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Topic: How to tell if someone is interested in you?
rille89 Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 75	Tue 01/31/12 06:40 PM
IOIs or indicators of interest. How close do they stand next to you, do they touch you, do they laugh at your jokes, etc,etc. yup. and then goes all the missunderstandings. like with those girls flirting in every direction without knowing it (some not all!)

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 06:47 PM
IOIs or indicators of interest. How close do they stand next to you, do they touch you, do they laugh at your jokes, etc,etc. yup. and then goes all the missunderstandings. like with those girls flirting in every direction without knowing it (some not all!) Or even when one thinks the other is flirting, yet they were just being friendly.

rille89 Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 75	Tue 01/31/12 06:51 PM
IOIs or indicators of interest. How close do they stand next to you, do they touch you, do they laugh at your jokes, etc,etc. yup. and then goes all the missunderstandings. like with those girls flirting in every direction without knowing it (some not all!) Or even when one thinks the other is flirting, yet they were just being friendly. yes... excactly... so why even risk all that :(

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Tue 01/31/12 06:52 PM
Lex, someone calling you sexy is vague?! Think about it. They are telling you that when they look at you, they think of sex. How vague is that? Is it your experience that women say this to just any guy? I think I really do have a mental block with this sort of thing. I just can't interpret it as real interest. My brain says "they're having fun, it's all rhetorical, it's not literally what it sounds like." Of course, I have Asperger's, so I just don't catch a lot of what most people would see as the obvious clues in this kind of situation.

rille89 Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 75	Tue 01/31/12 06:53 PM
the best would be just to cal mr. hitch in the beginning. hes the expert i'we heard :)

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Tue 01/31/12 06:54 PM
Now that is where I do miss the signals. There was a man interested in me a few years back and every person in the room knew it but me. I just thought he was being friendly; never realized he looked at me as anything more than a friend. I suppose that way of thinking is because I have been "one of the boys" so long that I forget sometimes that I am a female. well if he never asked you out or for your phone number to give you an idea of his interest that is not your fault. It's pretty lame if he was really that interested to not at least call you & ask if you'd like to go out....jmho

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 01/31/12 06:55 PM
IOIs or indicators of interest. How close do they stand next to you, do they touch you, do they laugh at your jokes, etc,etc. yup. and then goes all the missunderstandings. like with those girls flirting in every direction without knowing it (some not all!) Or even when one thinks the other is flirting, yet they were just being friendly. yes... excactly... so why even risk all that :( Why not? So there was a misunderstanding.. it's not a huge deal. If you don't risk anything, you may be waiting around, just wondering what might have happened.

rille89 Joined Thu 01/26/12 Posts: 75	Tue 01/31/12 07:08 PM
Why not? So there was a misunderstanding.. it's not a huge deal. If you don't risk anything, you may be waiting around, just wondering what might have happened. sometimes it may play a big deal, most times not. but all this changes for each situation. but i know for certain. a nothing is better than a rejection. at least that's my opinion.

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Wed 02/01/12 06:46 AM
hm i dunno never had that happen b4 usually its me that throws out subtle lil signs

insangel Joined Thu 11/03/11 Posts: 258	Wed 02/01/12 06:50 AM
normaly by LISTENING and PAYING ATTENTION:)

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/01/12 09:58 AM Edited by MariahsFantasy on Wed 02/01/12 10:04 AM
normaly by LISTENING and PAYING ATTENTION:) Aren't those human signals? A guy could always interpret that as him just being a joe shmo. The bastard.

Spenzer Joined Fri 01/20/12 Posts: 260	Wed 02/01/12 10:02 AM
I too suck at getting it when someone is interested in me I can't tell and it really sucks that I cant

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45353	Wed 02/01/12 10:51 AM
This is not an ego thing, but I assume they are all interested. I used to have a boss, I was 19 and he was in his mid '60s. He was the only man I ever knew that did not hit on me. I greatly admired this. Then one day, long after I had left the company and he was retired, his wife died. He called and asked me out. I am still not over it. I think, in the end, it is because I just am less annoying than other women.. someone has to be :-)

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Wed 02/01/12 10:54 AM
IOIs or indicators of interest. How close do they stand next to you, do they touch you, do they laugh at your jokes, etc,etc. yup. and then goes all the missunderstandings. like with those girls flirting in every direction without knowing it (some not all!) Or even when one thinks the other is flirting, yet they were just being friendly. yes... excactly... so why even risk all that :( why not? what if you are right? what if u are wrong? so what? what does it matter? except that you keep poundin' the boards

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Wed 02/01/12 12:39 PM
IOIs or indicators of interest. How close do they stand next to you, do they touch you, do they laugh at your jokes, etc,etc. yup. and then goes all the missunderstandings. like with those girls flirting in every direction without knowing it (some not all!) Or even when one thinks the other is flirting, yet they were just being friendly. yes... excactly... so why even risk all that :( why not? what if you are right? what if u are wrong? so what? what does it matter? except that you keep poundin' the boards hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/01/12 12:49 PM
This is not an ego thing, but I assume they are all interested. I used to have a boss, I was 19 and he was in his mid '60s. He was the only man I ever knew that did not hit on me. I greatly admired this. Then one day, long after I had left the company and he was retired, his wife died. He called and asked me out. I am still not over it. I think, in the end, it is because I just am less annoying than other women.. someone has to be :-) That's an interestingly awkward circumstance. Though I can imagine how hard it must be to extract this memory from your mind. I honestly would not know how to handle it myself, and I've had older men proposition me in the past.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45353	Wed 02/01/12 01:05 PM
It was awful. I had worshipped the ground he walked on. I thought he was 'above' it all. I think I stuttered. I do not know the answer to, how to say no.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/01/12 01:10 PM
Sometimes I think the word "no" is a lot more powerful than its adverse.

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Wed 02/01/12 01:12 PM
Sometimes I think the word "no" is a lot more powerful than its adverse. pick urself up girl never lay down for anyone ur too special for that

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Wed 02/01/12 01:14 PM
Sometimes I think the word "no" is a lot more powerful than its adverse. pick urself up girl never lay down for anyone ur too special for that Dude if I said yes to everything how gnarly would that be? I'd be like some kinda preset robot.