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Topic: better is not good enough.
pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Sat 02/11/12 01:44 PM
They are trying to close the deal ..in hopes when the cat comes out of the bag...you won't mind. dummies.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 02/11/12 01:54 PM
They are trying to close the deal ..in hopes when the cat comes out of the bag...you won't mind. dummies. Exactly..although in my mind, the real "dummies" are the ones that then have a go at you for being 'judgemental' for not wanting anything to do with them after they've misrepresented themselves...it's just mad

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 02/11/12 03:15 PM
Why is that many of our men and women in an online dating site are not truthful,sincere and openminded.why? in some shape form or fashion ....."everyone lies" noway.. I don't tell lies. so your birth name is "joy4gud"? if it's not, then it's an example of how "Everyone Lies" if it is, then it's an example of how sometimes parents can be so cruel Where did she say her user id was her birth name? If she specifically told you that and it wasn't, then yes, it was a lie. If she didn't tell you it was her birth name when it wasn't, she didn't lie. no need to specifically tell me..the user name is either the name presented on her birth certificate or it's not ...calling an altered name a User I.D. is an attempt at justification and/or a form of acceptable lying Not at all. My user name is not my birth name. I've never said it was, either, so there has been no lying about it.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 02/11/12 03:16 PM
Unfortunately, this is one of the pitfalls of online dating. Some misrepresent themselves hoping that you will 'fall' for them regardless of the lies...not realising they WILL be rejected them not because of who they are but because of the lies they told. Maybe I’m just cynical but it does amaze me that some people loose their common sense when it comes to online dating...take whatever is typed to you or said to you with a pinch of salt until you know differently. That doesn’t mean that you can’t ‘fall’ for someone that you met online someone it just means that until you meet face to face and spent some time with him/her, it’s not really real. It's not just online dating. It can happen anywhere. I have to disagree with you Sing. Granted a guy can just as easily lie in realife as he can online but in real life scenario's, if you've met him, he can't pretend to be a 6', musclebound Adonis as easily as he can hiding behind a computer screen or a telephone. Sure, but he can certainly lie about other things. That's what I'm talking about.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 02/11/12 04:14 PM
Why is that many of our men and women in an online dating site are not truthful,sincere and openminded.why? in some shape form or fashion ....."everyone lies" noway.. I don't tell lies. so your birth name is "joy4gud"? if it's not, then it's an example of how "Everyone Lies" if it is, then it's an example of how sometimes parents can be so cruel Where did she say her user id was her birth name? If she specifically told you that and it wasn't, then yes, it was a lie. If she didn't tell you it was her birth name when it wasn't, she didn't lie. no need to specifically tell me..the user name is either the name presented on her birth certificate or it's not ...calling an altered name a User I.D. is an attempt at justification and/or a form of acceptable lying Not at all. My user name is not my birth name. I've never said it was, either, so there has been no lying about it. it's called "Lying by Omission"

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 02/11/12 04:24 PM Edited by singmesweet on Sat 02/11/12 04:26 PM
Funches, you must really be looking for people to lie, as you're really, really reaching there. But hey, if you want to assume that everyone is trying to tell you that their user id is their real name, go for it.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 02/11/12 04:51 PM
Funches, you must really be looking for people to lie, as you're really, really reaching there. But hey, if you want to assume that everyone is trying to tell you that their user id is their real name, go for it. no ...I'm simply saying, that anything but the truth can only be a lie

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 02/11/12 04:55 PM


funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 02/11/12 05:01 PM
using a User I.D.as your name offline would constitute as lying ....but yet for some odd reason using a user I.D. as your name online is not lying

DaddyTime Joined Wed 02/01/12 Posts: 530	Sat 02/11/12 05:09 PM
using a User I.D.as your name offline would constitute as lying ....but yet for some odd reason using a user I.D. as your name online is not lying it's not lying either way, A user name is a nick name, you are not supposed to use you're given name. It is not a lie as it is still you're name just not you're given name. Now since it is you're name you could reply with either if asked you're name and not be lying. if someone asked you for you're given name and you replied with you're user name then it would be a lie. Don't even know why I replied to this as i can see it being a waste of time trying to explain this.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 02/11/12 05:21 PM
it's not lying either way, A user name is a nick name, you are not supposed to use you're given name. so it's the Internet's fault why people lie

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 02/11/12 05:28 PM
Don't even know why I replied to this as i can see it being a waste of time trying to explain this. right...imagine trying to explain it to a police office at a traffic violation stop well you see officer...it's ok to use a User I.D. name on your drivers license . and besides it's like a nick name so that means it's my real name but just not my birth name ...

