oh, thanks. Buck is my faithful friend. Labs make great pets.

But now I must also add, both of my kids are very respectful. And in the past the men I have dated they have never not shown them anything but respect. What they have said to them at times are as long as you make my Mom happy then I'm okay with the relationship. Yes my son & daughter both have spoke those words to the few men I have dated in the past.

So really at times it is hard to judge why things happeen between two and the kids of antoher without really looking at the whole story for there are three sides of the story the man , the woman and the kids. All have there version of the story.

would your kids like me TXGAL?

LMAO, Mikey it is not my kids one must get by first. lmao I'm the hardcore one that one must get my attention all the way before they ever have a chance to even meet my kids.

hey TxsGal-
my kids are wonderful too!
they are respectful and they want me to be happy.
they are great kids. i always say...if i was a
guy i would date me just to get to hang around
my kids!!! LOL

Ty txsgal, I wish she had your kids :D

Here is one of the reasons the kids hate me:
She buys them a couple of hamsters. Which is great entertainment for a labradore, buck would watch the cage for hours. Just kidding, the little rodents were kept in the boys room and the door closed to keep the dog away.
Then one day, one of the boys left his door open. If you can picture a dog chasing a hamster in a small room.... The little fella didn't stand a chance.
My dog, my fault. Tragic.

yep and great protecters too

I appreciate you making this thread. In one relationship that I had where I had to move a great distance I encountered a similiar problem. At first I was indifferent with her son. He was just like there. She said I should talk to him. I did and we had a good time together. When his mother figured out that it could not work well between her and me she told her son to help me pack all my stuff back into the car. As he helped me to pack my car he apologized to me for his mother and thanked me for understanding. He told me that most guys weren't that understanding. I gave him a hug and her, too. The incident helped me later with my residents that I care for. That and the forums helped me to understand that a lot of people don't see things the same way that I do. Like her many of the residents I encounter are heavily medicated. Sometimes I have to psyche myself up when opening up a door because I never know for sure what I may find behind it even though I have opened up that door many times before.

yep... no matter what kind of kids and how they act i guess you have to put up with the crap!... you are better off with out her TRUST ME! been there done that.

Humm ezguy first of all the door to there room should have never been open in order for the hamster to get out. Second the hamster should have been in a ball if down on the floor. Third one can not blame somneone else what another animal does. It is instints only just as humans we can not be blamed for what another human does we have no control. So upset I could see were the kid would be but reality hits he was not being responsible with the hamster that lead to a chain of events that could not be prevented at the time.

ya honestly, just putting this out there is good soup for the soul. Its been almost a year since and I just heard she has recently married.
On one hand, I hope she is happy. On the other, I'm so heartbroken.

ezguy sorry about the ex butting in but if the kids and you were not getting along them it was best that you did not stay together because the kids would have tried to made it worse later because they listen to there parents more than others and believe their parents.

Yeah. You gotta get along wit hthe kids.

Of course, if her asshole of an EX likes to screw with her life and use the kids to push away people, then maybe it wasnt just you and the kids.

If it was me, I would have taken Mr. jerkface outside and let him know about down talking someone because of jealousay..

In texas, you just don't do that.

I have a black lab mix, but he hates my monkey.

Bad doggie..shame on you..now go to your corner

Hi Kater

That't the trouble, I ran out of corners...

ezguy win the kids over first? First of all if you don't let anyone be themselves they how are they to get comfortable with you. You say you work with kids? Then you shopuld know of all people you have to let them build there own trust in you. The min you push you will lose

Wanted to put my input in on this topic. I made the mistake of not putting my kids first in a relationship. It is not something I will do again. My mom was a single mom of 5 she repeatedly put men above her kids I believe she did this because she did not respect herself. I let anybody who is interested in me know that my kids are not baggage. They are me and I am them. If some one can not accept my kids then so be it. I love my kids and they will always be first.

walks in

looks around

uh huh yep

turns around

walks away

thinking i better just stay out of this one