I need some advice ......

Heres the story ..... Last July I moved from Georgia to Kentucky . Before moving I was in a friends w/benefits type relationship . After I moved I continued talking to the guy via email and eventually I shared with him that I had feelings for him . Everytime we talk I whine about how much I want to move back .... Well tonight he asked me to move back and move in with him !!!!! It really suprised me I never expected it . The only problem with this is that my lisence were revoked last August and I have fines out the ass to pay before I can get them back . I explained this to him and he says we can work it out since he works nights he can drive me to work . Now I really like this guy and want to move back to Georgia really bad but im a little scared because ill have to rely on him to get around and well ive never lived with someone before . I dont know what to do . Please give me your opinion ....... Thank you .

GO WITH YOUR GUT INSTINCTS

I always say follow your heart. Relying on some one isn't the end of the world.

Question, did he ask you move back and in with him because you whined about wanting to move back, he just wants his benefits with in reach or he really wants to be with you in a serious relationship? You need to find out before you move back because I'm sure you don't want to move back and have things start going downhill.

Just my opinion.

Thank Gosh there are buses or public transportation to help you if needed, See if you can set up a job before you go back so you dont feel you are having to rely on him.

Shag is right, also, put away a little bit of money each chech for emergency's or just is cases, let it be your secret. Good luck and do what Kojac says, go with yer gut, it's 9/10 times the right way.

Go with your MIND not your HEART! Your mind will not fail you, but sometimes your heart will darlin.

Thanks for all the advice so far .

Cashay good point I think I need to talk to him more about everything .

I do feel like this is a good idea and I know I can get a job as soon as I move back . My brother is also down there so I wont be totally alone in case of an emergency I know I could rely on him to help me out .

I think you already know what to do!!
girl, you only live once, and if you sure he is a gentleman and he will give the respect you deserve, then is worth the efford,
what can go wrong, that can't be fixed..

but always be careful and protect yourself!!


Morena!

brandy!!get your life together first!!babygirl get a car and then go see him do (EVER)relyon anyone at least in the begining!!

Have everyting out in the open before you even start packing.
If you move in is it just going to be friends W/benifits?
How much are you expected to pay?
Does he go out with his friends & bring gurls home?
Has he said his feelings for you?

Good luck gurl!

Well it shows her not working now so if she can get work there for sure that would be to her benifit to go..

Right im not working here jobs are hard to find .
I know without a doubt I could have a job there with the same company I was working with before moving . So that is a plus .

The downside I am not sure what the arrangements would be he gave me very few details before he had to go to work . I told him I would think about it and let him know . I think I need to ask him ALOT of questions before considering this further .

yep weigh everything.... what do you have to gain and what do u have to lose? if u dont have a job where u are at start looking in georgia.. that is... if u really want to go back... and do u want a relationship with him? or do you want a friend with benifit relationship? u need to think about that... and what does he say he wants? cause im sure u can pay your tickets wherever u are at to straighten your life to be where u need to be at... gotta have a job to pay.... if ya just think u may miss him for the sex well.... hun u can get that anywhere you dont need to move for that... focus on yourself.... and what is best... for the both of you.... good luck!!!

Yep, get all those questions asked and answered. Then ask yourself if you want to be dependent on someone else, or if you'd feel better if you figured out a way to take care of things yourself.

There's probably a reason why you two never got in a real relationship when you were living nearby. You might want to think about what those reasons might have been, before you move in with him, it might be too close for comfort.

Just a couple things to think about, I don't know what you should do, I'm doing good to figure out what I should do.

When and if, the time comes: And a fight insues; will he be trustworthy enough to not turn you in, with the info he has on you now? Can you really be comfortable with depending on someone for your every move?
Jusr saying...
Good luck with your choices honey. Be happy.
Kat

Did you move from there because of your fines & Lic. problems?
Since your not working you could go to court & tell them you can't pay & see how much jail time you would do to clear it at up.. Then you could at least have that cleared & out of the way before you start into a new job & new life & be riding in somebodies car & get hauled in for warants when your just getting settled again & lost everything.

get a job, pay off ur crap, and then move.. you should go with nothing draggin ya down..

yeah what she said

Straighten your own sh** out and then go feeling good about yourself!