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uh. ive made a guy wait for me before just to prove something. and he went along with it too and he waited like 2 months. then we did it and then a couple more times, and THEN he left me... I don't think there's really any way to guarantee it will work. Some guys will wait to get what they want and move on. |
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Edited by
MariahsFantasy
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Wed 01/18/12 12:13 PM
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Sexual relationships aren't worth it. To some they are fun, appear to be but in the end, you'll crave for more always. We're all wired the same in that sense. Sex is an important part of a relationship. I don't believe those who say they disagree. Men who can wait are worth it in the end. Sex is vital in a connection. I'm not saying it should be extracted. How long does someone have to wait to show they're worth it? Until both are ready. Very simple. Ah, ok. The reason I was asking was because it sounded like you had them wait for a specific period of time to show they're worth having sex with. If it's a mutual decision to wait, awesome. Nah, being a Scorpio, I am a pretty passionate person. CAN'T help that. It just has to be at the right time with me. I show affections leading up to it though. Kissing I just cannot let go of. 
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I think sex early or after 6 months has little to do with success..
"Show me a picture of a fine woman and I'll show you one of a man that is tired of Fning her.." I don't recall who I should give credit for that line, but its as true as the day is long.. |
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Sex is a two way street... there is no he chose or she chose. How can you ask someone to have sex, and then when they oblige, be disappointed? I mean why ask to begin with? If you don't want the results, don't take the tests... pretty simple. For those who say the sex must be immediate, they are not even interested in the relationship. The word immediate proves that. It is one thing to move fast in a relationship if that is what the participants are comfortable with, it is a whole other to say "for me to care about you, you have to put out". Nice to hear a guy say that. |
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This type of question is so over done. And it is overanalyzed. And it all has to do with the common "myth's" we have all heard.
-All guys want to get laid. -All women want to tease but not please. -Men think with the wrong head. -Men cannot be committed to just one woman. -Women can't make up their damned mind. How about this. Just try living in the moment. Ok, so you met a guy once and you banged him that very first night. And then three weeks later, poof....he's gone. Ask yourslef...did he make you sling leg? Did you just give in to lust and (while him vanishing sucks) perhaps it is for the best? I mean....we all just overanalyze crap to no end. Yeah, I am guilty of it too. Bottom line is this. If you meet a man or woman and you decide that you don't want to give in to having sex too soon, then stick to it. But don't go thinking that cause you make him/her wait that it means they desire more with you. That right there is another common myth. Fact is, when you meet someone and you click with them, then that is a rare thing. And sex is just s fantastic way of enjoying each other intimately. Yeah, sex can be just sex (with the right mindset), but sex with someone you love is freaking amazing. Goof out! |
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This type of question is so over done. And it is overanalyzed. And it all has to do with the common "myth's" we have all heard. -All guys want to get laid. -All women want to tease but not please. -Men think with the wrong head. -Men cannot be committed to just one woman. -Women can't make up their damned mind. How about this. Just try living in the moment. Ok, so you met a guy once and you banged him that very first night. And then three weeks later, poof....he's gone. Ask yourslef...did he make you sling leg? Did you just give in to lust and (while him vanishing sucks) perhaps it is for the best? I mean....we all just overanalyze crap to no end. Yeah, I am guilty of it too. Bottom line is this. If you meet a man or woman and you decide that you don't want to give in to having sex too soon, then stick to it. But don't go thinking that cause you make him/her wait that it means they desire more with you. That right there is another common myth. Fact is, when you meet someone and you click with them, then that is a rare thing. And sex is just s fantastic way of enjoying each other intimately. Yeah, sex can be just sex (with the right mindset), but sex with someone you love is freaking amazing. Goof out! Well said. |
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If he's worthy of a relationship in the first place he would wait until she is ready..... why force or asks her to do it immediately if sex isn't the only thing he's out after.
I suggest you wait just to see if he is genuine and if a relationaship is what u want as well. If not then use him for a one night stand and move on! unfortunately - like it or not - you defintely risk losing him id u sleep with him right away not a value judgement - it is what it is - a double standard mostly - but as far as I can see it's alive & well so if u don't care if it goes anywhere ur fine to do that if YOU can live with that but if you want a future with him, it's best to wait - at least till you know if he is trustworthy and REALLY single - even better wait long enuff to see if he is relationship material himself If you're holding out on sex to find out if he's trustworthy, do you think most will actually stick around? That's a game as well. I say do what you're comfortable with. If you're comfortable enough with someone to have sex early on, go for it. If you really need to wait it out, then do so. Either way, it may or may not work out how you want it to work out. |
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Edited by
Bushidobillyclub
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Wed 01/18/12 01:38 PM
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If they don't respect something they asked for and went along with, I'd have to ask why they're doing it in the first place? BAM, if a person is irrational . . . why worry what they think? Trust me, I value a person by what they think, however its mutual. If I think sleeping with a person shortly after meeting them is some how deserving of less respect, then I would be a hypocrite for doing the same. After all it takes two to tango. |
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I can understand a question like this being asked of high school kids. As teenagers we were always looking forward to having sex 24/7. Being older, I still think about it quite a bit but I would never demand or expect anything from anyone.
