I have decided to stop giving guys my number before I've performed some sort of background check, because I almost always end up with a guy who'll call me in the morning to wish me a good day; call me during the day to see if I'm having a good day; call me at night to tell me to have sweet dreams, and text me inbetween!! Maybe I'm being unreasonable but that screams STALKER! (ok, maybe not exactly a stalker but 3 tads too enthusiastic)

Is there such a thing as too much attention?

Don't give your number out until you have spoken with them in emails on here and you are comfortable. Even then, it might be best to ask for their numbers and block your number when you call them...just until you feel they are safe enough to have your number.

I've never given out my number on Mingle, I'm just talking about out there in the "real" world. You meet a guy, he seems normal and nice enough until you give him your number... And then it's just downhill from there.

Then don't give your number, get their's and block your's for the first few calls. If they don't like it, they don't deserve your number.

It's not stalker until they're calling you four or five times in a row and doing the heavy breathing thing, and that's really pre-stalker-ish in comparison to a full blown one.

I am very reserved about giving a phone number And not just because it also gives the caller a lot of extra info about you at any of the info sites for as little as a buck.

Too many times I have regreted it when some guy just won't take a polite no for an answer. The drunks that call in the middle of the night two years later are the worst.

I know what you mean. I've had guys I haven't spoken to in months call me at like 2am because they suddenly wanted to hear my voice. Drunk or not, that is not cool.

I AGREE with both. I've made mistakes like that and had to change my phone number and it's a real hassle to do that...

Now, you are entitled to the way you feel Afri. To me, that doesn't sound over the top. I call my woman more than that. For me, the key to making a LDR work is communication and alot of it. I personally love hearing her smileing voice and I want to be a part of her life as much as I can. Distance makes it harder but, I won't pass up an opportunity to tell my girl that I love her. (cause I do).

The opposite side of the spectrum is couples living in the same house who hardly speak and never remember to say "I love you".

Men can't win either they call too much or not enough and if they don't call enough then i guess they are cheating,whatever.

I get a different message from the actions you describe in your OP......Needy, controlling, lonely, etc, etc, etc.....Stalking is very serious and very frightening and it s"creeps" into your life and chips away at your sense of security and well being.... You cannot end it by changing your phone number either..

ever heard of a Drunk who doesn't have telephone-itis?

But then,one takes a Chance everytime we interact with someone,so better be prudent!
Only meet in public places for some time!
Communicate on the Site one has met on,etc!

I check people on netdetective.com if they are renters, they don't always come up. however, legit guys will sit there and feed you their info if they want to talk to you bad enough and usually want you to print a copy so they can see it. if red flags come up, they have other records that cost money. I don't play with those people. I have had legit guys literally fax me their letter head, send me their web sites with bios, etc. If a legit guy believes you are real and has anyway to prove it to you that he is, he will do it. I have had everything sent to me short of socials and financial statements. I have had guys meet me at Starbucks and literally hand me their drivers license. LOL.

Yeah too much attention might make me a little cautious. Personally I like someone who asks me about my day at random times (shows that they are thinking of me). It's a personal choice, it doesn't seem stalker like to me, just that it's more attention than you're used to.