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Topic: Passive???
TexasScoundrel's photo
Sun 06/19/11 05:52 AM
Well, there is a difference between being dominate and dominating.

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 06:05 AM
Edited by MzCat73 on Sun 06/19/11 06:08 AM

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 06:07 AM

You mentioned trying to explain to some man that what he was doing was wrong....

It seems you were trying to change someone rather than telling yourself to move on since he was not right for you.

I dont really see that its a passive/aggressive issue in your case.

Find the man you are not compelled to change.


it was in my case, cause the man told me straight out the other day, that he wanted a passive feminine girly girl woman. that came out his mouth, not mine. was just sharing that. we been talkn on and off since november, and he just figuring that out??? he has said to me in the past, while arguing, he said that's why guys want white women. just sharing what HE said. and was getn opinions.

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 06:08 AM

Well, there is a difference between being dominate and dominating.


well dude has a serious anger problem....and um, i'm not having that. i didn't deserve to be treated like that.

and another thing too, he got embarrassed in front of ppl. like his boys.....when i came over there one time, i got mad cause he wanted to spend his time with them, instead of me and my kids. so i was leaving, and said something to one of his boys...like if they wanted to know what was wrong with me, i would tell them. well anyway, dude got very upset with me and act like he was gonna STEP....yelling and cussing at me to get in the car. then turns around AND APOLOGIES TO HIS FRIENDS, so nice and sweet to them. I CAN'T EVER FORGET THAT. some time after that big blow up, he said sorry, but why say sorry when u gonna do something again.

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 06:10 AM


well dude has a serious anger problem....and um, i'm not having that. i didn't deserve to be treated like that.

and another thing too, he got embarrassed in front of ppl. like his boys.....when i came over there one time, i got mad cause he wanted to spend his time with them, instead of me and my kids. so i was leaving, and said something to one of his boys...like if they wanted to know what was wrong with me, i would tell them. well anyway, dude got very upset with me and act like he was gonna STEP....yelling and cussing at me to get in the car. then turns around AND APOLOGIES TO HIS FRIENDS, so nice and sweet to them. I CAN'T EVER FORGET THAT. some time after that big blow up, he said sorry, but why say sorry when u gonna do something again.


You see him clearly as what you do not want yet you return to him. I dont get it.


not with him now!!! was just getn ppls opinions of what guys want.

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 06:12 AM


it was in my case, cause the man told me straight out the other day, that he wanted a passive feminine girly girl woman. that came out his mouth, not mine. was just sharing that. we been talkn on and off since november, and he just figuring that out??? he has said to me in the past, while arguing, he said that's why guys want white women. just sharing what HE said. and was getn opinions.


And how long do you plan to subject yourself and your children to his opinions if you are not like minded?


LIKE MINDED??????????????

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 06:13 AM


it was in my case, cause the man told me straight out the other day, that he wanted a passive feminine girly girl woman. that came out his mouth, not mine. was just sharing that. we been talkn on and off since november, and he just figuring that out??? he has said to me in the past, while arguing, he said that's why guys want white women. just sharing what HE said. and was getn opinions.


And how long do you plan to subject yourself and your children to his opinions if you are not like minded?


I'M NOT DEALING WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!! slaphead

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 06:18 AM




well dude has a serious anger problem....and um, i'm not having that. i didn't deserve to be treated like that.

and another thing too, he got embarrassed in front of ppl. like his boys.....when i came over there one time, i got mad cause he wanted to spend his time with them, instead of me and my kids. so i was leaving, and said something to one of his boys...like if they wanted to know what was wrong with me, i would tell them. well anyway, dude got very upset with me and act like he was gonna STEP....yelling and cussing at me to get in the car. then turns around AND APOLOGIES TO HIS FRIENDS, so nice and sweet to them. I CAN'T EVER FORGET THAT. some time after that big blow up, he said sorry, but why say sorry when u gonna do something again.


