lol, such a move would be awful on my kids,,,

wux Do you actually believe this?
I have had men contact me, that are neither. BUT then again I stated in my profile that there is no chance of reconciliation. And we are doing it amicably. So your saying that the separated people on here only attracted the desperate. GEE THANKS!!


Personally, after this man put mein into financial ruin, and caused us to be foreclosed on. MY 5 yr old became my sole priority. BUT as soon as I got the income tax refund. I was at a recommended attorney, and started procedures. Then had to wait for him (in his usual style) fill out his part of the paperwork, and get it notarized. And since he has no priorities or money (Due to his bad attitude, and complete lack of giving a crap) It came down to me saying "thats it, I'm gonna do what I have to to be rid of him legally". Now it just comes down to child support and child custody. And having him sign all papers, which I have to do(deliver and make sure done), because he just can't be bothered. And since he's the one who cheated on me, throughout our marriage, you would think he would be the one wanting out.
So its not always matter of can't be bothered to do it.

I am ready for someone who loves me and cherishes as I have to all the men I have had relationships with. Still being married as fas as I'm concerned is a technicality, and within a few months will be over. Why should I wait to try and connect and meet with someone who might be my perfect match?

not all divorces are nasty, some are very amicable and consentual, no drama to watch

as far as being left after getting divorced,,,,

it certainly wasnt true for lee ann rhimes or angelina jolie,,,,lol
many are clinging on to the hope of someone finally being 'free' to be all theirs

some are just reasonably respectful of a persons circumstances

Personal preference, of course. Just like not being interested in someone with kids, or a smoker or a drinker, etc. etc.

I respectfully disagree, wux. Unless you label being in love as a desperation

My man has all the better options in life being such a fairly sought eligible single man and I would hate for him to be tagged as desperate in anyway, just because he happen to have fallen for someone who's currently in a separated status. In other words, we are talking about someone who has a lot of options but opted to follow his heart. Love here is the keyword, I believe.

I'm not melon, but HELL NO...being divorced does not taint you! Don't let your past hurt ruin your future. If there is no way you are going back, then you are free to do as you wish and find some happiness!

Why do you say that? What about all them army brats? Them is happy, bullying the locals. Yours would be very happy as civilian brats.

Kidding. Really, why? Kids love a change of venue and scenery, much like adults. They may look forward to acquiring new friends. You would be hailed and offered positions by people who are impressed by your American experience. Some might even offer you a job, not only positions. .-(

Axl, whatever I say, others must always take it with a grain of sand, otherwise I am toxic. Sand is the antidote, and you must take it at the same time.

(One exception exists, and that is a very strong and robust exception: I am not kidding only when I talk about religion or issues surrounding religions.)

Of course I support and believe you. I could say I was just being a teasing kind of devil's advocate, but I could not, in all good faith, coz I am not merely the advocate, for I am representing myself.

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Troublebug, this above I send out to you too. Sorry, I missed your comment there on this page until now. Of course I don't condemn you or anyone who is separated, and I do support their ability to search for love and personal happiness. The bs I've been giving was for fun, as being that of "the devil's advocate", if you like.

I guess one person's "fun" is another person's "thistle in the eye". I wouldn't have had so much fun with this topic if I had realized how hurtful it is to others.

Then again, if I wanted to go through life with the intent never to hurt anyone unintentionally, that is, if I wanted to go through life with not hurting anyone who don't deserve it, and I was very serious about that, then I might just as well be comatose or commint suicide. At any rate, I should keep my clapper shut.

I refuse to become comatose or a reasonable facsimile to it.

So please, people, just take my utterances with a grain of salt, that's the best advice I can give to help you survive my comments.

lol, there is no replacement for family, at least not my family, when it comes to my kids,,,,I wouldnt seperate them from family so drastically,,,

Okay... I get it. The inadequacy of the English language, and actually of all the languages.

"Family" is the family you are born into, or adopted by; "family" is also the people you marry and your children.

This has confused greater minds than yours or mine.

Clearly, the two "families" are separate and distinct units, yet we have no way of differentiating between them with language. And sometimes, like in your case, individuals of the two "families" have strong bonds, as individuals and as a group.

Sorry, I was not clear of your situation. Thanks for clearing it up, even if I had to use my own words to do the detailing work.

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I believe you, wux. And mind you, this has not stopped me from liking you as one of the posters Always respected other people's point of views regardless of how different they are from mine. Anyway, I know that the world does not revolve only for me to live on it

yes

that piece of paper says you were willing to finalize it

that's what it takes, I don't date seps either. reasons? - pretty much what capn said back at the beginning

I;ve been an eyewitness to alll the drama and it sucks - seen many get back together even tho they say it'll never happen,, and seen them jump when the ex snaps her fingers....nah - gotta make it a clean, final break, no drama