Can any 1 suggest me hw should I react back 2 a person (55)whom I trust her as my very own family?

3 strikes your out. Depending on the offense on me, one - three strikes and your out my life forever unless they are family. No blood relation than I say hit the curb. You let someone slide on something they will do it to you again and think its ok because you didnt stand up for yourself the first time. Dont let anyone walk on you.

get rid! end of!

Go with your gut. After you calm down.

Yes, they will just cause more and more pain.

Let them pollute someone elses life. Get rid! :D

forgive them and move on with your life
without them if necessary

forgive them and move on with your life
without them if necessary

Just walk away, don't go back..

Guess it would all depend on what they did and how bad it was...

Therefore I can't really say how I would react without details..

I dont want liers in my life, I've had that and don't need it

say auf wiedersehen! bye bye u.u

Last personal friend who did me wrong...I have every intention of shooting with a shotgun filled with rocksalt. Now, I wait.

It depends on what the betrayal is.

Unfaithfulness/abusiveness=they are gone
Drugs and alcohol abuse=they are gone
Illegal activities=they are gone

I won't hate them or anything like that because holding the grudge will kill me so I will wish them well, just elsewhere.

Get rid of the trash ... Move on :-)

In life ,,if someone I trusted did me wrong,,WE WOULD NOT BE US EVER AGAIN,,,,period,,,for THEY were not truly a friend,,,END OF THAT STORY..

Distance yourself and be glad they SHOWED YOU NOW,,who they really AREINSIDE,,as to do THAT to you,,,even IF it was family,,,I would NOT bewhat we were,,ever again,,TRUST,,is earned ,,and to give a false act when with you,,as to how they feel about you,,THERE'S no RIGHT,,in that.

I'd bury them in the backyard with the others.

Thank u all 4d suggestions.I think there's no medicine 4 ill minded selfish pple so I think it'll b better if we remain far 4 rm the person.There's nthing we can gain by challenging the person.In the end truth will prevail.

It's funny that I should come across this thread so soon after someone I called my best friend and "sister" of 6 years backstabbed me and almost made me lose all custody over my daughter.

My boyfriend and I had NO idea she was going to do this. We spent 6 years supporting her and her kids financially and emotionally. Whatever we had, was hers as well. We opened our home to her.

And then, one day, she decided to slander our good name to my ex whom went berserk and threatened to take my daughter away from me for good. (He has majority custody of our daughter, as my job is still paying me too low to be able to raise her the way she deserves, with good schools and nice clothing. Plus, he has family to rely on, I have none at all.)

So, my instant reaction? Sadness and a broken heart. However, I called her (and of course she didn't answer) and left her a message telling her that I do not hate her for what she has done, but if she ever returns to Kansas, not to look me or my boyfriend up because we have washed our hands of her. I also told her, "Thank you. Thank you for showing me your true colors. You have made my life easier now by eliminating yourself as a financial burden on me and my loved ones."

My boyfriend wanted to send her an angry email admonishing her for her behaviour but I told him, "Forgive her in your heart and forget her in your mind. Do not sink to her level. Now that we know her true behaviour, if you sent her an angry email, she will just tear it up and send my ex only the BAD parts and that will completely cost my daughter. Just have patience. Follow my example. You hear my ex calling me every day right now telling me how bad I am and all these terrible things only because he heard rumors and vicious lies from her. But I am patient. I do not get angry back. Why? Because me getting angry and yelling back will only fuel his fire and cost me my daughter. Be patient with your anger. Trust that God will resolve this evil she has caused."

My lawyer contacted me shortly and told me I can sue the crap out of her and win because of what she did can be proven to have affected me AND my boyfriend AND my daughter.

I told him, "If I sue her and we know I will win, I know enough about her lifestyle that she will lose both her children. As much as I secretly want to get my revenge, I can NOT do anything that will affect her children. Let her go. She can not afford to lose to me. She has nothing that I want bad enough to make her lose her children."

This was a very VERY difficult test of my patience, compassion and faith that God will heal the hurts.

It has been 2 weeks since she did this. My ex has calmed down A LOT. I will be flying back out to him to make sure the lawyers have left our child custody agreement alone and to see my princess ahead of scheduled time. He is okay with this. He has come to his senses and realizes that even if he wants to believes the lies told about me, I have always been fair and just when it comes to our daughter. Her happiness is my goal. So he is going back to our original agreement so as to not affect our daughter's life as she knows it. We are protecting her innocence as long as we can. I may have lost the rare friendship that few divorced couples have, but as long as we agree that we are BOTH doing what is BEST for her, we are still friendly.

My advice...


Let it go. Take the hurt you feel and do something good with your life. Don't sink to your friend's level and return the favor they did to you. Be patient. Trust in your higher power to guide you through this to a better understanding. Acknowledge that if you have the strength to get through this, you will be stronger in faith, patience and compassion.

Forgive your friend. And then, forget your friend. They are not worthy to be in your life. It sucks, but it is true.

One thing my daughter and her father told me when I was upset over a friend that kept being a huge stressor in my life:

"Surround yourself with friends that make YOU a better person. Eliminate those that make you bad."

OMG!! I have been through this situation a few hourz back. Yes its only pain you can feel. You feel like you dont wanna talk to anyone at that time. You wanna be alone. You wanna take out your frustration on that person. The blood in your veins gets a boost. Your hands are tremblin. You cant believe this happened. Yes, this happens when your hurt