You see him clearly as what you do not want yet you return to him. I dont get it.


not with him now!!! was just getn ppls opinions of what guys want.


Cool. I think you should concern yourself with what you want tho. jmo. I value getting other perspectives, but it wont change this man from being who he is. You can however learn to beware of such men. You are a strong person and that is far from a negative trait. Dont put up with anyone's poo. Just quietly say, 'no thank you and lose my number'. Not a match is all.


right....... :laughing: shades

fireflysgirl's photo
Sun 06/19/11 09:21 AM


I want someone balanced. The whole, yin-yang thing. Sometimes it's good to be passive, sometimes aggressive for both of us.

Now, where's that riding crop! pitchfork


whip me and i'll bite pitchfork



gotta get out the frying pan to keep this one in line...LOL love them Texas men laugh

EquusDancer's photo
Sun 06/19/11 09:24 AM



I want someone balanced. The whole, yin-yang thing. Sometimes it's good to be passive, sometimes aggressive for both of us.

Now, where's that riding crop! pitchfork


whip me and i'll bite pitchfork



gotta get out the frying pan to keep this one in line...LOL love them Texas men laugh



Oh so very true!! rofl

Ladylid2012's photo
Sun 06/19/11 09:44 AM
What's wrong with being passive?
I'm passive, I don't allow myself to be controlled, far from it.



Mayhem_J's photo
Sun 06/19/11 09:47 AM
I seem to like them crazy bytches!!

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 09:53 AM

What's wrong with being passive?
I'm passive, I don't allow myself to be controlled, far from it.





well what i think my ex meant was, a chic who is dumb and don't know any better, someone young and who hasn't went thru anything and hasn't been hurt yet. probably someone he can mold. someone who won't talk or think about anything. basically a NUMB NUMB!!!

there are many ways of being passive

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 09:54 AM

I seem to like them crazy bytches!!


lol laugh scared

Mayhem_J's photo
Sun 06/19/11 10:00 AM


I seem to like them crazy bytches!!


lol laugh scared


Or maybe its that they like me....

But I'm not going to lie...they are a hell of a lot of fun until the crazy somes out. So its not like I avoid them.


MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 10:02 AM



I seem to like them crazy bytches!!


lol laugh scared


Or maybe its that they like me....

But I'm not going to lie...they are a hell of a lot of fun until the crazy somes out. So its not like I avoid them.




ok be honest, what do u do to make them turn crazy?? just wondering!! spock

Mayhem_J's photo
Sun 06/19/11 10:03 AM




I seem to like them crazy bytches!!


lol laugh scared


Or maybe its that they like me....

But I'm not going to lie...they are a hell of a lot of fun until the crazy somes out. So its not like I avoid them.




ok be honest, what do u do to make them turn crazy?? just wondering!! spock


If I knew...I'd tell ya. I'm not saying I'm innocent. But I'm not saying they all go crazy either.

MzCat73's photo
Sun 06/19/11 10:09 AM
oh ok!!! i know for me, what makes me go crazy is when a man is so dag on rude and he doesn't care about me or anything i say....see it must be a non communicative thing. can't stand liars...ones that lie so much, they start to believe their own selves. but then again, if they don't love themselves, how can i expect and dude to love me and respect me.

whoa i got offtopic but hey............it's in the line of what i'm talkn bout lol.

Mayhem_J's photo
Sun 06/19/11 10:14 AM

oh ok!!! i know for me, what makes me go crazy is when a man is so dag on rude and he doesn't care about me or anything i say....see it must be a non communicative thing. can't stand liars...ones that lie so much, they start to believe their own selves. but then again, if they don't love themselves, how can i expect and dude to love me and respect me.

whoa i got offtopic but hey............it's in the line of what i'm talkn bout lol.


Oh well...I dont go and do things like that. I guess I should change the word from crazy to wild. Some women just can't be contained...lol!!

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