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I think we could just as easily turn this around and say that there are certain things a guy would appreciate from a woman on a date. If I showed up in sweats and a baggy t-shirt, cussing like a sailor and asking you why you picked such a crappy restaurant to take me to....you might not want to go out with me again.  aha Now i know why I'm single. Thanks Ruth 
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I wasn't meaning for it to be taken offensively, if that's how you took it originally. Just stating my own opinion. I wasn't offended.  My point is simply that we all have expectations and that is not necessarily a bad thing. |
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DaddyTime
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Thu 02/09/12 12:01 PM
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I think we could just as easily turn this around and say that there are certain things a guy would appreciate from a woman on a date. If I showed up in sweats and a baggy t-shirt, cussing like a sailor and asking you why you picked such a crappy restaurant to take me to....you might not want to go out with me again. aside from and asking you why you picked such a crappy restaurant to take me to It does not sound that bad. sweats and a t shirt can be sexy, my grandmother could cuss worse then anyone I know was a beautiful women. if the restaurant was crapy and she was more joking in her mocking of me meh. |
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Sexting, poking and online dating aside, when it comes to romance, women still expect men to hold the door open and pay for the first date, a new Harlequin poll found. Even as the methods become modern, the traditional attitudes remain, the publisher found in an online poll of 1,500 single women aged 18 to 40. More than half the women surveyed (56%) said they feel pressure to be married or in a committed relationship. And while the vast majority agree that the dating game has changed, more than half still expect the man to ask them out (59%), hold the door for them (54%) and pay for the first date (51%). Half the women in the 25-35 age group said they had never tried online dating. Still, technology does play a part: 52% of respondents said they use Facebook to check out prospective dates; 43% admitted to sexting; and 27% said they had e-mailed or texted nude photos. Penn, Schoen & Berland conducted the survey between Jan. 2 and 6. It is accurate to within 2.5 percentage points. Got a link for the poll? |
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Here's my take on such polls...
They're a bunch of b.s. That's because it plays to those who feel they must act like someone else in order to find a date. It's just another way to tell people "hey, this is what you're doing wrong!" in a generalized manner without taking in personal variables. Those that take heed alter the playing field in a "phony" way. In other words, some guys will now start opening doors just to improve their chances whether they are interested or are just looking for a piece of a$$. That only muddies the waters further. A guy that acts gentlemanly because it's who he is will act that way most all of the time. The phony is going to revert to old habits sooner or later once he feels comfortable with how things are going. The truth will out....but the polls breed doubt. |
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I think we could just as easily turn this around and say that there are certain things a guy would appreciate from a woman on a date. If I showed up in sweats and a baggy t-shirt, cussing like a sailor and asking you why you picked such a crappy restaurant to take me to....you might not want to go out with me again. aha Now i know why I'm single. Thanks Ruth 
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IMO: Gentlemanly manners are a form of romantic, but non-sexual flirting. It's a way of saying "I'm interested in the whole package, not just the lady parts". I can see why women would want that. So, any time you hold a door open for a women, you're showing her that you're interested in her? |
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Sexting, poking and online dating aside, when it comes to romance, women still expect men to hold the door open and pay for the first date, a new Harlequin poll found. Even as the methods become modern, the traditional attitudes remain, the publisher found in an online poll of 1,500 single women aged 18 to 40. More than half the women surveyed (56%) said they feel pressure to be married or in a committed relationship. And while the vast majority agree that the dating game has changed, more than half still expect the man to ask them out (59%), hold the door for them (54%) and pay for the first date (51%). Half the women in the 25-35 age group said they had never tried online dating. Still, technology does play a part: 52% of respondents said they use Facebook to check out prospective dates; 43% admitted to sexting; and 27% said they had e-mailed or texted nude photos. Penn, Schoen & Berland conducted the survey between Jan. 2 and 6. It is accurate to within 2.5 percentage points. Got a link for the poll? here's the source link http://www.winnipegsun.com/2012/02/09/women-like-gentlemanly-manners-on-dates-poll |
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I think we could just as easily turn this around and say that there are certain things a guy would appreciate from a woman on a date. If I showed up in sweats and a baggy t-shirt, cussing like a sailor and asking you why you picked such a crappy restaurant to take me to....you might not want to go out with me again. To me, this is much different than what was mentioned in the OP. Are you going to not go out with someone because he may not have held a door open? Or because he didn't pay for dinner? Those aren't really things I expect on a first date. I may have gotten to the door first and held it open for him, or offered to pay my share. |
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Here's my take on such polls... They're a bunch of b.s. That's because it plays to those who feel they must act like someone else in order to find a date. It's just another way to tell people "hey, this is what you're doing wrong!" in a generalized manner without taking in personal variables. Those that take heed alter the playing field in a "phony" way. In other words, some guys will now start opening doors just to improve their chances whether they are interested or are just looking for a piece of a$$. That only muddies the waters further. A guy that acts gentlemanly because it's who he is will act that way most all of the time. The phony is going to revert to old habits sooner or later once he feels comfortable with how things are going. The truth will out....but the polls breed doubt. There's nothing wrong with learning better behavior. It's a good thing. If I'm a screaming shrew of a woman and my husband leaves because of it, is it wrong for me to learn how to be a better communicator and a more loving partner so my next relationship lasts? |
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Sexting, poking and online dating aside, when it comes to romance, women still expect men to hold the door open and pay for the first date, a new Harlequin poll found. Even as the methods become modern, the traditional attitudes remain, the publisher found in an online poll of 1,500 single women aged 18 to 40. More than half the women surveyed (56%) said they feel pressure to be married or in a committed relationship. And while the vast majority agree that the dating game has changed, more than half still expect the man to ask them out (59%), hold the door for them (54%) and pay for the first date (51%). Half the women in the 25-35 age group said they had never tried online dating. Still, technology does play a part: 52% of respondents said they use Facebook to check out prospective dates; 43% admitted to sexting; and 27% said they had e-mailed or texted nude photos. Penn, Schoen & Berland conducted the survey between Jan. 2 and 6. It is accurate to within 2.5 percentage points. Got a link for the poll? here's the source link http://www.winnipegsun.com/2012/02/09/women-like-gentlemanly-manners-on-dates-poll Am I missing where they show the actual poll results? Or is that everything right there in the article? |
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Girls generally like to feel special..and I do not mean short bus special either.
