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Topic: Atheist have no chance
Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Mon 06/20/11 08:02 PM
I don't think anyone should judge people by religion, or whatever else. To be fair. We're all here. So just accept it for what it is. You don't believe that at all. Would you date a man who beats his children with a whip? No? Well, you just judged said man as unworthy of your affection. i didn't come here looking for an arguement. Thanks. Neither did I, I just had to point out how ridiculous your position on judging is.

Alterette Joined Mon 06/06/11 Posts: 1600	Mon 06/20/11 08:22 PM
Dating someone who has similar beliefs and a similar outlook on life makes the marriage easier, with less fighting and heartache. It's good advice for anyone of any religion to date and marry within their own religion, it eliminates a lot of the problems that could happen otherwise. As a Christian woman, I'd say that you're right on the mark. I have friends of different religions, and with no religion at all. I've even been a Big Sister to a young Shiite Muslim girl; she's now in University and we still love and respect each other. But I'm unusual and not into "converting" anyone. I've dated some non-religious people but I would never look for a serious romantic relationship with one. What if you had kids or planned to have them? Too much conflict there for it to work in the long run IMO. I'm sorry.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 06/20/11 08:28 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Mon 06/20/11 08:31 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 06/20/11 08:36 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them. personaly they don't share it they force it "come on kids,get up it's time to get ready for church" "ok kids lets go to bible study" "let's say prayers before our meal" "ok kids say your prayer before you go to bed".....do i really need to keep going.and religion doesn't teach morals or anything,just as i posted before..use common sense it works just as good.

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Mon 06/20/11 08:38 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them. personaly they don't share it they force it "come on kids,get up it's time to get ready for church" "ok kids lets go to bible study" "let's say prayers before our meal" "ok kids say your prayer before you go to bed".....do i really need to keep going.and religion doesn't teach morals or anything,just as i posted before..use common sense it works just as good. That's your experience, not everyone's.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 06/20/11 08:39 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them. personaly they don't share it they force it "come on kids,get up it's time to get ready for church" "ok kids lets go to bible study" "let's say prayers before our meal" "ok kids say your prayer before you go to bed".....do i really need to keep going.and religion doesn't teach morals or anything,just as i posted before..use common sense it works just as good. That's your experience, not everyone's. not just mine theres how many jesus freaks?...billions i believe

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Mon 06/20/11 08:41 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them. personaly they don't share it they force it "come on kids,get up it's time to get ready for church" "ok kids lets go to bible study" "let's say prayers before our meal" "ok kids say your prayer before you go to bed".....do i really need to keep going.and religion doesn't teach morals or anything,just as i posted before..use common sense it works just as good. That's your experience, not everyone's. not just mine theres how many jesus freaks?...billions i believe They all had to force their kids to go to church? Really? I used to enjoy church when I was a kid. My kids love it and heck, I don't even go or tell them they have to go.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 06/20/11 08:42 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them. personaly they don't share it they force it "come on kids,get up it's time to get ready for church" "ok kids lets go to bible study" "let's say prayers before our meal" "ok kids say your prayer before you go to bed".....do i really need to keep going.and religion doesn't teach morals or anything,just as i posted before..use common sense it works just as good. That's your experience, not everyone's. not just mine theres how many jesus freaks?...billions i believe They all had to force their kids to go to church? Really? I used to enjoy church when I was a kid. My kids love it and heck, I don't even go or tell them they have to go. well see theres always the infamous exceptions

Spidercmb Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 13137	Mon 06/20/11 08:44 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them. personaly they don't share it they force it "come on kids,get up it's time to get ready for church" "ok kids lets go to bible study" "let's say prayers before our meal" "ok kids say your prayer before you go to bed".....do i really need to keep going.and religion doesn't teach morals or anything,just as i posted before..use common sense it works just as good. That's your experience, not everyone's. not just mine theres how many jesus freaks?...billions i believe They all had to force their kids to go to church? Really? I used to enjoy church when I was a kid. My kids love it and heck, I don't even go or tell them they have to go. well see theres always the infamous exceptions Did it occur to you that you might be the exception?