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If they don't respect something they asked for and went along with, I'd have to ask why they're doing it in the first place? BAM, if a person is irrational . . . why worry what they think? Trust me, I value a person by what they think, however its mutual. If I think sleeping with a person shortly after meeting them is some how deserving of less respect, then I would be a hypocrite for doing the same. After all it takes two to tango. 
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As a man that has never pushed a woman for sex, and have always wanted it to happen naturally when we both wanted it to happen, I can honestly and with decades of experience tell my fellow men that there is no better way to end up permanently in "The Friend Zone"!
 
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If the sex is good enough...you won't be able to get rid of the guy....just sayin.......
Hell, it worked on me! My woman ain't never gonna get rid of me. :) |
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Every situation is going to be different depending on the personal preferences of the people in the relationship. Personally, I don't expect sex on a first date. For that matter, I'm not expecting it in the first 2 weeks. However, I wouldn't be against it on a first date, but I would rather not for personal reasons.
I prefer to get to know her first. I know I have a problem when it comes to sex. I can get attached to someone very quickly when sex is involved. So I like to take my time and see if she is what I'm looking for before I worry about sex. I will admit, from the first time I lay eyes on "her", I'm thinking about it. That doesn't mean I'm going to do anything about it. I would rather get to know her well enough to decide if her values, personality, morals, upbringing, sense of humor, etc, are what I'm looking for in a significant other. Or if we would be better off looking elsewhere for a relationship. |
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This type of question is so over done. And it is overanalyzed. And it all has to do with the common "myth's" we have all heard. -All guys want to get laid. -All women want to tease but not please. -Men think with the wrong head. -Men cannot be committed to just one woman. -Women can't make up their damned mind. How about this. Just try living in the moment. Ok, so you met a guy once and you banged him that very first night. And then three weeks later, poof....he's gone. Ask yourslef...did he make you sling leg? Did you just give in to lust and (while him vanishing sucks) perhaps it is for the best? I mean....we all just overanalyze crap to no end. Yeah, I am guilty of it too. Bottom line is this. If you meet a man or woman and you decide that you don't want to give in to having sex too soon, then stick to it. But don't go thinking that cause you make him/her wait that it means they desire more with you. That right there is another common myth. Fact is, when you meet someone and you click with them, then that is a rare thing. And sex is just s fantastic way of enjoying each other intimately. Yeah, sex can be just sex (with the right mindset), but sex with someone you love is freaking amazing. Goof out! none of that makes any sense and is full of contradictions - written most likely by a guy who wants to get laid with little care for who he may hurt in the process... |
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if your looking for relationship material and the girl goes all the way with you very soon after meeting her, including oral and intercourse do you still respect her or even though you asked for it and went along with it when she obliged are you secretly disappointed???? I know some guys who've told me that the sex must be immediate because without sex theres no chance for relationship... No. And the sex doesn't necessarily have to come on the first time out either. |
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If the sex is good enough...you won't be able to get rid of the guy....just sayin....... Hell, it worked on me! My woman ain't never gonna get rid of me. :) I definitely agree that this CAN happen, but when it does - there is more than just sex involved - another kind of unique connection you usually don't know if you are in love in an instant (with regards to instantneous sex) and while waiting is certainly no 100% guarantee - you do have a better handle on what the dude is after (or woman) that way...cuz people will say anything to get what they want in the moment at hand....(I say woman also cuz I think females are def just as capable of being users) |
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This type of question is so over done. And it is overanalyzed. And it all has to do with the common "myth's" we have all heard. -All guys want to get laid. -All women want to tease but not please. -Men think with the wrong head. -Men cannot be committed to just one woman. -Women can't make up their damned mind. How about this. Just try living in the moment. Ok, so you met a guy once and you banged him that very first night. And then three weeks later, poof....he's gone. Ask yourslef...did he make you sling leg? Did you just give in to lust and (while him vanishing sucks) perhaps it is for the best? I mean....we all just overanalyze crap to no end. Yeah, I am guilty of it too. Bottom line is this. If you meet a man or woman and you decide that you don't want to give in to having sex too soon, then stick to it. But don't go thinking that cause you make him/her wait that it means they desire more with you. That right there is another common myth. Fact is, when you meet someone and you click with them, then that is a rare thing. And sex is just s fantastic way of enjoying each other intimately. Yeah, sex can be just sex (with the right mindset), but sex with someone you love is freaking amazing. Goof out! none of that makes any sense and is full of contradictions - written most likely by a guy who wants to get laid with little care for who he may hurt in the process... Sure it makes sense. When it comes down to it, if you want to wait, then wait. However, waiting does not guarantee anything. |
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it makes no sense at all
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Why?
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I understand where he's coming from and I get what he means, but I don't agree with it. At least not all of it. Men and women both do it. Most of the time for the wrong reason. Before anyone, (male or female) decide to have sex, think about what you want, if you think you'll have the opportunity to get what you want out of it or not.
I would say not to unless the person adds value to your life, but then you would be dating, and there would be no concern of whether or not they would still be there in 3 weeks. |
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