Topic: What are you looking for???
navygirl's photo
Sun 11/13/11 10:19 PM

I have read today on a post that ppl who do not get enough attention on the site should post so here goes...

What do you want? Really...What will capture your attention? What are you looking for?

This is what I am looking for:

Looking for someone to make me laugh, (even though it is funny that you would think I'd give u my ph # without even a nice note)

Looking for someone who is a little older than me, (even though I keep getting nudges from men in their 20's)

Looking for someone who is not into material things, (I have enough of my own)

Looking for someone who is already a U.S. citizen, ( please stop giving me emails from India, Africa...)

Last but not least, I am a strong woman not afraid to let you know what I want and what I like. Some would say I should curb my forwardness however, how can we get what we want if we always keep the other guessing??? No head games. Life is all about the chuckles!

Have a great life. Mary


When I was looking, I wanted someone to treat me as an equal partner. I hate being treated like I am dumb, emotional, weak, and that I need to be protected. Its insulting to me to be treated that way.

mary1230's photo
Mon 11/14/11 12:13 AM


I have read today on a post that ppl who do not get enough attention on the site should post so here goes...

What do you want? Really...What will capture your attention? What are you looking for?

This is what I am looking for:

Looking for someone to make me laugh, (even though it is funny that you would think I'd give u my ph # without even a nice note)

Looking for someone who is a little older than me, (even though I keep getting nudges from men in their 20's)

Looking for someone who is not into material things, (I have enough of my own)

Looking for someone who is already a U.S. citizen, ( please stop giving me emails from India, Africa...)

Last but not least, I am a strong woman not afraid to let you know what I want and what I like. Some would say I should curb my forwardness however, how can we get what we want if we always keep the other guessing??? No head games. Life is all about the chuckles!

Have a great life. Mary


When I was looking, I wanted someone to treat me as an equal partner. I hate being treated like I am dumb, emotional, weak, and that I need to be protected. Its insulting to me to be treated that way.


I think the "goofball" is a keeper! thank you :)

txmomof2's photo
Mon 11/14/11 03:56 AM



I've always rather found this question amusing since I pretty much feel that most people "think" they know what they want. I am quite sure some actually know what it is that they want. But these things don't amuse me.

What does amuse me is how people choose a person to date, or even marry. They meet someone who is the exact opposite of what they were looking for, and yet they still feel this person is "the one" for them. True, sometimes the exact opposite does work out. But a lot (if not most) of the time it doesn't. I have done this as well. I won't lie. I dated a girl purely for looks and what we had sexually. I fooled myself into thinking it could grow into more.

And yet we are human. We can rationalize anything. We can convince ourselves that a person (even though they don't fit the criteria of what we were looking for) can be the one person to be with forever.

I realize dating is all about searching. You are trying to find that person to fit, or mesh well with you. And yet, even when the criteria is set, most of the time that criteria is set by the wayside. Just an observation by yours truly.



Surprisingly well said for a Goofball. :wink:


I do have my moments. Lol. :wink:

Mary....finding someone isn't easy. Hell, you can have people in your life for a brief moment (few months, a couple years, etc) and those people are there for a reason (least I feel they are). Yeah it sucks cause I think most people want to find that person who just really makes life great and will be with you for a long, long time. People find it. For some it takes a long time. Wish the answer was simple. I guess perhaps when you look at it, dating is trial and error....and then one day success!



Wow....goof to serious moments??? And surprisingly I agree with both

soufiehere's photo
Mon 11/14/11 04:10 AM



Today I am looking for my motivation to
go to the gym.

Have you the weapon, and opportunity?

Always.

Ya know.
Along with the industrial size box of
latex gloxes, we could pin just about
anything on you.

no photo
Mon 11/14/11 05:44 AM
"I'm just a girl, looking for a boy to love her." Julia Roberts to Hugh Grant in the movie Notting Hill.....

smitten

jrbogie's photo
Mon 11/14/11 06:13 AM
haven't a clue what i'm looking for. when i find it i'll know it.

Ladylid2012's photo
Mon 11/14/11 06:15 AM
I'm looking or the fountain of youth

Ruth34611's photo
Mon 11/14/11 09:56 AM




Today I am looking for my motivation to
go to the gym.

Have you the weapon, and opportunity?

Always.

Ya know.
Along with the industrial size box of
latex gloxes, we could pin just about
anything on you.


Haha. Many have tried. All have failed.

stefy's photo
Mon 11/14/11 10:01 AM
Edited by stefy on Mon 11/14/11 10:02 AM
Well..at the moment I am not looking for love. And wont be for a while.
So I am just looking for hot good looking men. devil laugh No brains required! :tongue:

Ruth34611's photo
Mon 11/14/11 10:11 AM

Well..at the moment I am not looking for love. And wont be for a while.
So I am just looking for hot good looking men. devil laugh No brains required! :tongue:


I took a whole year off from dating. Since October 2010. Partly for health reasons but primarily because I needed to just stop and figure out what I really wanted and needed. And to just "be" for a while. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. :smile:

Dict8's photo
Mon 11/14/11 10:24 AM
Edited by Dict8 on Mon 11/14/11 10:29 AM
What I'm really looking for is a droid that understands the binary language of moisture vaporizers...

:tongue:

Niceladyrealy's photo
Mon 11/14/11 10:47 AM
Iwanta nice husband 1thats emotionaly mature and compasionate and can be loyal2wife

navygirl's photo
Mon 11/14/11 11:18 AM



I have read today on a post that ppl who do not get enough attention on the site should post so here goes...

