I think it can easily fall into the category of ex. I mean I still love my ex but would I get back with her. You will notice this little sentence at the end. "You're straight but already loving them." I mean it would be possible to still love someone but find out that you and them weren't meant to be together. I find that acceptance is the key to a lot of my decisions. If I can accept something or can't accept something is really all that it boils down to.

I think if the op meant that they had surgery to become whatever gender they are, then there is no real deception.

If there is deception, then there is betrayal of course. I dont know what I would do but I would feel violated.

Its not clear to me what the op was describing.

You're in a relationship with a suppose opposite sex partner and after a while in the relationship, you found out that they're transgender. Do you kick their butt or let it be? You're straight but already loving them.

Somebody hasn't heard about Foreplay.

I am neither pro nor con regarding sexual deviances and preferences. I am an emotional deviant, and whether a deviance is emotional, physical, sexual, or inter-species, they are all part of a diversity of the human nature that I feel should not invite discrimination.
However. There are lies and there are lies. Particularly if a lie is coveringup a deal breaker or not.
A woman who puts on make-up is lying, but her birthmark revealed with the wash-off of the make-up or when her bra comes off and light comes to her vasectomy, the guy still knows she is a woman. Despite her lies.
You see, straight guys get repulsed by gay sex, and gay guys get repulsed by heterosexual sex. A very gay friend of mine told me that I should not describe sexual acts, even such mild ones as sucking on a female breat, because it grosses him out. I got grossed out when in my taxi two young gay men could not wait to get home.
This is human nature. We can internalize tolerance, but we can't go against our nature, whether we are gay or straight.
A MAN who makes others believe he is a WOMAN is using make-up to lie, too, but the lie is too big. It breaks a barrier, it is so big. No straight man would want to know a another man in the biblical sense, whether that other man is dressed as a woman or as a wolf in sheep's clothing. So the lie makes a huge difference in this case.
I am not judging anyone, please don't get me wrong. I am just saying that lying about your gender when meeting people potentially for sex istherefore not acceptable by most members of society. Then they retaliate, whether justly or not, is none of my call, but explicably. The explanation is easy: when a man thinks he is about to experience the ultimate sensation of pleasure, and instead he is grossed out, he can't be expected to act in a sportsmanlike behavour, or to be a good soldier about it and shrug it off. This is a very major issue, not due to honour, not due to morals, not due to religious feelings (I have none of these three), but a total urge to puke with immediate notice is biological, and that is that.
You can't argue a man out of biology. Whether he is gay, straight, or likes men dressed in women's clothing.
Much like you can't convince a man who jumps off a cliff to fall up and not down.

Its not trickery in all cases. IF you were born with OVARIES< that doesnt change with any surgery. If you were born with ovaries and testes,, deciding would be a necessity.

If you were born with just TESTES, that is also not going to change by recreating the appearance of the OUTSIDE.

If you were born with testes AND ovaries, deciding would be a necessity and not a deception.

Those born with testes, who later decide to APPEAR as if they have ovaries, are being deceptive UNLESS They share that that is what they have done.

Those born with ovaries, who later decide to APPEAR as if they have testes, are being deceptive UNLESS they share that this is what they have done.

Guys who would go off because someone was not 'hot' enough are jerks.

Guys who would go off because they went out with someone who pretended to be a different gender, have realistic expectations.

I dont want to have to WONDER if the guy I am with is really a girl. If he is dressed as a guy, portraying himself as a guy, but the equipment doesnt match,, he should be saying that before any romance develops.

A male should have the same expectation of a female he is with.

And for the record, I take no issue with those who are sure to disclose the truth about their gender before romantic and physical elements get involved. My peeve is with those who purposely sell a pickle to someone they know is interested in a doughnut..

or vice verse.

Does the poster mean transvestite or hermaphrodite?

My understanding of transgender is one who has had the surgery to change/reassign their gender.

MsHarmony wouldnt be horrid to the person it is just her personal preference that she wouldnt date a women, even one who had a sex change, I wouldnt either and would feel very betrayed if somebody got me to care about thenm without telling me that.

I would never be mean and would continue to be friends but not have a physical friendship.

I very rarely wear makeup and people get to see me exactly as i am no false eyelashes or anything else, I will always be honest and expect the same thing.

The second things started getting anything more than friendship, thats the time to be honest if you havent already done so.

@Josie

I never had a problem with Msharmony's personal preferences in her relationships, what I did have a problem with was the fact that she thought trans people should go to jail for rape. That was it.

I should have stayed on, this got interesting afterwards.

The problem remains that you have not defined 'what' they really were.

Are we speaking of a man who dressed as a woman, or of a woman who was born with both genitalia, or what?

You could probably buy a chromosome test kit on ebay. You cant have all those little Y chromosomes X'ed out. Its the only way to be sure.

Ummmm, I couldn't be in that situation. It wouldn't be possible.

You're in a relationship with a suppose opposite sex partner and after a while in the relationship, you found out that they're transgender. Do you kick their butt or let it be? You're straight but already loving them.

Love is love.

Sex is sex.

You can have that with anyone. (welcome to America) If you got no problem with it...great.I don't see the down side.

except for family gatherings.