or are prediabetic, and that’s where we start running into problems.” http://www.health.com/health/article/0,,20411699_2,00.html if your body can still NATURALLY bear children and you are healthy, it shouldnt be much of an issue,,, I'm with msharmony, om this one. If the heart and body are willing, why not? |
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People tend to celebrate life, at any age. IQ, weight, height, age, are all just numbers. Life is a wonderful and unquantifiably magical experience, and one worth not missing out on.
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I don't see a problem with it at all.
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