Topic: cheat
pyxxie13's photo
Tue 01/03/12 10:24 PM
I learned the hard way that this can backfire on you in a awful way. I ended up losing my friend as well.
I did tell my friend what happened and ...
as far as I know they are still together and I have no friend. Just when you think you are doing them a favor, you end up losing them.
Good luck.ohwell

prashant01's photo
Wed 01/04/12 07:50 AM

how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.

Actually I have plenty of questions in my mind which you would not probably like to answer,anyway the simplest & most effective solution is "Stay away & stay clam". ( Only after telling him a clear cut NO)

After noticing change in your behavior your BEST friend will certainly ask on her own the reason.just tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her husband.If she is wise enough ,she will start seeing him that way & will catch him red handed sometime,if he continues.
By that time your friend would be mentally prepared.

Going this way you will
1. save your friendship
2. Save their relationship (If he improves)
3. Save your friend from a douchebag ( if he continues)

prashant01's photo
Wed 01/04/12 08:18 AM

I learned the hard way that this can backfire on you in a awful way. I ended up losing my friend as well.
I did tell my friend what happened and ...
as far as I know they are still together and I have no friend. Just when you think you are doing them a favor, you end up losing them.
Good luck.ohwell

laugh laugh laugh That's u pyxie....

I guess,she wasn't worth you friendship & she got what her worth is.


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Wed 01/04/12 08:27 AM


how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.

Actually I have plenty of questions in my mind which you would not probably like to answer,anyway the simplest & most effective solution is "Stay away & stay clam". ( Only after telling him a clear cut NO)

After noticing change in your behavior your BEST friend will certainly ask on her own the reason.just tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her husband.If she is wise enough ,she will start seeing him that way & will catch him red handed sometime,if he continues.
By that time your friend would be mentally prepared.

Going this way you will
1. save your friendship
2. Save their relationship (If he improves)
3. Save your friend from a douchebag ( if he continues)



how well you don't know women shows here

we are different than men. a man might accept this answer with no further discussion, but women discuss things to death

if you were comfortable with your best friend's husband before and NOW you tell her that you are NOT comfortable with him....she is going to want to know why in detail

if you tell her - problem - possibly solvable- possibly not

if u don't tell her- you will lose her - in female code best friends tell each other EVERYTHING - especially when asked - they dish the detail to each other

so tho I can totally see a man accepting your paradigm of taking the answer - you feel uncomfortable with her husband - at face value with no further discussion

a woman is not going to accept this answer with out further discussion

an guys u know that is true - it drives u nuts - some of u anyway - that we won't accept "pat" answers

(that's why we make the best bossesbigsmile )

joy4gud's photo
Wed 01/04/12 08:52 AM

how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.

you don't have to break her heart, by telling her.
Try to stay away from her home and friendship.

prashant01's photo
Wed 01/04/12 09:07 AM
Edited by prashant01 on Wed 01/04/12 09:14 AM



how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.

Actually I have plenty of questions in my mind which you would not probably like to answer,anyway the simplest & most effective solution is "Stay away & stay clam". ( Only after telling him a clear cut NO)

After noticing change in your behavior your BEST friend will certainly ask on her own the reason.just tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her husband.If she is wise enough ,she will start seeing him that way & will catch him red handed sometime,if he continues.
By that time your friend would be mentally prepared.

Going this way you will
1. save your friendship
2. Save their relationship (If he improves)
3. Save your friend from a douchebag ( if he continues)



how well you don't know women shows here

we are different than men. a man might accept this answer with no further discussion, but women discuss things to death

if you were comfortable with your best friend's husband before and NOW you tell her that you are NOT comfortable with him....she is going to want to know why in detail

if you tell her - problem - possibly solvable- possibly not

if u don't tell her- you will lose her - in female code best friends tell each other EVERYTHING - especially when asked - they dish the detail to each other

so tho I can totally see a man accepting your paradigm of taking the answer - you feel uncomfortable with her husband - at face value with no further discussion

a woman is not going to accept this answer with out further discussion

an guys u know that is true - it drives u nuts - some of u anyway - that we won't accept "pat" answers

(that's why we make the best bossesbigsmile )


Okay Boss,bigsmile

Then take advantage of their (ladies)((Hell,I don't like to generalize but) inherent weakness (We call it as doubtfulness!)

