By Tara Parker-Pope
---------------------

Can you spot a good marriage? I was pretty sure I could, starting with my own. My husband and I rarely argued, we had similar careers, we shared common interests. Things weren't perfect, but we seemed to be humming along in harmony better than most other couples we knew. In fact, nobody was more surprised than we were when our 17-year marriage ended in a New Jersey divorce court.

For complete article go to the link...

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/the-surprising-habits-that-can-sink-a-marriage-2519021/

Good read. Thanks!

it happens

people have misconceptions about arguing (mainly men in my opinion-who have a difficult time sometimes with verbal expressions of emotion-some women do too)

arguing is normal and necessary in life's negotiations as we go from single and doing what we want to coupledom & making joint decisions, melding values and habits and learning to respect differences

as long as those negotiations - or arguments- happen in an adult manner they are perfectly normal and necessary

if u don't argue sometimes one of the partners is absorbing all the crap and doing all the changing.....and will eventually combust - prolly leave


if u don't argue sometimes u are not communicating as needed

it's HOW it's done, not that it happens that is important