ok guys, heres your chance.

I heard an interesting conversation between two radio hosts the other day about how hard it is to find a 'quality' woman. I know I have heard this said for quite a while about finding a 'good' man and in a culture which encourages men to hunt(figuratively and literally), the tendency to translate this into 'quantity' of women over 'quality' of women seems fairly common.


But, with women encouraged not to 'hunt'(have quality over quantity), and considering myself of fairly decent 'quality', I find it odd that men should have any difficult time finding 'quality' women. So I must be missing what it is a man generally considers to be a 'quality' woman.


How would you answer the question


What do you look for in a 'quality' woman?

Yes, Men please answer this. I am sure a lot of us women out here would love your answers.

~K~

Well, I have certainly been guilty of the "quantity" thing, inasmuch as I've had a seemingly relentless parade of 3-month (or less) relationships.

As for "quality" -- I'll consider this in terms of what it would take to keep me interested in someone longer than 3 months:

Intellect -- I'm tired of dealing with illiterates and non-thinkers.

Honesty -- And I'm not really expecting anyone to be 100% honest all the time, this is unrealistic. But just in terms of the initial "What do you want out of the relationship?" communications. Because what I have found is that they always tell me what they think I want to hear, as far as what they're looking for, when that's not really what they're looking for at all. So the relationship is doomed from the beginning, because I cannot be what they try to mold me into.

I try to be very clear about what I'm looking for, they tell me they agree, then it turns out they lied. This is a persistent problem.

Independence -- Someone with a life of her own, who understands that I have a life of my own, and that there are certain areas where there is going to be little or no overlap.

Communication -- Nothing is more boring than trying to have a conversation with someone who has the communications skills of a lobster. Well, football. But not much else.

Consistency -- This should be more or less self-explanatory. I have never seen it in any of my relationships.

I think it's a lot like guys catching flack on the "nice guys" threads. Quality women out there, but everyone is ignoring them and going for the "bad girls".

a quality woman to me is one who has class,intelligence,good judgement on handling problems/situations in a mature manner,honest,independent,takes care of herself(please no minds in the gutter on this one) and has decent communication skills

I associate quality with value. I never once thought of someone being more valuable than another person.

beauty

Every woman has good and bad qualities.What a man likes in one woman may be detested by another; for example, independence. Some men like independent women while some like their women totally dependent on them.But in the context of this topic, we ought to seek compatibity and companionship - who best complements us. There are relationships that build up the couple and there are some that destroy. IMHO we all should seek partnerships that will enhance us and not diminish us; and to this, only God will lead.

Testify !

not slutty, takes care of herself, likes to laugh and joke, not needy, someone that is comfortable with the silent moments, and nice legs...

What I don't want in a woman?

Well, first off, look at women in Hollywood. It will show you a lot of what I don't want. I don't like women who will compromise their principles just for the sake of money. Hollywood often promotes an image that doing such is acceptable. I don't believe in sex as a marketing tool or strategy. Hence, I don't want a woman that follows the media model.

I'm not promiscuous, so I don't want a woman who is. Experience is one thing, but sleeping with 100 guys is a whole other problem.

I like intelligence, but I'm flexible. Common sense (huge!) and good judgment are more important, as are honesty, an open-mind, compassion, and good communication skills. I don't like head games. All of these things when properly utilized help to avoid playing games.

I want a woman who appreciates who I am, even when I am not at my best. We have to be able to hold a conversation, have common interests, a willingness to develop new common interests while still remaining independent. I don't want a woman who agrees with me all the time. I like having my eyes opened to a different point of view.

I could probably come up with a few more things, but I'm just going off the top of my head at the moment.

Personally, I believe the OP has many of these traits. It's why I invited her to my friend list here on Mingle.

Now if only I could find someone like that in the area where I live.

crumbly like a fine cheese!

IMHO, a quality woman doesn't spend all my money on useless ****, doesn't watch 'reality' tv all day, and isn't obsessed with the latest celebrity gossip.
She knows what's going on in the world, is concerned about the environment, donates time/money to charity and bates her own damned hook.

Hmm....I think we need more to post here. I believe this thread was meant to be a showcase not only for what each individual guy is looking for, but also to see what common denominators most guys look for. Hence, what Joe Average considers necessary traits for a "quality woman".

Funny how the vast majority of guys haven't stepped up to the plate here. Seems like this happened in the "nice guy" thread too. Makes one wonder what is holding men back?

A written warranty and a generous return policy.....

Well if your looking for a quality woman,im available. I try to stay fit as and educated as posible im always hönest and fair. Im mentaly stable and emotioly mature. I can understand you and wil devote my life in helping you achieve your goals and iwill stay devoted toyou and encourage you todo anything that makes you happy.

Affectionate,Appriciating,Artistic
Beautiful,Bold
Caring,Comprehensieve,Compassionate,Cultured,Committed,Cool,Courageous,Creative
Dedicated,Devoted
Educated,Easy going,Encouraging,Extrovert
Friendly,Fun loving,Faithfull
Good homemaker,Good mom,Good cook,Generous
Hygienic,Honest
Intelligent,Interesting
Joyous,Jovial
Kind,Kidlover
Loving,Loyal
Matured
Nice,Naughty,Neat
Original,Organiser
Pleasent,Playfull,Presentable,Peace loving,
QUIET
Respectfull,Responsible,Realistic
Slim,Sexy,Spiritual,supportive,Sociable,Smart
Thoughtfull,Trusting
Untidy,Unkempt
Virgin
Wise
Xtra pounds
Yummy
zazzy


Thats my ABCD of Quality Expectations.