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Edited by
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Well I guess what works for some doesn't work for others. If I hurt somebody and I know I did, I would be the first one to say I was sorry. If they hurt me I would expect the same respect. I guess this old gal needs the words along with actions.:Just a case of different strokes for different folks. 
Each to their own
==================================== So if I were to give you back your Duvet and threw in a massive Box of Hand Made Chocolates Two Bottles of your choice of wine, and an Open Ticket to visit Ireland...would I still have to say the words I am Sorry 
Do all that, then I will let you know. 
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Never having to say sorry Sorry...I don't agree with this. I think there are times you need to own up and say you are sorry. I agree. I found most men thought they could buy an apology with flowers which really pissed me off. I want to hear the words; I don't want any mindless gifts. 
I'll take both
I wonder iF men don't need the words,like women do. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Sun 02/19/12 11:38 AM
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Never having to say sorry Sorry...I don't agree with this. I think there are times you need to own up and say you are sorry. I agree. I found most men thought they could buy an apology with flowers which really pissed me off. I want to hear the words; I don't want any mindless gifts.
I'll take both
I wonder iF men don't need the words,like women do. Not me; I can't stand gifts. Makes me feel cheap; and also cheapens the apology. I want something from the heart; not the store shelf. |
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I agree. I found most men thought they could buy an apology with flowers which really pissed me off. I want to hear the words; I don't want any mindless gifts.
I'll take both
I wonder iF men don't need the words,like women do. Not me; I can't stand gifts. Makes me feel cheap; and also cheapens the apology. I want something from the heart; not the store shelf. Navygirl it is a hell of a lot easier to say I am Sorry and both men and women can do this without batting an eyelid and also not mean a word and yet be totally convincing. If the Real Love is There a Look is all it takes. and yes Betty men are no different than women but two experienced people who have been through the mill should have learned enough to not make the same mistakes. 
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Love...........
sucks you under..... little by little..... Until..... it chokes the life.... outta you..... Oh........ Wait....... that would be...... Quicksand.......... Nevermind!!!!!! 
Wait a minute......... It's kinda similar......... 
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. |
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. |
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I agree. I found most men thought they could buy an apology with flowers which really pissed me off. I want to hear the words; I don't want any mindless gifts.
I'll take both
I wonder iF men don't need the words,like women do. Not me; I can't stand gifts. Makes me feel cheap; and also cheapens the apology. I want something from the heart; not the store shelf. Navygirl it is a hell of a lot easier to say I am Sorry and both men and women can do this without batting an eyelid and also not mean a word and yet be totally convincing. If the Real Love is There a Look is all it takes. and yes Betty men are no different than women but two experienced people who have been through the mill should have learned enough to not make the same mistakes.
Well, I guess we are all different. I want to hear the words. Its called communication. |
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. There is a difference in my opinion between being in-love and loving. I still love my ex wife but I am not in Love with her. |
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. There is a difference in my opinion between being in-love and loving. I still love my ex wife but I am not in Love with her. I am not talking about when you divorced; I am talking about when you first fall in love and marry. I don't believe that you would marry and be with a person for 25 years if you never loved her in the first place. You may have fallen out of love with that person but initially do did love that person. |
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Edited by
Optomistic69
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Sun 02/19/12 02:39 PM
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. There is a difference in my opinion between being in-love and loving. I still love my ex wife but I am not in Love with her. I am not talking about when you divorced; I am talking about when you first fall in love and marry. I don't believe that you would marry and be with a person for 25 years if you never loved her in the first place. You may have fallen out of love with that person but initially do did love that person. I totally agree with you.... you cannot turn on and off love...
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. There is a difference in my opinion between being in-love and loving. I still love my ex wife but I am not in Love with her. I am not talking about when you divorced; I am talking about when you first fall in love and marry. I don't believe that you would marry and be with a person for 25 years if you never loved her in the first place. You may have fallen out of love with that person but initially do did love that person. I totally agree with you.... you cannot turn on and off love...
