If you sent out invites, three weeks early, to some friends to meet up for a day and go out and then have dinner, wouldn't you like to hear an answer from them BEFORE the date in question?

yep i would its just rude if they don't say yes or know they should call ya either way to let u know

Those B#STARDS!!

One of them didn't bother to answer me until today....and all she said was "oh... have fun!!" Meanwhile I know she saw the email when I first sent it out, and another just hasn't acknowledged it at all.

if you had R.S.V.P. on the invitations,
they should have the courtesy to let
you know one way or the other.
no R.S.V.P., you should not expect
an answer, but one should be given
anyway to give you the heads up
or head count as it were.

yes, especially if you did include a request for an RSVP on the note. It is very rude to ignore an invitation as it is always an honor to be invited

sometimes people don;t respond right away because they want to check their schedules, but in a 3 week time frame you should have heard from them all by at least 1 week before the date

there is nothing wrong with calling those who u have not heard from, irritating as it might be - if you need a seat count for a restaurant, you might have to call them

Well, we will have a good time without them anyway, but Jon's visits are so rare that I thought they would want to see us again. It just would have been more fun if they did show up....

OOH!OOH, I wanna see, *POUT* wish I was closer.

Have fun guys!!

Yes...I would like to hear an answer from them if I sent invites to them so I know where I stand...3 weeks early is enough time for anyone to decide if they are able to attend or not....Invites are a thrill and honor....and should be respected with a polite response with a yes or no answer if you are able to attend or not....no answer is very rude and inconsiderate to the person who sent the invite.

wow I'd give anything to party down with u and john -people - don;t realize soemtimes...

hope y'all had a blast - rockin' good times

Dealing with this issue both in my personal life and often at work, I have found it in my best interest to follow-up with those who don't respond about 24-48 hours before the event. And in the follow-up, I mention that if I don't hear from them in advance (whatever date/time you are comfortablle with)we won't hold space for them to join us.

It's all too common these days for people to either ignore or forget invitations.

Yes, I certainly would. I remember last year there was a function for the homeless and this guy sent an email out to several of us to see if we could make it. I was the only one that responded. So, I got everyone's else's email and gave them a blast. It was rude for them to not respond. If they can't make it; then hit reply and say No. Its just proper manners to me.

Here's the thing, if they are sent out too early, people forget, if they are sent too late, they already have plans. Best to shoot them a text a week before the even and check in with them. say did you get my invite. I wasnt sure cuz i never heard back from you. I understand if you are busy....

See nowadays people are so busy and tired. they forget a lot. And dont forget how selfish people are. I usually dont find it to be intentionally rude, but somehow unintentionally. If you want guaranteed company you have to rsvp to them to get answers, sux but its reality.

Yes I think three weeks is too far in advance for just a dinner invite, but for a major function that takes all day more time may be needed. I have no idea what my schedule will look like in three weeks or what might come up.

But if you don't hear back from them, after asking for an RSVP one reminder might be good. If you get no answer then, Personally I'd probably feel I'm being snubbed.

YES!!!! That should be common courtesy...unless you are a shameless hussy, then it doesn't matter

I did send out reminders to them but we had a wonderful time with Holly and Joanne at an amusement park and then at dinner together.





(Hussy!!!)

yep , just a call to say i'll be there or not sure yet will let you know would be fine..

Not sure how much longer I would call them friends

I would think of this age of technology with computers and I-phones; one would be able to put it in their electronic calendars. I always do when I promise someone just so I don't double book myself.

They missed an amusement park??? Man, I wish I lived closer!