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But, what about "Love is just a number" from a man where age really doesnt matter?
I could be younger/ older/ immortal.... Love is love man....and it has no concept of time or age. |
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But, what about "Love is just a number" from a man where age really doesnt matter? I could be younger/ older/ immortal.... Love is love man....and it has no concept of time or age. no I think you are right, it does not not - love is timeless I was thinking more of things like is he going to start whining about starting a family in a few years when he knew when he met me that I cannot have children...but all in all - yes if we meet someone and happen to realize we love them....all of our "criteria" tends to go out the window   as it should because love cannot be replaced by anything else only the young and the foolish let it slip away thinking that they will have time for it later....or will find it again. It is actually pretty hard to find that special kind of connection |
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well I cannot speak for the other poster, but to me that replicated phrase "age is just a number" has become a worn out cliche used by young males who want to earn their stripes by being able to say they have bedded an older woman it says to me that they do not see us as people but as conquests...no thanks I am greedy. I want more than that. I want love, affection, attention, loyalty, sex, companionship sex, conversation, sex, and all of the other things that make up a relationship (did I include sex too)? If the man I find that with is younger fine, but he must not see me as a number It's also overused by older men who want much younger women! |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Thu 09/01/11 08:29 PM
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Over the last couple of days, I've had some emails from much younger men around 18 - 20. Each of them kept telling me "baby, age is just a number!" Age IS just a number. Do you not understand this yet? Soufie and I have an age difference....But, I don't care how young she is.....I LOVE HER. Pull your head out man. Stop being so judgemental. Your negative thing is wearing thin. I'm sure you realize that everyone is different. Just because you don't think age matters, it doesn't mean that it doesn't to others. I'm not telling you how to deal with age, so why are you telling me what to do? |
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But, what about "Love is just a number" from a man where age really doesnt matter? I could be younger/ older/ immortal.... Love is love man....and it has no concept of time or age. Krupa knows what he is talking about...There is no concept of time or age when you are in love, as a matter of fact, any age difference that existed is quickly ignored by two people very much in love...Trust me. 
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well I cannot speak for the other poster, but to me that replicated phrase "age is just a number" has become a worn out cliche used by young males who want to earn their stripes by being able to say they have bedded an older woman it says to me that they do not see us as people but as conquests...no thanks I am greedy. I want more than that. I want love, affection, attention, loyalty, sex, companionship sex, conversation, sex, and all of the other things that make up a relationship (did I include sex too)? If the man I find that with is younger fine, but he must not see me as a number It's also overused by older men who want much younger women! Oh OK - never heard it in that context - I was thinking of all the cougar type comments I've gotten |
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Oh yeah, older men definitely use that phrase a lot as well.
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Here goes my first problem on mingle, people: I’m on this other dating site that I don’t really use that much and yesterday someone send the most perfect message to me, letting me know much he loved what I shared of myself and that he he is VERY interested in getting to know me. I looked at his profile and agree with him that we’re on the same wave length on so many levels. Here comes the problem. I’m 46 and he is 28. In his profile he listed that he is looking for someone between ages 20-30, which tells me he does not have a fetish for older women. I like that. It shows that he is sincerely interested in me. However, this age difference problem has been haunting me forever. In my 30s it wasn’t a big deal but now it’s causing me to isolate myself from the dating world because I can’t find anyone compatible or someone I’m interested in who is near my age. Believe me, I tried. I really don’t think getting involved with anyone younger than 40 or 39 is realistic. I need some empathy about my situation and I’m curious about your take on it. I don’t even know how to respond. What do you think? Short true story.....my uncle married a woman 20 yrs older than he. She had 7 kids..they had two more. Everyone said it wouldn't work...and it didn't..she died just a few days shy of their 50th aniversary...no one can say if an age difference will work or not. You will never know until you try it. |
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I guess what I don't understand is why someone's age preferences would bother others? If someone doesn't want to date much younger or much older, so what? There are tons of other people out there who won't mind the age differences.
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Will someone make me a sandwich, i'm starving here, age don't matter, just make me a blasted sandwick
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Age comes into account if the young man wants kids and the woman is past her child bearing yrs. That's the first thing I think of when a younger guys gets at me.
