Seriously, how do YOU meet people that you end up dating whether it goes sour or not?

I've been single my entire life and am thinking not even using the internet is a good choice anymore or I'm using the wrong websites.

Talking to people in the forums. That is how to meet and get to know people. Good luck, and enjoy yourself.

It's cause I'm anti social.

The vast majority of the people I've dated, I met through friends. Then I moved to Indianastan and lost all my friends, so that's no longer an option.

The other 9 I met on dating sites, and that was no barrel of monkeys either. Wait, that's not the metaphor I wanted. Let's just say that those experiences weren't exactly pleasant, much in the same way being shredded to death by angry bears inside an active volcano isn't pleasant.

Whether you meet people online or in person, you have to put some effort into it.

I meet people at different places. Sometimes through friends, sometimes while out at a bar, sometimes while doing something I enjoy such as volunteering or playing trivia. Find groups that do activities that you like, whether it's hiking, a book club, boating, happy hours.. anything. You'll meet people that have the same interests that you have.

I have no idea how to meet people. Seems kinda awkward to walk up to someone you don't know and say "Hey, you look kinda cool. Can we be friends?". For now, I just go out and do my thing, whether that's walking the dog or hangin' out at the beach, and I wait for someone to want to meet me. If nobody approaches, I just go it alone like I always have. Suppose this isn't the ideal approach but I've never been a social butterfly and I'm probably not about to morph now.

Try finding some social groups in the area! That way, there are several people there who are looking to meet new people. It takes the awkwardness out of the meeting new people thing.

That's no longer an option, either.



Yeah, I need to work on metaphors this week. Sometimes they don't make a lot of sense....!

find an activity (preferably one that involves other poeple) that you enjoy that also involves leaving the home and go do that activity. there should be other people there that you can "mingle" with.

turn off the computer and go out and do something. maybe step outside your comfort zone and try some sort of activity that men usually show up for. spitting contests, fart lighting contests, "how long does my hair have to get before i look like a hillbilly" contests.


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I long for the days of yesteryear, where Cavemen would walk up to a Cavewoman, smash her on the head with his club, and then state ever so sweetly...."Ugh! Me Horny. Me want you! Ugh!" Sad to say those days are no longer. Damn PC world. So cruel!

Yeah, I'm just unlucky.. don't have friends to be meeting any through them. I don't go out nor am I social butterfly. I've always been the listener than the talker. I don't even think I have any interests to be going to social groups or even know where to be looking for those..

If you don't go out, don't do anything and don't have interests, what do you do? Sounds like you need to get yourself out and find out what you enjoy.

The first thing we would look at is that little number that says 8 posts and as it has already been mentioned, pump that number up and get involved. So, lets say the dating thing doesn't work out. You will still (and maybe even better)have the joy of knowing you have mingled with some really great potential friends.

I call up a random number,,and IF a lady answers I say Hello,,and she says hello,,and I say YES??? Could I help you? And she replies,,YOU CALLED ME,,I then say THATS IMPOSSIBLE AS MY PHONE RANG,RIGHT WHEN I SAID HELLO? SHE THEN SAYS,,,look mister ,,I don't know what kind of game your playing but ,"you called me!" so,,THEN I SAY,,well whatever,,so tell me,,what did you want anyway?
SHE REPLIES,,I,,,,I DID"T WANT ANYTHING AND I NEVER CALLED YOU!
So then I say,,look miss,,I am sorry that you call people with this wild story your telling,,but IF you need a friend to call,,,I'll play your game,,,my name is Terry,,so whats up?.....

OK,,,so THAT DOESN'T WORK VERY OFTEN


To be real with you and meeting folks,,truly it is what others here have told you as far as on the Internet,,,you can meet many strangers through this site,,and grow to call them a friend,,and as for dating them,,THAT MAY lead to THAT? And it may not? BUT through friendships,,time is much more 'feeling', your time WITH someone,,verses alone and wondering IF its YOU or NOT? Because it is very HARD to meet someone when your not very active in getting out much where you can meet someone...So like most of us here you turn to the Net as a means to laugh and have some fun,,maybe some romance while sitting comfortably at home.. like you are NOW.
THIS place gives allof us a chanc to look at them,,read their personailties,,and choose to say hello,,or not to? And there are many who will lie cheat and beg you for anything,,,just like in REAL LIFE DUDES,, but thats life,,,,Many more,,are really nice people to get to know and call them a friend..so as ithis takes time,,reading,,,and for your personality to be shown,,,its not an over-night process,,it all depeds on what YOU put forth to make yourself SEN,,and tobe liked or not?
As for real in person meeting someone,,Chuch, clubs, MUCH SHOPPING,,and asking silly questions to stock clerks,,who YOU THINK ARE HOT,,,,
But THATS hard unles it is someone you work with or at the smae place everyday,,so as you have a chance to say hello,,once in awhile?
Being able to detect who MIGHT be looking at you more than once,,,helps also,,,wink,,because YOU might already have missed a few who thought about you in a dating way?
With clubs,,you have mostly the hot meet and want the HOT and their one night stands,,and through Church,,it takes a long time for one to speak up to even speak to you,,unless YOUR very out-going? And with a fellow worker,,you have all the issues that might follow IF you both end up having harsh words,,,and then YOU still have to pss each other everyday?
So,,look into friends with friends who might hook ya up? and stay herein the forums,,making friends who at least you get to share some giggle with,,,GOOD LUCK AND BE BLESSED FOR WHO YOU AE ^TO THIS WORLD,,,And nice seeing you on here....

4shley, I think there are plenty of people out there with similar problems. It's just harder to meet people these days, for many of us. Some have work at home type jobs and with e-communications, e-file transfers, global clients, etc. there's even less personal interaction required or possible sometimes. Or that's what I hear.

Otherwise you can meet interesting people at markets, shops, clubs, restaurants, etc. - and I'd say it helps to have an open heart and mind. A smile and a joke can do wonders to break the ice!

I also like the idea of social clubs and such - you might be surprised how many varied social and special interest groups there may be in your area! (I was when I looked recently!)

Just some thoughts. All the best!


FantasyArtMan

you have to go out and be social. men aren't going to randomly show up at your door. nor are they going to just walk into your place of employment. there's no higher power that's going to drop a man on your couch for you.
i heard somewhere that the easiest way to find someone who enjoys doing the same things as you is to go out and do those things.
you don't have any interests that don't involve sitting at home?


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