So I've been on one date with this woman I met on another dating site...the date went fine, however since then I am thinking more about her sexually than I am about her in general - an indication to me that I don't like her for her, but rather like her for the sex appeal she brings to the table - is my thinking aright?

Years ago me and a girlfriend of mine were reminiscing about times of the past - good times....after our conversation she brought to our attention that in all of the memories we talked about none were about sex...this kind of made us both feel good as we knew we weren't using each other for sex - well at least not just for sex - we genuinely liked each other!

Only you will know if you like her for her, or if you just want sex.

If it were only that easy. If we all could have an hormonal on/off switch things would be much clearer.

isnt that the truth.. the physical blinds us to more significant things all too often


dont take any of it too seriously so quickly though, would you assume you had no sexual attraction to her if all you thought of was your conversation?

it all goes together, because the physical clicked first, doesnt mean it would be the only thing that clicked as you continue getting to know each other....

Well, is there anything else you like about her, other than her sex appeal? Do you like going out with her? Doing other activities with her?

Depends…if there’s not a hope in heck of you having sex with her then there’s nothing wrong with daydreaming (or is that night dreaming LOL).

If there is a chance of having sex with her then you need to have a conversation with her and find out what she wants. You never know, she may feel the same and looking for a FwB type of relationship. However, If you’re looking for something deep and meaningful, then you need to move on.

A physical attraction is a good thing for a relationship...but sounds like you need to visit with her some more to see if that is all there is...like everyone else has said, talk to her to find out what other common bonds you may find, who knows. Glad to see you are honest with yourself, and that you are looking for more than just the physical aspect - kudos to you!

Try ice cubes