Not sure if this is the kind of thing for me, so might not stay here long. Just wanted to see how it is and if it was a good way to meet new (good or worthy) friends, and maybe one special man, but I'm really doubtful. Been here two days and re-worded my blurb, adding a lot more about myself and what I was looking in a man, to try to limit the number of undesirable men from contacting me. So far it hasn't worked. They either don't bother to read what I wrote or don't care. I don't care if the man is gorgeous, but if he's too young and types like he's a 4 year old, I don't want him contacting me, so I wish he would not waste both our time.

Welcome to the mingle site. Wishing you luck indeed in your search.

New and already complaining. Welcome!

Welcome

Blah blah blah welcome!

Hello and Welcome to Mingle2

Join us in the Forums so others can get to know you better

It's like the Lottery here...."Hey, you never know!"

Good Luck in your search

Welcome to the wonderful world wide web of dating/finding friends. Hope you find what you are looking for.

I do wish to make friends

I`m new 2 the site

Welcome to all the new people. Enjoy the site.

Well, I read your Profile.
For someone who does not want anyone 'negative'
I have rarely seen such a long list of negatives
that preclude a guy from contacting you.
Your choice, of course.

But guys sense when they have no chance
of pleasing you.
For reasons over which they have no control,
often.

My pholosophy is, give everyone a chance,
you just never know when the White Knight
will appear, or in what he will be encased.

Welcome to Mingle :-)

Hi FoxySonia. Welcome to Mingle. On the comment above about people contacting you, there's probably no help for it. No matter what site you are on or what you put in your profile, you will almost always have an element of people contacting you that you would rather not talk to. If you are on any public website and provie a means for people to contact you, you don't really have much control over who contacts you. However, you CAN control how you respond to them.

I also agree with Soufiehere about maybe giving some more thought to your profile. I'd recommend doing away with the whole first paragraph and changing the negative "don't wants" into positive "do wants".

As examples, instead of saying, "1- are involved in a relationship, or are either married or separated, an adulterer or immoral person " try saying "I am looking for single men with high moral values"

Instead of saying "3- are dishonest (I hate liars.) " try saying "I am looking for someone who values honesty in a relationship"

Instead of saying "7- hates animals or cats " try saying "I am looking for someone who loves animals"

Anyway, you get the picture.

I wish you the best of luck in your search and hope you find what you are looking for.

Thank you to all who welcomed me to this site. I'm usually not such a complainer and actually tend to be quite a positive person, but wanted to state from the beginning (on my blurb) what I wanted, like I said, to avoid getting contacted by so many men I have no desire to meet. I like MisterAnderson's advice so will edit my blurb to change the negatives to positives. :)

Dear Foxy,
I read your note, then I read your re-write . It is clear you know want you want, just not who you want. I am only average at best, but cater to the people that are guenuine. Seems to me that you look for some of the same.
Tough to get a feel for anyone in this context. I saw words that you wrote, that touched me with your courage. This is all new for me, perhaps we can learn the process together.

Welcome to all new people
good luck with what you are searching for here in Mingle land