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 06/20/11 08:47 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. so you feel automatically that your kids will be christians in their adult lives too,funny.thats what my family thought about me when i was a kid. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them. personaly they don't share it they force it "come on kids,get up it's time to get ready for church" "ok kids lets go to bible study" "let's say prayers before our meal" "ok kids say your prayer before you go to bed".....do i really need to keep going.and religion doesn't teach morals or anything,just as i posted before..use common sense it works just as good. That's your experience, not everyone's. not just mine theres how many jesus freaks?...billions i believe They all had to force their kids to go to church? Really? I used to enjoy church when I was a kid. My kids love it and heck, I don't even go or tell them they have to go. well see theres always the infamous exceptions Did it occur to you that you might be the exception? to what christianity?

Alterette Joined Mon 06/06/11 Posts: 1600	Mon 06/20/11 08:49 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. I am not "using" anything ... this is a very valid point for me. REally, if you knew anything or had any experience with children, you would know that they begin to decide MANY things on their own starting at about age 10. However, as long as they are young and inexperienced, it is my duty (and my joy) to guide them as I see fit, to protect them and teach them to become decent and productive members of society. I know it's possible to teach decency and how to treat each other as human beings without G-d. My kids play Xbox and hang out with their friends; most of the kids my kids are around are NOT Christians. I encourage them to know more about other cultures and other religions and I EXPECT them to make their own choices. As a matter of fact, I have EIGHT children and their ages range from 9 to 34 years old. I've also had guardianship of two teenage brothers and a number of foster children. Not all of them are Christians; even some of the Christians are not practicing Christians. But they know my faith is real to me and we respect each others beliefs. And since I have a close relationship with my god and I am happy and at peace, why wouldn't I want that for my children also? It's hard enough to raise kids when both parents share the same faith; why make it harder by marrying someone whose faith is opposite to yours?

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 06/20/11 08:55 PM
lol...figures use the kids,can't let them decide on their own when they get a little older,believe me very few kids really care about religion or atheism,they rather play on their xbox or with friends. I am not "using" anything ... this is a very valid point for me. REally, if you knew anything or had any experience with children, you would know that they begin to decide MANY things on their own starting at about age 10. However, as long as they are young and inexperienced, it is my duty (and my joy) to guide them as I see fit, to protect them and teach them to become decent and productive members of society. I know it's possible to teach decency and how to treat each other as human beings without G-d. My kids play Xbox and hang out with their friends; most of the kids my kids are around are NOT Christians. I encourage them to know more about other cultures and other religions and I EXPECT them to make their own choices. As a matter of fact, I have EIGHT children and their ages range from 9 to 34 years old. I've also had guardianship of two teenage brothers and a number of foster children. Not all of them are Christians; even some of the Christians are not practicing Christians. But they know my faith is real to me and we respect each others beliefs. And since I have a close relationship with my god and I am happy and at peace, why wouldn't I want that for my children also? It's hard enough to raise kids when both parents share the same faith; why make it harder by marrying someone whose faith is opposite to yours? ok if you expect someone to respect your beliefs then whats wrong with dating an atheist that respects your beliefs...btw i'm a single father and my son lives with me,i'm just saying this whole point of my thread was the majority of christians look down on atheist,i'm living proof i have been called names,giving the cold shoulder,ignored..you name it.but there are some who aren't that way or they are just good at holding in what they feel.

Alterette Joined Mon 06/06/11 Posts: 1600	Mon 06/20/11 09:02 PM
ok if you expect someone to respect your beliefs then whats wrong with dating an atheist that respects your beliefs...btw i'm a single father and my son lives with me,i'm just saying this whole point of my thread was the majority of christians look down on atheist,i'm living proof i have been called names,giving the cold shoulder,ignored..you name it.but there are some who aren't that way or they are just good at holding in what they feel. I believe I already stated that I have dated atheists ... but I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with one. Because there is too much conflict of interests when you each believe something that is totally opposite. I'm sorry your experience with Christians has not been good ... maybe you've met too many of the shallow kind; because one of the most important precepts of Christianity is that we are NOT to judge each other because no human being is perfect and none of us have the right.

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Mon 06/20/11 09:03 PM
true but they are very limited they don't actually meet "supply and demand" so to speak. basically you run out of those to email in like 5 minutes...lol. AWWwwww, poor baby! WAH! get out of my thread,go....get Why dont you make me fool!!!!

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 06/20/11 09:09 PM
ok if you expect someone to respect your beliefs then whats wrong with dating an atheist that respects your beliefs...btw i'm a single father and my son lives with me,i'm just saying this whole point of my thread was the majority of christians look down on atheist,i'm living proof i have been called names,giving the cold shoulder,ignored..you name it.but there are some who aren't that way or they are just good at holding in what they feel. I believe I already stated that I have dated atheists ... but I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with one. Because there is too much conflict of interests when you each believe something that is totally opposite. I'm sorry your experience with Christians has not been good ... maybe you've met too many of the shallow kind; because one of the most important precepts of Christianity is that we are NOT to judge each other because no human being is perfect and none of us have the right. Right on sister!

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Mon 06/20/11 09:09 PM
ok if you expect someone to respect your beliefs then whats wrong with dating an atheist that respects your beliefs...btw i'm a single father and my son lives with me,i'm just saying this whole point of my thread was the majority of christians look down on atheist,i'm living proof i have been called names,giving the cold shoulder,ignored..you name it.but there are some who aren't that way or they are just good at holding in what they feel. I believe I already stated that I have dated atheists ... but I wouldn't get into a serious relationship with one. Because there is too much conflict of interests when you each believe something that is totally opposite. I'm sorry your experience with Christians has not been good ... maybe you've met too many of the shallow kind; because one of the most important precepts of Christianity is that we are NOT to judge each other because no human being is perfect and none of us have the right. no problem why apologize if your not one that was involved,but do you really need religion to tell you to treat people kindly and not judge others or is that just human nature?anyways i'm done or this thread will get moved.

Alterette Joined Mon 06/06/11 Posts: 1600	Mon 06/20/11 09:19 PM
no problem why apologize if your not one that was involved,but do you really need religion to tell you to treat people kindly and not judge others or is that just human nature?anyways i'm done or this thread will get moved. Here is my final answer also, as I don't want this thread to be moved either. Religion is a matter of choice for me; I grew up without religion or guidance for that matter. It has taught me how to treat others, find peace within myself and gives me direction. I was one of those kids who decided on my own when I was an older teen - only my decision was in favor of Christianity. I remember how my life was fueled by the hate and prejudice of my own father and would never want to go back to that. I teach my faith to my kids because I am hoping they find the same direction and peace that I did. It's that simple.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Mon 06/20/11 09:20 PM
This thread is an example of why they don't often have long relationships!!

74Drew Joined Thu 01/22/09 Posts: 4901	Mon 06/20/11 11:28 PM Edited by 74Drew on Mon 06/20/11 11:31 PM
Did it occur to you that you might be the exception? i was another one who didn't enjoy growing up "in the church", so he's not the exception. and if parents would take the time to ask their children if they wanted to go, most would probably say no. maybe not when they're kids and sunday school is more about fun then about learning about religion, but when they become pubescent things start to change. If someone believes that their religion is the right one, why wouldn't they want to share that with their children? If they later in life decide to leave the religion, hopefully they take a moral foundation with them. it doesn't take religion to teach kids morals. This thread is an example of why they don't often have long relationships! there are plenty of x-ians that can't make a relationship work as well. not believing in a god doesn't mean that an atheist/agnostic doesn't know how to love. we make mistakes in choosing partners just like the x-ians. . . .