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Never having to say sorry Sorry...I don't agree with this. I think there are times you need to own up and say you are sorry. I agree. I found most men thought they could buy an apology with flowers which really pissed me off. I want to hear the words; I don't want any mindless gifts.
I'll take both
I wonder iF men don't need the words,like women do. Not me; I can't stand gifts. Makes me feel cheap; and also cheapens the apology. I want something from the heart; not the store shelf. I'll take the apology & the gift
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. Having also been married to a man with such a vision...I agree - if a man does that - never loved her in the first place - most likely |
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. There is a difference in my opinion between being in-love and loving. I still love my ex wife but I am not in Love with her. I am not talking about when you divorced; I am talking about when you first fall in love and marry. I don't believe that you would marry and be with a person for 25 years if you never loved her in the first place. You may have fallen out of love with that person but initially do did love that person. You may not believe it, but I lived that life for 26 years. I loved my ex with all my heart, but he informed me that he never loved me and he only got married because it was time and everyone said he should. It was a game to him and I believed his lies. Was it love you might ask, that I had for him? Yes it was. Just because love might be based on lies, does not make it any less of a love. So no, he did not fall out of love with me, and he never initally loved me. |
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..wow.. >.> ..can't believe this thread is still thriving. :O Sweet. :D <3 you all. :) |
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O.O ..wow.. >.> ..can't believe this thread is still thriving. :O Sweet. :D <3 you all. :) well you started it so should also know that love is infinite you might want to time stamp it while u can |
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. There is a difference in my opinion between being in-love and loving. I still love my ex wife but I am not in Love with her. I am not talking about when you divorced; I am talking about when you first fall in love and marry. I don't believe that you would marry and be with a person for 25 years if you never loved her in the first place. You may have fallen out of love with that person but initially do did love that person. You may not believe it, but I lived that life for 26 years. I loved my ex with all my heart, but he informed me that he never loved me and he only got married because it was time and everyone said he should. It was a game to him and I believed his lies. Was it love you might ask, that I had for him? Yes it was. Just because love might be based on lies, does not make it any less of a love. So no, he did not fall out of love with me, and he never initally loved me. Wow, that is sad but I am sure that is not the norm for long term relationships. I often did wonder if people married out of necessity or because society expects you too. Either way; its two lives that have wasted many years when they could have been much happier. Guess I should consider myself lucky that I didn't marry and go through that.
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Edited by
sweetestgirl11
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Sun 02/19/12 04:51 PM
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Incidentially, if a man leaves his wife of 25 years for a younger woman; you are trying to tell me he never loved her in the first place? Yep. And that is a hard thing to accept. But when you do, it is so liberating. I don't belive it. I think they very much did love each other as they married each other. I just think over the years they grew apart and fell out of love. There is a difference in my opinion between being in-love and loving. I still love my ex wife but I am not in Love with her. I am not talking about when you divorced; I am talking about when you first fall in love and marry. I don't believe that you would marry and be with a person for 25 years if you never loved her in the first place. You may have fallen out of love with that person but initially do did love that person. You may not believe it, but I lived that life for 26 years. I loved my ex with all my heart, but he informed me that he never loved me and he only got married because it was time and everyone said he should. It was a game to him and I believed his lies. Was it love you might ask, that I had for him? Yes it was. Just because love might be based on lies, does not make it any less of a love. So no, he did not fall out of love with me, and he never initally loved me. Wow, that is sad but I am sure that is not the norm for long term relationships. I often did wonder if people married out of necessity or because society expects you too. Either way; its two lives that have wasted many years when they could have been much happier. Guess I should consider myself lucky that I didn't marry and go through that.
I would not change my choices but people make choices to marry for as many reasons as there are stars in the sky (some brighter than others )
and people make choices to split up for as many reasons as there are grains of sand on the beach and also people (me included) say really stupid things sometimes and we are usually at our stupidest when it comes to love how long does it take to get a passing grade in Love IQ???
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