The idea is to play a safe move by making her enquire on her own ,you can put your condition for the disclosure by taking her in confidence & by taking an assurance from her that the disclosure won't affect your friendship.

Anyway..I guess OP is more concerned about her friends joy & happiness than her own.Seems OP is afraid of hurting her friend.


prashant01's photo
Wed 01/04/12 09:08 AM


how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.

you don't have to break her heart, by telling her.
Try to stay away from her home and friendship.

Exactly!

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Wed 01/04/12 06:14 PM




how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.

Actually I have plenty of questions in my mind which you would not probably like to answer,anyway the simplest & most effective solution is "Stay away & stay clam". ( Only after telling him a clear cut NO)

After noticing change in your behavior your BEST friend will certainly ask on her own the reason.just tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her husband.If she is wise enough ,she will start seeing him that way & will catch him red handed sometime,if he continues.
By that time your friend would be mentally prepared.

Going this way you will
1. save your friendship
2. Save their relationship (If he improves)
3. Save your friend from a douchebag ( if he continues)



how well you don't know women shows here

we are different than men. a man might accept this answer with no further discussion, but women discuss things to death

if you were comfortable with your best friend's husband before and NOW you tell her that you are NOT comfortable with him....she is going to want to know why in detail

if you tell her - problem - possibly solvable- possibly not

if u don't tell her- you will lose her - in female code best friends tell each other EVERYTHING - especially when asked - they dish the detail to each other

so tho I can totally see a man accepting your paradigm of taking the answer - you feel uncomfortable with her husband - at face value with no further discussion

a woman is not going to accept this answer with out further discussion

an guys u know that is true - it drives u nuts - some of u anyway - that we won't accept "pat" answers

(that's why we make the best bossesbigsmile )


Okay Boss,bigsmile

Then take advantage of their (ladies)((Hell,I don't like to generalize but) inherent weakness (We call it as doubtfulness!)

The idea is to play a safe move by making her enquire on her own ,you can put your condition for the disclosure by taking her in confidence & by taking an assurance from her that the disclosure won't affect your friendship.

Anyway..I guess OP is more concerned about her friends joy & happiness than her own.Seems OP is afraid of hurting her friend.




I agree (I was teasing again with the boss part - I shouldn;t tease so much...)

yes I think inherently you have a good idea - just with most women I have known - it would probably require more discussion than you seemed to suggest

honestly I do not see this as a win possible situation - my observance has been that the woman will blame her friend for enticing her husband (either because it's true or because she wants it to be true)

just as men sometimes blame their wives if a male buddy comes on to them (their wife) - like it was her fault. As a married woman I never had this problem much, but I also seldom put myself in a position where there would be opportunity - moving forward that would be my suggestion just in general to anyone - be watchful and avoid a situation where the opportunity exists if you possibly can

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Wed 01/04/12 06:44 PM


how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.


Get it on tape honey...schedule a movie night for the three of you, your house...Make very strong drinks, start round two drinks and the movie at the same time and nail the little chit to the wall.....:banana:
noway HEY,,,,,,I LIKE THAT!!!!laugh :wink:

paul1217's photo
Wed 01/04/12 06:47 PM
This is a very difficult question for anyone to answer for you. A lot depends on your relationship with your friend, how long you've known her, how long you've known her husband, etc. If her husband is asking her "Best Friend" out on a date he is either incredibly stupid, or you all live in a really small town.

If he really expects his wife's best friend to not say anything he is either looking to get caught, or if she is really so "in love with him and cherishes him" perhaps he is trying to come between you and his wife and is setting you up.

If you have a strong enough relationship with your friend you could try telling her husband that you and his wife have had girl talk about a threesome and suggest that he talk to his wife and then he should bring it up next time the three of you are together. He will either talk to her about it or he will be the one that is very uncomfortable the next time the three of you are together.

