Topic: changes
lalalove's photo
Thu 09/29/11 09:15 PM
just wanted to vent.so i have been making big changes in my life trying to make it better. sometimes its hard not to feel a little down and out about some things and just fall back to where you were but there are also those days where you feel like things are going right and your making the right choices. How do you continue to stay positive and strong so those down days dont happen? is it really just time will tell lol?

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Thu 09/29/11 09:17 PM
cognitive self change will help you. also read the book control theory

mssilverfox's photo
Thu 09/29/11 09:29 PM
Edited by mssilverfox on Thu 09/29/11 09:30 PM
A couple of yrs ago, I decided to keep as many "negative" people out of my life as possible......You would be surprised how much that has helped..bigsmile Congrats to you for trying to better yourself..flowerforyou

lalalove's photo
Thu 09/29/11 09:31 PM

A couple of yrs ago, I decided to keep as many "negative" people out of my life as possible......You would be surprised how much that has helped..bigsmile Congrats to you for trying to better yourself..flowerforyou



yeah thats what ive been doing and why i have been a little sad. i just have missed the company b/c its what i am used to and its always hard to make new friends sometimes. thank you though :)

navygirl's photo
Fri 09/30/11 08:23 AM

just wanted to vent.so i have been making big changes in my life trying to make it better. sometimes its hard not to feel a little down and out about some things and just fall back to where you were but there are also those days where you feel like things are going right and your making the right choices. How do you continue to stay positive and strong so those down days dont happen? is it really just time will tell lol?


I think we all feel down from time to time and for me I let myself feel that way. I also think the next day will be better so it tends to make me feel better. I also think that no matter how bad things are for me; I think of those who are homeless, hungry, and jobless; so how bad are things really in my life? When it comes to changes; it takes time and sometimes we expect things to change quickly; so perhaps you should not be in a rush to see the results. Take it slower or take baby steps to change as it may be overwhelming you. Hope it all works out for you. flowerforyou

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Fri 09/30/11 08:48 AM
Edited by tazzops on Fri 09/30/11 08:51 AM
My Grandfather said;

"change is like having water up to your middle chest line, so it would be wise of you to stop doing hand stands."

I do remember that when things seem to not go my way, when I do all the right things.

I found out that he was saying I should stand on my own two feet, stop having others hold you down.

lalalove's photo
Fri 09/30/11 09:39 PM
thank you :) very helpful

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Fri 09/30/11 09:49 PM

cognitive self change will help you. also read the book control theory


money is the only cure

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Sat 10/01/11 02:42 PM
This may sound a bit childish..but write down all the positives/good changes that you have made and your reasons for wanting to make changes. Pin it somewhere where you see it every morning (or night). Keep reading it for as long as you need it.

It's worked for me!

winterblue56's photo
Sat 10/01/11 03:52 PM


just wanted to vent.so i have been making big changes in my life trying to make it better. sometimes its hard not to feel a little down and out about some things and just fall back to where you were but there are also those days where you feel like things are going right and your making the right choices. How do you continue to stay positive and strong so those down days dont happen? is it really just time will tell lol?


I think we all feel down from time to time and for me I let myself feel that way. I also think the next day will be better so it tends to make me feel better. I also think that no matter how bad things are for me; I think of those who are homeless, hungry, and jobless; so how bad are things really in my life? When it comes to changes; it takes time and sometimes we expect things to change quickly; so perhaps you should not be in a rush to see the results. Take it slower or take baby steps to change as it may be overwhelming you. Hope it all works out for you. flowerforyou


:thumbsup:

winterblue56's photo
Sat 10/01/11 03:53 PM

This may sound a bit childish..but write down all the positives/good changes that you have made and your reasons for wanting to make changes. Pin it somewhere where you see it every morning (or night). Keep reading it for as long as you need it.

It's worked for me!


Not childish at all! Writing things down tends to keep it all in focus happy

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Sun 10/02/11 11:46 AM
Thanks Winterblue. I’m a big believer in positive affirmations

josie68's photo
Sun 10/02/11 03:26 PM
I figure there has to be something good in everything,
so I find it.

Works for me:thumbsup: