I just want to thank all my friends here in Mingleland for the love and support you have shown me and the advice that has guided me through making a very tough, but necessary decision in my life.

I went to visit my ex for the last time yesterday!

I was hurt by recent letter from him, but did not let that guide making any comments in response to emotions and I did NOT melt under the stare of those big brown eyes.

I told him that whatever questions he had should be asked now and not to contact me any further! I said the fact is that I can not be what he needs me to be and will not pretend. He asked what could be done differently for his future romantic endeavors and I replied with a comment about being careful about the pain he caused them because no matter how much you apologize or try to change yourself for the better, there is absolutely NO WAY you can take it back.

He still tried the "but I want to be there for you" and I stood my ground, telling him that as long as I stayed in contact with him I would be unable to separate the feelings of love and guilt, therefore being unable to truly heal.

WOW...really never thought I'd be capable of breaking free & seems like it came so easily I feel so much better now

I remember your earlier posting. Glad you've made a decision & am sticking with it. A breakup is always hard no matter how good or bad the relationship was. Good luck & best wishes!!

i understand exactly how u feel good luck and good for u

Good for you, sister :). I can read men a mile off, so i don't blame you not wanting him around you anymore.

That took backbone and guts!

Massive Respect!

Now your life is yours again! Revel in the freedom!

All of life is..realizing :-)
Way to go fireflys.

making rational decisions will carry you thru life.
making irrational decisions will only result in failure.
start anew as the world is your oyster.

Thanks guys! Reminds of the part in the Labyrinth where she tells the goblin king "you have no power over me"!!!

Awesome thing was after I left there I stopped to get a burger at Yankees (a biker bar with the bestest burgers ever) and when I stepped outta the truck I heard my favorite local cover-band playing

you found a four leaf clover didn't you? go with the lucky you, it suits you so well!!

I've never had a conversation that lasted that long with an ex

good for you - ya got guts

I'm new on here and don't know your background but I do know that I am hearing a woman who has just taken her POWER back!!!!!

HUGS,
Lynne

thanks...I wanted to answer any questions and make sure the door was shut to further communication. I realized beforehand that if I said anything out of hurt or anger he would know that he could still upset me emotionally and the drama would continue into infinity!

He even asked how school was and I knew then he had sent that letter intentionally to derail me right before the big day last Friday! He damn well knew when my prelims were scheduled! I just smiled and said that school was great and I was gonna be a doctor soon, never acknowledging that letter!

He's a pro at manipulating emotions, so I ended the game by not showing any! I saw him for what he truly is and not what my heart/emotions wanted him to be and I am glad for that

Bastet...had a 4 leaf clover when I was a teenager that I laminated on an index card & someone stole it when I was 19 or so! I think I just finally broke the curse of the Butler family that has been haunting me for the last decade and now life will be so much sweeter!!! I keep ending up places with the same bands though (that was the second time to see Leannasaurus Rex at Yankees, caught the Braggards Friday night while celebrating and had seen them @ Obannon's St Paddy's day, and will see Dean Seltzer and the Redneck Mothers on the 20th which I also saw during spring break).

Hopefully that's a good sign of a music man in my future...LOL

cool that you could see right thru him

I found a six leaf clover once - seriously - at hockey camp in Maryland when I was a kid (and not listening to coach.....)

I've always had a knack to find 4 leaf clovers - gimme a clover patch - any clover patch - I'll find some

Welcome curvy! I'll just say thanks and save you the history...some day I may write a book about my life with Mike's

He would take up the majority of chapters in it

I believe that "we train others how to treat us." You just stepped up to the plate and showed yourself and him that you are worthy and deserving of respect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GO GIRL ................