Just my two cents! Good luck.

no photo
Wed 01/04/12 06:51 PM
Never come between two lovers fighting, or making love..
BOTH will have you getting SOMETHING up-side your head..
That YOU DON'T WANT TO SEE!!!laugh


Honesty is the ONLY TRUTH,,to you and your friends,,relationship

Other wise,,years from now,,HE can USE THAT against YOU,,,for NOT SPEAKING OUT about it THEN...? to her....frustrated

PLUS,,,,,HE'S A PIECE OF CHIT!:angry: TRUTH!

No one should be cheating IF their thought of,,,as TOGETHER,,even just dating,,,has its lines..not to cross...

no photo
Wed 01/04/12 07:39 PM



how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.


Get it on tape honey...schedule a movie night for the three of you, your house...Make very strong drinks, start round two drinks and the movie at the same time and nail the little chit to the wall.....:banana:
noway HEY,,,,,,I LIKE THAT!!!!laugh :wink:
slaphead rofl

count me out - that's the last living room I'd want to be in - the drama potential would be about 100 on the richter scale

ujGearhead's photo
Wed 01/04/12 09:31 PM

how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.


I'm not sure about how to tell her, but it could make for an interesting night if you agree to go out with him IF it's a double-date (bring your friend and another guy....).

wickedlluccy's photo
Mon 01/09/12 06:36 PM

if you mean you want to tell your friend that her husband is asking you out on a date, then DON'T. people always kill the messenger. if you tell your friend, he will deny it, she will believe him, you lose your friend, and he finds someone else to cheat with. just tell him no thank you and i guarantee i guarantee that if he is cheating your friend will find out on her own (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

if it's that bad, have her contact joey greco at cheaters.com






TroooooDat!!!!


If you don't have video or a tape of his voice, photos etc, she will never believe you....women are too often really stupid about this!!!


~wicked~

Bravalady's photo
Mon 01/09/12 07:21 PM


how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.

"Gretta! You are not going to believe this! Your husband asked me out for a date. Isn't that just a hoot, you ole' girl? Haha, what should I say to him, aye or nay? Hahaha!!"

Not bad, not bad at all.

Mirage4279's photo
Mon 01/09/12 07:33 PM



how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.

"Gretta! You are not going to believe this! Your husband asked me out for a date. Isn't that just a hoot, you ole' girl? Haha, what should I say to him, aye or nay? Hahaha!!"

Not bad, not bad at all.

That is funny

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Mon 01/09/12 08:03 PM
My husband did exactly this with his assistant, who was my friend. Worst of all, we all worked in the same office. It was difficult for her to tell me, but you know in the end, I am glad she did even though I did feel threatened by her for a short period of time. Long and short, I found out what a low life dog my husband of ten years was, and what he was capable of doing even though he said "he didn't know what he was thinking/doing". What an idiot. Anyway ... got rid of him and she quit. He got everything he deserved.

Mirage4279's photo
Mon 01/09/12 08:06 PM

My husband did exactly this with his assistant, who was my friend. Worst of all, we all worked in the same office. It was difficult for her to tell me, but you know in the end, I am glad she did even though I did feel threatened by her for a short period of time. Long and short, I found out what a low life dog my husband of ten years was, and what he was capable of doing even though he said "he didn't know what he was thinking/doing". What an idiot. Anyway ... got rid of him and she quit. He got everything he deserved.

Yeah, not that it hasn't happened any other time (althouhg it may very well of only happened this once in all fairness) I had one girlfriend that I am pretty sure did. I guess I am kinda lucky like that; on the other hand with most of my friends if they saw someone else it was not exaclty cheating (unfortunatly:cry: ). At work would be terrible

Mended1's photo
Fri 01/13/12 11:49 AM
ill record a conversation where he is asking me out.. Then play it for my friend. Will advice he gets spiritual counsel..

InvictusV's photo
Fri 01/13/12 11:58 AM

how do one tell a best friend that the husband she so much loved and cherish is asking her out on a date.



Give her a gift certificate for a divorce lawyer..