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Edited by
Jimmusician
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yea. And he's trying to be friendly with you. So suck it up. aren't you just a nice cup of tea. If girls actually wanted a nice friendly guy who was interested in friendship first, I probably would've ended up with a few dozen girlfriends. Because that's entirely not the case, I am left only with the conclusion that women like to complain whenever there's an offer and have no clue what they want in regards to any relations with the opposite sex. |
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Stop dating and just meet friends, then? That was my exact thought. If you don't like the ******** that comes along with the 'dating' format, go for other formats. I basically never 'date'. When women ask me on a dinner, movie, cafe, or show type of 'date' I'll respond with an counter-invitation to go on a bike ride, or attend a seminar, or a camping trip, or study together, or do partner yoga or qi gong, or go to the beach, or... I've met a ton of cool women while volunteering. You get to work side by side with like minded people with good values, and become friends, explore chemistry - and its all incidental to the main reason you are there. You can't lose. Takes patience, though, and contentment with taking it slow, contentment with your current relationships. |
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this is why i am kind of glad i met someone online, Because it gave us months to just talk and see each other sense of humor. I didnt have to worry about whether he really liked me or whether he was just trying to score.... Guys are PIGS plain n simple. Once in a while you will find a nice one, once in awhile. Women are pigs! This I learned during periods where I decided to be less sexual. A lot of people are pigs. And pig people are more aggressive than non-pigs, so they have more impact on others' experience and views. The non-pigs often don't even get noticed. |
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Edited by
massagetrade
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Mon 10/10/11 09:14 PM
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Stop dating and just meet friends, then? Easier said than done, I'm afraid. I have a rule against dating guys at work... and I am friends (strictly platonic) with most in my neighborhood (I currently have an interesting 'relationship' with one, so every single one of his friends... and that's a lot of people... are off limits). I don't know where else to meet people besides dating sites... and then... ...refer to post no. 1. So whats up with the dude you have an "interesting relationship with already?" haha... he's wonderful. I adore him. BUT-- he assures me that there is nothing there. He's leaving (at some point) so won't commit. He has a son on the east coast, so he'll be leaving me one day, and is decidedly NOT my boyfriend. But he happens to be one of the most well-known guys in my neighborhood. His friends are off limits, of course... so I need to look elsewhere. I'm guessing you might be having a sexual relationship with him? Else why are his friends off limits? Well i say, if he is not committed, then his friends are not off limits. LOL Seriously. I agree with you Simone. |
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A lot of people are pigs. And pig people are more aggressive than non-pigs, so they have more impact on others' experience and views. The non-pigs often don't even get noticed. Ironic nobody picks up on this. |
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Again with the pigs comment!! :-) Men are not pigs. My pigs are well-behaved and sweet. Rocky will happily curl up next to you, not try and jump you, and he understands no. I might give you men are like goats, though. I hate October with goats. This is why I have such a goat complex.... 
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If girls actually wanted a nice friendly guy who was interested in friendship first, I probably would've ended up with a few dozen girlfriends. Because that's entirely not the case, I am left only with the conclusion that women like to complain whenever there's an offer and have no clue what they want in regards to any relations with the opposite sex. ha. quit complaining. |
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If girls actually wanted a nice friendly guy who was interested in friendship first, I probably would've ended up with a few dozen girlfriends. Because that's entirely not the case, I am left only with the conclusion that women like to complain whenever there's an offer and have no clue what they want in regards to any relations with the opposite sex. ha. quit complaining. Its not complaining if the content is more truth than reflection. |
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Its not complaining if the content is more truth than reflection. opinions can neither be true nor false. calm down. you're not stating any facts. |
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since when does one have to date to make friends? now i understand why i have no friends. :D I have friends... I guess you make a valid point though. I have friends, I want to date, but I just want things to move a bit slower. Uh... no... scratch that... A LOT slower. I like a guy to be my friend first... then more. Dating inherently presumes that the meeting leads immediately to romance... and I'm just not ok with that. guys know this which is why we try to stay away from being friends with women we're attracted to. we know that there are guys that you like to laugh and joke with and feel safe around, and there are guys that you want to sleep with. we don't mind being the former and the latter, but not the former without the latter. . . . |
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Edited by
Jimmusician
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Mon 10/10/11 09:35 PM
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Its not complaining if the content is more truth than reflection. opinions can neither be true nor false. calm down. you're not stating any facts. I'm perfectly calm. You're honestly going to try to make the assertion that because there's no information published on the state of the dating scene that a guy whose experience in the scene has been 3/4 rejection that he's wrong? |
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Its not complaining if the content is more truth than reflection. opinions can neither be true nor false. calm down. you're not stating any facts. You may want to put your thinking cap on REAL TIGHT to consider why a site like THIS would exist: http://www.happierabroad.com/ |
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Should someone be keeping score? :mischievous smile:
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I'm perfectly calm. You're honestly going to try to make the assertion that because there's no information published on the state of the dating scene that a guy whose experience in the scene has been 3/4 rejection that he's wrong? women like to complain whenever there's an offer and have no clue what they want in regards to any relations with the opposite sex. you're wrong. are you honestly going to tell me that generalizing an entire sex based on a few personal experiences makes something a fact? |
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Should someone be keeping score? :mischievous smile: This isn't about score, its about shaking the shell from fragile minds that can't bear the idea of waking up so they can toughen up from self-education. |
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I'm perfectly calm. You're honestly going to try to make the assertion that because there's no information published on the state of the dating scene that a guy whose experience in the scene has been 3/4 rejection that he's wrong? women like to complain whenever there's an offer and have no clue what they want in regards to any relations with the opposite sex. you're wrong. are you honestly going to tell me that generalizing an entire sex based on a few personal experiences makes something a fact? YOU are the one stating I generalize an entire sex. I never made a universal judgment. Just answer the question: why would happier abroad exist if there were nothing wrong? |
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Should someone be keeping score? :mischievous smile: This isn't about score.... That's what the losers always say. 
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YOU are the one stating I generalize an entire sex. I never made a universal judgment. Just answer the question: why would happier abroad exist if there were nothing wrong? i just ****ing quoted you, and you're telling me i'm the one making general statements. haaa. who told you everything was right? |
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OP, I get what you're trying to say. The rituals of dating seem to be something that is expected. I agree with the poster who said you can meet a lot of great people by volunteering. I have found this to be true.
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Edited by
Simonedemidova
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Mon 10/10/11 09:49 PM
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Should someone be keeping score? :mischievous smile: This isn't about score.... That's what the losers always say.
good call! Score one for you huh! |
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