I've been on here a little while, but I wanted to know what all of you think of my profile. Not having much success here either, getting rejected or ignored is pretty hurtful, however, no other way to meet people than online.

Think you are a lot prettier, active, a friendly than this photo or profile suggests.

I would think if the guys got past the very unflattering photo the Queen Bee greeting would send them running before they got to the text.

Which basically is like falling on your own sword.

You can't tell people you have a good sense of humor you have to show it and very carefully probably better in the forums than on a short profile.

Shopping? Come on how much fun is that for a guy. Screams golddigger just like theater does for the majority of most guys unless you make it clear it's local cheapseats at the community college.

Hope this helps.

Try some more pictures that show off who you are..as in playful or whatever it is you find fun. A smile is a invitation always. Join more of the forums and just make good friends. As people get to know you more ..they will tend to talk more with you and want to know more. Good luck.

Lots and lots of photos keep changeing them up so current for season.

Hi Ravenli,

Your profile left me in a bit of a quandary..I really don’t know how to give you any feedback that will make sense .

Overall, I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with your profile but something’s not right about it either...I just can’t put my finger on it.

I’m also not keen on your picture but don’t know whether that’s a “woman” thing.

Apologies for not offering more constructive feedback.

I appreciate the comments. I have edited my profile. What do you think now?

I did not see it before you reworked it.
But is is lovely now.
Your parameters are limiting factors.

Being active in the forums keeps you at
the top of the Search engines, as that
is how they are ordered.

Enjoy, you seem very nice :-)

Oh yes soooo much better! I got positive vibes from your profile now. Pics are nice. Good luck and now follow up in forums and let people know what you are all about.

Thank you!

Getting warmer.

Lot better Greeting.

Holiday photo is friendly but you HAVE to enlarge you and crop out the crotch from the edge.

And you are not trying to get the guy a date so crop him and and the knees out so your great smile and the touch of humor of the lei on the statue is the center focus of your picture. You are not selling realestate you are selling you as a fun, smart, creative person.

Active photos are where you are standing, danceing, waving, doing something, walking, riding a bike, puttind something in the mixing bowl, ect.. Just don't put anything between you and the viewer. You can not hide behind a dog, your hands, feet, leaning over furniture, or standing behind someone without putting subtle stop barriers up.

You have great hair so avoid too many shots with the hair tied down.

You need to get a great lead shot. Head shoulders and knock out smile. Put on a nice blouse with a feminine color; not black. No flowers in the hair but if you need to control the volume and accentuate your marvelous complection sweep one side up and away from your face with a nice jeweled clip. Your photos can tell short story about you in the snapshots but for a lead shot watch the background and keep it to a minimum.

You are a writer why are you drawing a negative picture of all the cliche negatives of dateing. Delete that and add a favorite thing or too you can bake. Keep the few things about your other hobbies.

Obviously you are a dog lover ask someone to tell you their favorite Dog park or dog and dine/coffee spot.

You have to consistently engage, Engage, ENGAGE the reader not keep shifting from park forward , reverse, nuetral, forward , reverse, and then expect the guy to make the big leap to write if you scare him to death he won't be a good enough writer or funny enough.

I know you are trying to help, but I find your comments harsh, rude and insulting. The "crotch from the end" is my Mother and "the guy" is my nephew. I'm not hiding behind anything; I do love dogs, so I am showing mine off.

I am very sorry if you are insulted or hurt in anyway by my input.

No insult was intended to either of your family members or your pet. I would think they are your greatest fans and would not mind your editing a photo for the purpose; which you seemed to not do. No one knows if your male friend is a boyfriend which in itself is going to hurt you. They are however, perhaps in my opinion only, detracting from what seems to be a big effort on your part to have success in getting responses you want.

Also these photo "comments" reflect not only my opinion but the recomendations I have also read on various sites, learned from making houseing matches with various populations, and even from classes I have taken on sending photos to promote people in various venues like sales, live in employment, international home swaps/schooling, even getting older teens adopted.

I truely understand that criticism is difficult to hear. But I am giving you what you ask for. If you ask for praise/encouragement only I would give you that only gladly. I certainly hope you do not overlook the numerous compliments because they are sincere and I tok and continue to take the time to expalin because I want you to have what you want. .