What do you want? Really...What will capture your attention? What are you looking for?

This is what I am looking for:

Looking for someone to make me laugh, (even though it is funny that you would think I'd give u my ph # without even a nice note)

Looking for someone who is a little older than me, (even though I keep getting nudges from men in their 20's)

Looking for someone who is not into material things, (I have enough of my own)

Looking for someone who is already a U.S. citizen, ( please stop giving me emails from India, Africa...)

Last but not least, I am a strong woman not afraid to let you know what I want and what I like. Some would say I should curb my forwardness however, how can we get what we want if we always keep the other guessing??? No head games. Life is all about the chuckles!

Have a great life. Mary


When I was looking, I wanted someone to treat me as an equal partner. I hate being treated like I am dumb, emotional, weak, and that I need to be protected. Its insulting to me to be treated that way.


I think the "goofball" is a keeper! thank you :)


Well, I do hope goofball and you both find what you are looking for. Me, I am quite content to be on my own. waving

navygirl's photo
Mon 11/14/11 11:22 AM

there are so many strong independent women out here, unfortunately alot of men, not all, but alot, are of the mindset of the Cleavers...you say you want this independent woman, but are intimidated by her...does this mean I need to tone it down a bit? Why should I?


Nope, you shouldn't have to tone it down; you should be who you are. This is why I am and always will remain single. I am not changing who I am just so I can be in a relationship.

mary1230's photo
Mon 11/14/11 03:32 PM


Well..at the moment I am not looking for love. And wont be for a while.
So I am just looking for hot good looking men. devil laugh No brains required! :tongue:


I took a whole year off from dating. Since October 2010. Partly for health reasons but primarily because I needed to just stop and figure out what I really wanted and needed. And to just "be" for a while. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. :smile:


I think this is such good advice. thank you so much. :)

mary1230's photo
Mon 11/14/11 03:35 PM


there are so many strong independent women out here, unfortunately alot of men, not all, but alot, are of the mindset of the Cleavers...you say you want this independent woman, but are intimidated by her...does this mean I need to tone it down a bit? Why should I?


Nope, you shouldn't have to tone it down; you should be who you are. This is why I am and always will remain single. I am not changing who I am just so I can be in a relationship.


thank you for this. I was beginning to think that I am too outspoken. When someone u love is always telling u that u need to do this or that, u tend to believe it. that u always need to change. I dont understand, we are attracted to someone, then spend so much time trying to change them, we end up being with someone the opposite of what attracted us in the first place.

Goofball73's photo
Mon 11/14/11 03:53 PM




I've always rather found this question amusing since I pretty much feel that most people "think" they know what they want. I am quite sure some actually know what it is that they want. But these things don't amuse me.

What does amuse me is how people choose a person to date, or even marry. They meet someone who is the exact opposite of what they were looking for, and yet they still feel this person is "the one" for them. True, sometimes the exact opposite does work out. But a lot (if not most) of the time it doesn't. I have done this as well. I won't lie. I dated a girl purely for looks and what we had sexually. I fooled myself into thinking it could grow into more.

And yet we are human. We can rationalize anything. We can convince ourselves that a person (even though they don't fit the criteria of what we were looking for) can be the one person to be with forever.

I realize dating is all about searching. You are trying to find that person to fit, or mesh well with you. And yet, even when the criteria is set, most of the time that criteria is set by the wayside. Just an observation by yours truly.



Surprisingly well said for a Goofball. :wink:


I do have my moments. Lol. :wink:

Mary....finding someone isn't easy. Hell, you can have people in your life for a brief moment (few months, a couple years, etc) and those people are there for a reason (least I feel they are). Yeah it sucks cause I think most people want to find that person who just really makes life great and will be with you for a long, long time. People find it. For some it takes a long time. Wish the answer was simple. I guess perhaps when you look at it, dating is trial and error....and then one day success!



Wow....goof to serious moments??? And surprisingly I agree with both


Yeah....don't get used to this. I had a brief glimpse of a good, logical thought. Tomorrow I'll be back to my "elementary" ways you all love. :tongue:

no photo
Mon 11/14/11 04:03 PM


there are so many strong independent women out here, unfortunately alot of men, not all, but alot, are of the mindset of the Cleavers...you say you want this independent woman, but are intimidated by her...does this mean I need to tone it down a bit? Why should I?


Nope, you shouldn't have to tone it down; you should be who you are. This is why I am and always will remain single. I am not changing who I am just so I can be in a relationship.


I have often said the same thing. It usually takes me 142,000 words to say it, but it amounts to what you said there. I may just have to steal your version, as it's much easier to work with!

shades

navygirl's photo
Mon 11/14/11 04:04 PM



there are so many strong independent women out here, unfortunately alot of men, not all, but alot, are of the mindset of the Cleavers...you say you want this independent woman, but are intimidated by her...does this mean I need to tone it down a bit? Why should I?


Nope, you shouldn't have to tone it down; you should be who you are. This is why I am and always will remain single. I am not changing who I am just so I can be in a relationship.


I have often said the same thing. It usually takes me 142,000 words to say it, but it amounts to what you said there. I may just have to steal your version, as it's much easier to work with!

shades


Thanks Lex. I have always just been straight to the point.

OddestBell's photo
Mon 11/14/11 04:41 PM
I want somebody that understands that I can't give them my best unless they love me through my worst.