Today i was in walmart for shopping .. and i saw a couple talking to each other by signs language and i realized that they are deaf and dumb .. Then a question came to my mind .. If i saw a women with any kind of disability ..can i think about starting a relationship with her or love her or even marry her ??

what you think ?? can you ??

This question is for both men and women ....

I think it is very possible and happens all the time. Love knows no boundaries.

I have to be honest. It would be hard for me to. Maybe if I started off knowing the person as a friend and by surprise I fell in love with him. I just had a guy who was interested in me and when I learned he was disabled it scared me off. I know, call me awful.

I had a friend on here once who had a mastectomy,,and as we got into talking about that in emails,,she asked me what my thought were as a man,,and on dating a woman with no breasts.
I told her my truth,,after really questioning my heart and real thoughts to this.

I told her that I have never been in that situation to really feel that, see that, and know that as being with a woman who had this happen them,,, to know?
BUT, I said I truly didn't think THAT would stop me from loving her the same with her breasts or without them,,as long as SHE was GOOD about them in front of me..Meaning IF she wasn't self conscious about it,,I wouldn't be either,,,Because we ALL have some sort of body issues we wished we didn't have,,BUT we still love each other over them..and a womans breasts do help her be more sexy in a mans eyes and thoughts,,they can not be there,,and still have someone love her as if they were...IF love is between two people,,ITS GOING TO RULE OVER ANY DIFFERENCES TO REALLY NOTICE OR SEE!!
So if after long thoughts about me coming to this conclusion,,I would think many could also see any issues this same,,,,asMANY also will say,,,NO WAY,,could they or would they try?

Did you really mean deaf and dumb? Just because you can't hear or speak doesn't mean you are dumb..and some deaf people can speak..

I have dated women with disabilities. I go beyond the outer, and go for what is in their heart. Disabled people need to be loved also.

i thnk regardless of capabiltity, if you hit it off with someone, you can make it work. wether it be a mental or physical deficancy, if people are made for each other or have that "special spark" anything can happen.

i havent been with anyone deaf or dumb etc (i mean physically cant speak, not downgrading) but i am personally quite apt at communicating, and if i found the right person and they had a "disabiltiy" (some would say a furthered ability) then i would be all go for it.

I do not judge the package a soul comes in.
For me, a handicap would be selfishness,
unaccountability, lack of sensitivity.
Physical imperfections may turn some people
away. Let them go.
They have their own issues.

Okay, I am going to turn the tables on this one. I had a very good friend, Matt who was nicknamed Howdy. A hemophiliac with every joint replaced at least once. Gorgeous blonde with blue eyes, excellent bone structure, naturally buff and tan and a contagious smile. Never had a problem getting a date. Goes to sleep with a woman, she lays down her breasts do not. He asks if they are fake, she says yes. He gets out of bed and tells her to leave and that he doesn't want anything do to with a woman so stupid as to have voluntary surgeries for vanity.

So you are assuming it's the non-handicapped doing the choosing and it's not always. Think again.

and not all disabilities are physical. we all have some kind of disability at some level. they all do not show on the outside

Jumping up and down waving arms!!! Manic with verbal dyslexia (I can not read off a string of numbers in the correct order).

Why would you assume they're dumb?

Glad somebody else caught that! I was wondering the same

Sorry, folks. It used to be called "deaf and dumb" and now the new, politically correct term is "deaf-mute".



deaf-and-dumb adj.

both deaf and unable to speak; without the sense of hearing or the faculty of speech. Same as Deaf-mute.


http://www.answers.com/topic/deaf-and-dumb

I have no problem with deaf people. A best friend of mine has an adult deaf daughter and we can communicate because she reads lips. She married a deaf man that she met in a college for deaf people.

I could be the problem in a relationship with a deaf person though. I've tried to learn sign language and it's not easy for me. Communication is important.

Over in the UK, the politically correct term is hearing impaired and most are not dumb unless they have another disability that affects their brain function.

I dated a hearing impaired guy for a few weeks. He worked in the IT field.

The only difference that I recall was in remembering to talk slowly so he could lip read and having to talk to him through an interpreting service when I telephoned him. I mostly chatted to him online as it was embarrassing having the female interpreter tell me how much he enjoyed kissing me LOL – BTW that really happened.

Okay, I am going to sound like a bad person but I don't think I could date a person with disabilities. I would add to that if I were disabled myself; I wouldn't date anyone with or without disabilities. Sorry if I sound awful but I have to be honest about this.

there is no reason that you can't...but if she happens to use sign language ,perhaps it would work out for the best if you only refer to her as only being deaf but not dumb ...because she may whine up giving you a disability