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Topic: The economy and relationships.
ybcat1's photo
Tue 12/20/11 09:28 PM
Do you think that the economy has anything to do with men or women not wanting to get married? I would think more so men than women since society looks at men as being the provider. Would you want to date or marry someone who is more on your financial level or not?

Tulareman's photo
Wed 12/21/11 01:30 AM
I try to date women that financialy around my level. Due to the fact that in past relationships where the woman was making more than me, it would sometimes brought up by her and made me feel less then an equal to her.

oldhippie1952's photo
Wed 12/21/11 06:29 AM
Edited by oldhippie1952 on Wed 12/21/11 06:30 AM
It doesn't matter one way or the other to me.

Some people, mem and women, are marriage shy the third time around.

teadipper's photo
Wed 12/21/11 06:44 AM
ya know I have three question I ask men and I say do not explain:

A) Do you have your own place that no ex girlfriends or anything live with you?

B) Do you have a vehicle capable of getting to and from my place?

C) Do you have your OWN source of funding?

If so, KEWL (spell it that way because that is how I say it)

Until, I get to know you. It is none of my business. You say "I am in marketing" I do not ask "as in tele or VP?" or "I work with computers" I do not ask "as in stocking clerk at Fry's or Microsoft programmer??"

I will ask when they are actually coming over what they drive because I need to tell them where the appropriate parking is. Because I know where it is best to park a motorcycle without it getting damaged and if you drive a Suburban, I need to tell you where the best street parking is. OR if you have an expensive car, I will pull mine over in the two car garage and let you park there.

It really is NONE of your business how much they make per capita until you are involved with them. And even then, it's really none of your business unless you pay their bills or they pay yours. I mean people will ask me after 20 years of marriage that exactly I got in the divorce. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. I have three sources of funding and NONE OF IT IS YOUR BUSINESS. They say they can cover the check. FINE. They say I am broke this week, want to go to Mc Donald's? FINE. They say on the way over I am stopping at Starbuck's would you like a Grande, YES PLEASE. FINE.

AND it works in my favor. I end up with a better grade of person.

I often find guys who want to know my gross income, want MY EX Husband to be THEIR sugar daddy vicariously though me. NOT HAPPENING. THEY CAN BE WITH SOMEONE 20 YEARS AND PUT THEM THEIR COLLEGE SO THAT THEY GET THEIR MASTER'S DEGREE AND THEN THEY CAN DIVORCE THEM AND GET THEIR OWN SETTLEMENT.

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 12/21/11 06:49 AM
Interestingly enough...I agree with teadipper on this one.

TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 12/21/11 07:28 AM
I don't think it has anything to do with ones getting married. I think less people get married cause most end in Divorce.....So they figure why get married that way I don't have to get a Divorce. Cause some seem to think just cause they don't get married their partner can not take half of their stuff or all of it when it is over.......NOT IT CAN STILL HAPPEN!!!slaphead

parttime_vikingfan's photo
Wed 12/21/11 03:36 PM

ya know I have three question I ask men and I say do not explain:

A) Do you have your own place that no ex girlfriends or anything live with you?

B) Do you have a vehicle capable of getting to and from my place?

C) Do you have your OWN source of funding?

If so, KEWL (spell it that way because that is how I say it)

Until, I get to know you. It is none of my business. You say "I am in marketing" I do not ask "as in tele or VP?" or "I work with computers" I do not ask "as in stocking clerk at Fry's or Microsoft programmer??"

I will ask when they are actually coming over what they drive because I need to tell them where the appropriate parking is. Because I know where it is best to park a motorcycle without it getting damaged and if you drive a Suburban, I need to tell you where the best street parking is. OR if you have an expensive car, I will pull mine over in the two car garage and let you park there.

It really is NONE of your business how much they make per capita until you are involved with them. And even then, it's really none of your business unless you pay their bills or they pay yours. I mean people will ask me after 20 years of marriage that exactly I got in the divorce. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. I have three sources of funding and NONE OF IT IS YOUR BUSINESS. They say they can cover the check. FINE. They say I am broke this week, want to go to Mc Donald's? FINE. They say on the way over I am stopping at Starbuck's would you like a Grande, YES PLEASE. FINE.

AND it works in my favor. I end up with a better grade of person.

I often find guys who want to know my gross income, want MY EX Husband to be THEIR sugar daddy vicariously though me. NOT HAPPENING. THEY CAN BE WITH SOMEONE 20 YEARS AND PUT THEM THEIR COLLEGE SO THAT THEY GET THEIR MASTER'S DEGREE AND THEN THEY CAN DIVORCE THEM AND GET THEIR OWN SETTLEMENT.

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HUH????

motowndowntown's photo
Wed 12/21/11 03:52 PM
With the economy the way it is a lot of folks are very uncertain about the future and don't want to make any long term plans.

pyxxie13's photo
Wed 12/21/11 04:28 PM
Yes. Getting married is a huge expense anymore. And may I add... Divorce!? Shesh! Why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free? Just saying ... frustrated

krupa's photo
Wed 12/21/11 05:11 PM
This is the reason I would never hook up with a chick at a laundry mat....If she can't afford a washer or dryer, then there is no way she is gonna be able to support me.