What I find amusing is the girls who like that kind of treatment also don't want to be placed in the kitchen lol!! Double standards if you ask me!
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Sexting, poking and online dating aside, when it comes to romance, women still expect men to hold the door open and pay for the first date, a new Harlequin poll found. Even as the methods become modern, the traditional attitudes remain, the publisher found in an online poll of 1,500 single women aged 18 to 40. More than half the women surveyed (56%) said they feel pressure to be married or in a committed relationship. And while the vast majority agree that the dating game has changed, more than half still expect the man to ask them out (59%), hold the door for them (54%) and pay for the first date (51%). Half the women in the 25-35 age group said they had never tried online dating. Still, technology does play a part: 52% of respondents said they use Facebook to check out prospective dates; 43% admitted to sexting; and 27% said they had e-mailed or texted nude photos. Penn, Schoen & Berland conducted the survey between Jan. 2 and 6. It is accurate to within 2.5 percentage points. Got a link for the poll? here's the source link http://www.winnipegsun.com/2012/02/09/women-like-gentlemanly-manners-on-dates-poll Am I missing where they show the actual poll results? Or is that everything right there in the article? all I can find is this exact same story nothing else, the least these media outlet could have done was to do it in there own words rather then simply posting the press release. |
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Girls generally like to feel special..and I do not mean short bus special either. What I find amusing is the girls who like that kind of treatment also don't want to be placed in the kitchen lol!! Double standards if you ask me! ...so do some guys. Some guys like to feel their special too not just a mere civil servant to their woman. |
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Girls generally like to feel special..and I do not mean short bus special either. What I find amusing is the girls who like that kind of treatment also don't want to be placed in the kitchen lol!! Double standards if you ask me! It's not so much NOT wanting to be in the kitchen, It's more being "expected" to be "placed" in the kitchen.... 
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Harlequin poll ..I guess I'm the only one that found that 'funny'. |
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IMO: Gentlemanly manners are a form of romantic, but non-sexual flirting. It's a way of saying "I'm interested in the whole package, not just the lady parts". I can see why women would want that. So, any time you hold a door open for a women, you're showing her that you're interested in her? No, I hold the door for anybody if I'm going through it, including men. There is a thin line between being gentlemanly polite and gentlemanly flirting. I suppose my previous statement didn't leave open the possibility of just being gentlemanly polite. If you are woman who is cold, I'm going to give you my coat. If you are a woman who needs a seat, I'm going to give you mine. But I don't open car doors for you unless I'm interested. I'm not going to pull out your chair for you, unless I'm interested. I suppose it's flirtation when you go out of your way to do nice things for another, when they aren't suffering discomfort in any way. I don't consider giving a cold woman my coat to be flirting, because she's a human who is suffering discomfort. But my female friends have to open their own car doors. |
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IMO: Gentlemanly manners are a form of romantic, but non-sexual flirting. It's a way of saying "I'm interested in the whole package, not just the lady parts". I can see why women would want that. So, any time you hold a door open for a women, you're showing her that you're interested in her? No, I hold the door for anybody if I'm going through it, including men. There is a thin line between being gentlemanly polite and gentlemanly flirting. I suppose my previous statement didn't leave open the possibility of just being gentlemanly polite. If you are woman who is cold, I'm going to give you my coat. If you are a woman who needs a seat, I'm going to give you mine. But I don't open car doors for you unless I'm interested. I'm not going to pull out your chair for you, unless I'm interested. I suppose it's flirtation when you go out of your way to do nice things for another, when they aren't suffering discomfort in any way. I don't consider giving a cold woman my coat to be flirting, because she's a human who is suffering discomfort. But my female friends have to open their own car doors. Thanks for explaining. I don't really expect those things such as opening a car door, or pulling out my chair (has never happened and I don't see the point of it anyway). So, I don't look for them as an indication as someone is interested in me or flirting with me. |
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Girls generally like to feel special..and I do not mean short bus special either. What I find amusing is the girls who like that kind of treatment also don't want to be placed in the kitchen lol!! Double standards if you ask me! ...so do some guys. Some guys like to feel their special too not just a mere civil servant to their woman. If she does not make you feel special then you are with the wrong woman. |
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Girls generally like to feel special..and I do not mean short bus special either. What I find amusing is the girls who like that kind of treatment also don't want to be placed in the kitchen lol!! Double standards if you ask me! ...so do some guys. Some guys like to feel their special too not just a mere civil servant to their woman. If she does not make you feel special then you are with the wrong woman. ..and that's why I'm single. >.> |
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