There is this lady where I work, we work in different departments, her and I occasionally run into one another and exchange pleasantries, for some reason I can't explain, I am immensely attracted to her, I mean the sort of attraction I felt when I was a teenager, you know like your first love and all that.

I feel the attraction is mutual between us, as we are always holding each others gaze, here is my dilemma, as we are both introverted types, neither of us are willing to make the first move, and since we rarely bump into one another it is difficult to establish a dialogue with her, have attempted to speak with her during breaks and whatnot, but she moves very fast, my understanding is from information I have obtained from coworkers, she is really into me, and wants me to ask her out, but also wants me to work for it.

I really am not to keen on workplace romances or dating someone I work with, in which I had found myself in this situation before, dated and had a long term relationship with a coworker, which contributed to ruining our relationship, and secondly, not bragging here, just stating a fact, I have never had to really work very hard for female companionship, partly because I have been told by various ladies that I have been involved with in the past, it was my easy going nature and a trusting look about me that they found attractive, not to mention in my younger years I was a bit above average in the looks department, and I can admit this now, I use to be a little on the vain side, but life has taught me some humility over the years.

Sorry this has become so long, I needed to set some background information, mainly I just need to know how to break the ice with this woman, more importantly how do I work for it.

Maybe slip some subtle hints. Well, in one sense you already are working for it. The fact that you're both shy, and don't like to make the first move, maybe shows she feels just as scared as you do. Who's to say you can't be together just cos you work together? We can't always choose who we fall in love with. The fact that you both hold each others gaze speaks volumes, in a good way. If you're being told nice things about yourself, then i doubt you need to change your ways. Best of luck :)

there is only one way to do this...just walk up to her and ask her out. (maybe to lunch if that makes you a bit more comfortable.)

the worst thing that can happen is she says no thank you. if that is the case, simply tell her it's not a problem and you just got your wires crossed. perhaps the two of you will remain friends and perhaps not, but at least you will have given it a shot.

ohh, good luck.

She might be just playing with you to make it more interesting for the both of you. It could be that she wants to be wooed. The attraction for her might be like be like a teenager, too. Maybe even though she works fast doesn't mean that you have to move fast. If your sources are true then just be yourself with her and tell her that you are interested in her. Yeah. You should know right away by the asking.

She even threw her arms up in the air at one point, when one of my coworkers jokingly asked if I had asked her out yet, this coworker is a bit of a matchmaker around the office, keeps telling her that he thinks I would be a good match with her, oh I didn't mention she is legally deaf, she can hear a little with the help of a hearing aid in her ear, mostly she prefers to read lips though, her being deaf isn't an issue with me I think she's perfect just the way she is.

A male match maker? Cool. I have a female match maker where I work. One of the match she wanted to make for me was for a resident who will be moving on her own again who is 4 years younger than me. The resident heard her trying to set me up with this woman who is ten years younger than me and from the match maker I found out the resident was asking her to set her up with me. I hope it works out for you.

Contarary to what you said earlier your office seems to be a good match making office equipped with skilled mediators too!!

Anyways...if u r so much confident,then why dont u directly ask her?
Wont that be better idea??

All the best

Give Her A "Jaadu Ki Jhappi" ! ! ! !