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Edited by
Sandelwood4
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Thu 09/01/11 11:02 PM
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Whoa. What happened here while I was in class? As I’m reading everyones comments I realize that many of us are saying the same thing but from a different angle.
singmesweet, sweetestgirl11, and others, you really do get it what it feels like to be “wanted” as an older or younger woman/man. No, it’s not flattering when someone likes you because you’re from Europe, or because you’re a brunette, or because you have pretty feet, or because you’re “older”. That’s one point. Second point: Krupa, you are one of a few rare couples and an inspiration to many. I really do believe that you guys love each other in essence beyond an age preference. I don’t see anyone disagreeing with you or condemning age difference. It’s just that we are all so different with such various experiences and while we stay open minded we are still affected by our experiences (which may be very different from yours), knowing that exceptions do exist. miko1960 here is your sandwhich. Hope it's not too late. http://myzerowaste.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/pic3.jpg |
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Age is irrelevant if you like each other. Not necessarily. I guess it would depend on what you're looking for, though. I've been dating a 33 year old, we have a blast and talk about the same things together. Isn't that what's important? We all have different preferences. I will be 33 this month and could not see dating someone who is old enough to be my father. There would just be too many differences. Plus, we'd be at different places in life. But, if it works for you, great! I think you misunderstand. We are FRIENDS. We enjoy each other's company, she'll even hold my hand on our dates. That's as far as it goes. When out, she is my "pretend" gf, we both laugh at this. The main reason I like being with her is because she likes amusement parks and go-karts as I do. We do things together... |
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Age is irrelevant if you like each other. Not necessarily. I guess it would depend on what you're looking for, though. I've been dating a 33 year old, we have a blast and talk about the same things together. Isn't that what's important? We all have different preferences. I will be 33 this month and could not see dating someone who is old enough to be my father. There would just be too many differences. Plus, we'd be at different places in life. But, if it works for you, great! I think you misunderstand. We are FRIENDS. We enjoy each other's company, she'll even hold my hand on our dates. That's as far as it goes. When out, she is my "pretend" gf, we both laugh at this. The main reason I like being with her is because she likes amusement parks and go-karts as I do. We do things together... Well, you said "I've been dating a 33 year old." I am not a mind reader, so I was unable to realize that you didn't really meant you were dating her. Thanks for clearing that up, though. |
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Thank you klc. Very well said.
It definitely is all about preference when it comes to age and dating. However, my preference is my own. I'm not telling anyone else they must think the way I do about age. If others want to date those who are older or younger than them, go for it. |
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if you have to think about ANY subject on anything a lot,then its not for you...if you really wanted something,you would talk yourself into it..
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Age comes into account if the young man wants kids and the woman is past her child bearing yrs. That's the first thing I think of when a younger guys gets at me. I have confronted that before too, and was told that there are young women who cannot have children for whatever reason, but I agree that it should be out on the table So if a man loves you and you can't have children whether you are 25 35 or 55 - should that matter? I don;t think it should as we are people not baby producing machines....I mean I wouldn't want to be rejected by a man because I can't have kids I also would not want to be seen as a brood mare - as a young woman I would not want to marry a man just because he knows he can breed me - meanwhile he is really in love with someone else....I wouldn't respect a man who refused to partner with a woman he loved just because she could not have children because if he REALLY loved her, he wouldn't think twice about it |
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I guess what I don't understand is why someone's age preferences would bother others? If someone doesn't want to date much younger or much older, so what? There are tons of other people out there who won't mind the age differences. it shouldn't bother others as preferences are individual things and we have them for our own reasons....or for no reason...just because some people just seem to need validation - especially when swimming upstream - doing something that is not wrong, but different from what society "expects" in age differences there is also a huge double standard. Older men with younger women is far more socially acceptable than the other way around, but perhaps that is less so now than 10 or 15 yrs ago |
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I guess what I don't understand is why someone's age preferences would bother others? If someone doesn't want to date much younger or much older, so what? There are tons of other people out there who won't mind the age differences. it shouldn't bother others as preferences are individual things and we have them for our own reasons....or for no reason...just because some people just seem to need validation - especially when swimming upstream - doing something that is not wrong, but different from what society "expects" in age differences there is also a huge double standard. Older men with younger women is far more socially acceptable than the other way around, but perhaps that is less so now than 10 or 15 yrs ago I think it definitely is becoming more acceptable for younger guys and older women to date. And yes, I do agree that some people seem to need validation for what they're doing. If everyone else doesn't think the same way, they don't like it. |
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Age is only a number...as long he is at your maturity level. Shouldnt matter!!
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