I am not trying to rude to you in any way.

Engageing a male viewer in only a matter of little more than a heartbeat to click on your profile and then learn what a lovely, smart, educated, family oriented person you are. It your photo is not stellar you are selling yourself short.

It is VERY easy to create a negative mental image, even subconciously without meaning too, to men which I hear a great deal from over my years as counselor and an avid forum reader here and elsewhere.

Perhaps I should have let a guy tell you what they have told me and it would not seem so harsh; maybe it would. believe me I have "cleaned up" the things a guy might say to you if he were saying the same thing.

I would say in your behalf that even with what I feel are errors in your profile I would not waste my time trying to get you too success if I did not find you as a catch for a quality person.

Again if I have hurt your feelings my apology. Best wishes for happiness and true love in your very near future.

PS The new lead shot is very good! Excellent body language ultra feminine. Enlarge it slightly so you don't loose the graceful pose but bring that pretty face just a little closer, easy to see in a glance and you have moved toward hot.

I can take constructive criticism; that is not the problem. Those words would have been hurtful no matter who it was from. It is the way it was delivered that is the problem, not the information. There are ways to deliver criticism WITHOUT hurting someone or coming across as harsh. I'm a teacher; I do it ALL the time. I would love to hear comments from a man, but none have responded.

My nephew was about 14 at the time. I think you can tell he is a child in this picture. I don't know how to crop a picture, or make it larger. What program can I use?

I go to my pictures file on either Windows Xp or Vista or Windows 7 but I don't know how to tell you if you use a Mac. Many helpful very artisic people in the computer thread. If you read some of the well wishes thread you can see who is really good with computers.

When you pick up a photo to send it in email they give you a sizieing option and you can crop there and enlarge and save even rotate a picture if you want the eyes and smile to lead to the text of your message. Email it back to yourself if it helps to get what you want. LOL More than one way to skin a cat.

It is really kind of fun to play with. You can even use the scanner and enlarge and crop on there but do it in black and white until you get what you like because the color ink is more expensive. Once you get what you really like then go for printing in color.

A lot of pictures can be great with the back ground edited out. A great option if the corner of something is pokeing out of the top or side of your head is takes away from the composition. You can take it all out and put in pixel by pixel with paint option.

Being dead center often is not that inviteing but the one on the fence is good because of the contrast of your skin on the night sky. Generally be into the frame by a third.

Remember the photo of you in te easy chair if that enlarges with out getting grainey just the face and your hair filling the frame might make a really good lead shot. Depends if the smile really light up.

The dress is really great because the lines flow but the color is nuted and doesn't pull away from your face. If you do another shot, close in, in that dress you may want to leave the necklace off because you want the focus on your face and any line that draws down is going to be counter to your goal.

You have great cleaveage but if you don't want someone to say something ugly and scare you be really careful that way because it seems to bring the worst of the Frog Prince Association out.

I will talk to my computer buddy and see if he knows of any freeware for photo editing. I just bet there is tons of it out there if you know where to look.

I have taken some great shots with cheap cameras, even the digi cameras on the computer are not bed if you get good lighting. take the shade off your lamp and use those curly bulbs and you probably won't ne too washed out. Blondes really have it tough because their hair skin fades out if the light is not just right.

I agree with her. Remove your mother's crotch and your nephew. The picture with your nephew is too small to really tell he's a teenager, he just looks like a small man. A man in a profile picture is a red flag for most guys, he could be an ex you aren't over.

Honestly, I think you need to tone down the hostility a bit, that might be what is turning guys off.

Once I figure out how to crop pictures, I will. Is my profile hostile?

No your profile isn't hostile and I love your new pic. IMO, you don't deserve the harsh comments - if certain things needed to be said, I'm sure that was a better way of expressing them...don't give up.

If you really want to meet people and get noticed, participate in the forums..let people know who you are and what you're about and don't let the negativity get you down.

If you want, I'll crop them for you. If you want me to do it, send me a mail on here and I'll give you my personal email address so that you can send them to me.

Finally, someone who understands what I am trying to say! Thank you.