:)

krupa's photo
Wed 12/21/11 05:12 PM

Yes. Getting married is a huge expense anymore. And may I add... Divorce!? Shesh! Why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free? Just saying ... frustrated


You get free milk?

It is $3.78 a damned gallon here!!!!!!

no photo
Wed 12/21/11 05:22 PM

Interestingly enough...I agree with teadipper on this one.


pretty much I do too


no photo
Wed 12/21/11 05:25 PM

Do you think that the economy has anything to do with men or women not wanting to get married? I would think more so men than women since society looks at men as being the provider. Would you want to date or marry someone who is more on your financial level or not?

I would hope that if a man and a woman loved each other they would be together....

krupa's photo
Wed 12/21/11 07:38 PM

I would hope that if a man and a woman loved each other they would be together....


I agree. Too damned bad I ain't independently wealthy...I would be there with her every minute. But, I ain't that lucky so I gotta work my butt off to accrue my vacation time and try to save money for the trip. (I do it happily cause I love the schitt out of that woman)


no photo
Wed 12/21/11 07:56 PM

Do you think that the economy has anything to do with men or women not wanting to get married? I would think more so men than women since society looks at men as being the provider. Would you want to date or marry someone who is more on your financial level or not?



1. No its because people are becoming more independent.

2. Men aren't that good at being the provider for the most part.

3. No, I'm looking for a homeless man who wants to be my sex slave.

no photo
Wed 12/21/11 07:58 PM


ya know I have three question I ask men and I say do not explain:

A) Do you have your own place that no ex girlfriends or anything live with you?

B) Do you have a vehicle capable of getting to and from my place?

C) Do you have your OWN source of funding?

If so, KEWL (spell it that way because that is how I say it)

Until, I get to know you. It is none of my business. You say "I am in marketing" I do not ask "as in tele or VP?" or "I work with computers" I do not ask "as in stocking clerk at Fry's or Microsoft programmer??"

I will ask when they are actually coming over what they drive because I need to tell them where the appropriate parking is. Because I know where it is best to park a motorcycle without it getting damaged and if you drive a Suburban, I need to tell you where the best street parking is. OR if you have an expensive car, I will pull mine over in the two car garage and let you park there.

It really is NONE of your business how much they make per capita until you are involved with them. And even then, it's really none of your business unless you pay their bills or they pay yours. I mean people will ask me after 20 years of marriage that exactly I got in the divorce. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. I have three sources of funding and NONE OF IT IS YOUR BUSINESS. They say they can cover the check. FINE. They say I am broke this week, want to go to Mc Donald's? FINE. They say on the way over I am stopping at Starbuck's would you like a Grande, YES PLEASE. FINE.

AND it works in my favor. I end up with a better grade of person.

I often find guys who want to know my gross income, want MY EX Husband to be THEIR sugar daddy vicariously though me. NOT HAPPENING. THEY CAN BE WITH SOMEONE 20 YEARS AND PUT THEM THEIR COLLEGE SO THAT THEY GET THEIR MASTER'S DEGREE AND THEN THEY CAN DIVORCE THEM AND GET THEIR OWN SETTLEMENT.

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HUH????


o c'mon we know ur smart enough to read itlaugh flowerforyou

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Wed 12/21/11 08:01 PM


I would hope that if a man and a woman loved each other they would be together....


I agree. Too damned bad I ain't independently wealthy...I would be there with her every minute. But, I ain't that lucky so I gotta work my butt off to accrue my vacation time and try to save money for the trip. (I do it happily cause I love the schitt out of that woman)




that's awesome krupa - you guys are 2 of my favorite people & wish u the best

someday you and souf will have to tell us how u fell in love

I bet it's a great story!!flowerforyou

pyxxie13's photo
Wed 12/21/11 10:41 PM


Yes. Getting married is a huge expense anymore. And may I add... Divorce!? Shesh! Why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free? Just saying ... frustrated


You get free milk?

It is $3.78 a damned gallon here!!!!!!

Well first off ..I use the laundry mat...my washer broke..actually the pipes in the wall are on the fritz. So for now I have no choice..
Second ..you have to buy the cow hun... too much money if you ask me.
Now.. if you happen to go by and the cow gives it away..would you really pay for it? bigsmile
I like your new pic by the way!

Lottierose's photo
Thu 12/22/11 04:40 AM
No finaces dont have a part in it you manage when your in love.knowdays most men dont see themsleves as the provider.ie going dutch on dates.etc or ive known guys ask me pay for them aswell quite a few actually lol

navygirl's photo
Thu 12/22/11 11:46 AM
I think too many couples fight about money so I think yes the economy will affect relationships. Really, who wants to get involved with someone that can't pay thier bills? You will end up paying them for them because you care about them. Of course people will be skeptical about dating in a bad economical crisis. I know when I lost my job; the men would not date me. Makes sense to me. Fact is you can't live on love; you need money. Its not romantic but it is logical. spock

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