omg, i can't believe you found me

well.. that what u got when u got too much whisky on Saturday nite... they found u easy...

I'm a recent widow and I haven't been on a date (with someone other than my husband) for 29 years!...I'm not looking forward to dating! Good that I don't feel pressured to date anyone right now!...I went on dates "way back when" before I met my husband and they could be fun or awkward! There was "no telling" how they might turn out. Everyone tends to put their "best foot forward" in the early stages and it takes quite awhile to find out "who" someone "really is" behind all of the false-fronts...I wouldn't consider going on a date now unless I had time to get to know someone first. (Through emails or phone calls etc.) I can be spontaneous in many areas and a "free spirit" but when it comes to dating someone new I'd like to get to know them a little bit first before we actually arrange a first date.

I am pretty shy, so there is no way I could go out with someone i didnt know well, otherwise i would have a horrid time.

Not only that but I like to know that i do have things in common with people, to me i have never been interested in just going out with someone , they have to be special to me first..

I tend to agree that dating sucks, but I have no real experience in it. Girls I've dated I've been friends with prior to trying to start a relationship with.

"Dating" to me has always seemed like putting on a false front to "sweep them off their feet" with money via dinner or whatever. I just can't be something I'm not and if I'm ever going to go out of my way and wow her... I'm making sure she's something special to me first.

I agree!

I'd rather go "cheap" and casual on a first date. I like to keep things simple and low-key...It's too stressful to have to get all dressed-up to eat in a fancy restaurant on a first date...Keeping things casual reduces stress. Don't you think?

Good on ya, how could anyone not respect that, hope you find who you are looking for.

Ok...gonna point out a couple of things...These are simply my opinion so just take it or leave it....

Alright Hawaii....you have been out with two women...That ain't exactly a big reference pool bro.

If you have been out with only two women and ended up trying to form life long relatonships with them....then you probably view a date as a precursor to life long commitment with no space for error.

A date is supposed to be going out and having fun with no deeper relevance than just enjoying someone else's company and having a good time. It is dinner and a walk through a museum, it is hitting a movie or a concert...a date doesn't mean that you are going to spend the rest of your life with her. A date and the "do or die" for your love life. A date is just a date man.

I guess it depends on our normal lifestyle...I'm a pretty private person in general. I don't even have lunch out with female friends all that often. In other words I'm not exactly a "social butterfly" and hardly ever go to parties etc...So going on a date would be a "big deal" to me. Where it might seem normal and "no big deal" to someone who socialized all the time!

I don’t think that dating does suck. What may suck (IMO), is rejection or the fear of being rejected by someone that only knows you on a purely superficial level i.e. aesthetics, how you come across in print or how you sound on the telephone.

I prefer to meet within a week after the initial contact because I prefer not to have weeks of emails/texts/calls only to find that the persons sitting opposite you is someone that you’re never going to see again.

I also think that over time, you develop a thicker skin and take dating a lot less seriously than you do at the beginning..In my early days of dating and prior to going on a date, my first thought was always what if 'they' don't like me. It never occurred to me that I may not like them!

Dating is a necessary evil if you’re single. Despite the inventible insecurities, you meet people from different cultures with different life experiences/interests and it can be fun.

Apologies for the long one

I don't mind dating, but some reason they always quit calling me after they find the room in my basement with the jars of heads

yeah..I can see why that may be a bit of a turn off

good points! but it can still get long in the tooth if it's not going well...

Did you mean actual "heads" complete with eyes and noses or *****? I'm easily confused

dating is a selfish activity, if the date's not going well, you politely end it. Why would you want to torture yourself by spending time with someone whose company you're not enjoying?

The eyeballs are in seperate jars I keep that room locked

OH my are u gonna be popular n jail

Are you the internet police?

Eyeballs? Oh..there was me thinking this was getting interesting