DaddyTime Joined Wed 02/01/12 Posts: 530	Sat 02/11/12 05:35 PM
it's not lying either way, A user name is a nick name, you are not supposed to use you're given name. so it's the Internet's fault why people lie it's not any more of a lie then saying you're a man, or how old you are, a user name is simply another way to distinguish yourself. it is a user name not you're given name, when you enter you're name in the field it does not say to enter the name you're parents gave you. you're user name is not a lie it is a name to distinguish yourself from the rest. if we all used the name's we were given then there would be a lot of confusion. There is no lie in a user name as you nor the internet are not deceiving anyone. If you were meant to use the name you're parents gave you and entered something else then it's a lie. A nick name is no more a lie then you middle or last name, no more a lie then you're hair or eye color. it is simply one more thing that defines you.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 02/11/12 05:41 PM
it's not any more of a lie then saying you're a man, or how old you are, a user name is simply another way to distinguish yourself. offline that's called a fake I.D.

DaddyTime Joined Wed 02/01/12 Posts: 530	Sat 02/11/12 05:42 PM
it's not any more of a lie then saying you're a man, or how old you are, a user name is simply another way to distinguish yourself. offline that's called a fake I.D. No it's not, it's called a nick name, like cue ball or Big mama. you won't see it on a n id, people know you're given name yet still call you by the nick name. No lies involved.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 02/11/12 05:44 PM
No it's not, it's called a nick name, like cue ball or Big mama. I'm pretty sure they place Big mama and Cue Ball on their tax returns

DaddyTime Joined Wed 02/01/12 Posts: 530	Sat 02/11/12 05:51 PM
No it's not, it's called a nick name, like cue ball or Big mama. I'm pretty sure they place Big mama and Cue Ball on their tax returns If they did in place of their given name then that would be a lie, as it gives straight instructions as to the name you must place in those fields.

MorningSong Joined Mon 02/11/08 Posts: 4505	Sat 02/11/12 06:12 PM
You know!we all have one thing or the other in mind even outside online dating.why i asked this question is that i came across a man online and eventually we were talking on phone for quite a long time of six months before we met face to face.when we met what i found out from him was nt what he told me when were communicating on line and phone.i felt bad because i had fallen for him and this had me made me to just have the guys as friends.until may be the right man comes but ever since then i dont have that heart to date.am not happy at all. I think the problem was waiting six months before you two met .... Personally, I think it is always best to meet a potential mate within just a few weeks... to see if there is any potential for a real relationship to develop. A truly interested partner will also make arrangements to meet on an ongoing basis .

Bravalady Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 1034	Sat 02/11/12 08:26 PM
You know!we all have one thing or the other in mind even outside online dating.why i asked this question is that i came across a man online and eventually we were talking on phone for quite a long time of six months before we met face to face.when we met what i found out from him was nt what he told me when were communicating on line and phone.i felt bad because i had fallen for him and this had me made me to just have the guys as friends.until may be the right man comes but ever since then i dont have that heart to date.am not happy at all. I think the problem was waiting six months before you two met .... Personally, I think it is always best to meet a potential mate within just a few weeks... to see if there is any potential for a real relationship to develop. A truly interested partner will also make arrangements to meet on an ongoing basis . ^^ This. I really think it's best to meet in person as soon as you feel you can do it safely.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 02/11/12 08:30 PM
using a User I.D.as your name offline would constitute as lying ....but yet for some odd reason using a user I.D. as your name online is not lying Do you believe using a nickname of any form is lying?