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"They" say you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. I have never put much stock in "they" and I've never actually met "them" but it's an interesting thought.
What does it mean exactly? I love other people. I get mad, angry, frustrated and annoyed at them from time to time but I love them nonetheless. I often have those same feelings about myself. Is that what "they" mean? Waiting for insight. 
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IDK, depends on how you define love I suppose. I don't love myself like I love others, but I do take care of myself. Others seem to find it easy to love me as well. So, I don't buy that you have to love yourself before others can love you.
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Everyone has heard that you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. The reason for this is simple - our ideal partner is a reflection of us.
We attract people that are like us. Not just in terms of romantic, sexual/physical attraction. We attract them metaphysically - these people tend to turn up in our lives. Each of us has a unique belief system, a way of seeing the world that is slightly different to everyone else's. It's almost like our ego has a fingerprint. What turns us on, what turns us off. What we feel is important. did that make sense ? |
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Kissable, it does make sense but I love myself way more then the others I have attracted in the past do and respect myself a hell of alot more to. So while I understand what you are saying, I hope it's not true.
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If you like yourself, you will like the people you naturally meet, and they will like you. If you don't like yourself, you will waste energy trying to get with people who aren't like you, or you will settle for being with someone you don't like.
hugs chrissy ... |
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If you like yourself, you will like the people you naturally meet, and they will like you. If you don't like yourself, you will waste energy trying to get with people who aren't like you, or you will settle for being with someone you don't like. hugs chrissy ... AHHHHHHHHHHHH 
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Everyone has heard that you have to love yourself before someone else can love you. The reason for this is simple - our ideal partner is a reflection of us. We attract people that are like us. Not just in terms of romantic, sexual/physical attraction. We attract them metaphysically - these people tend to turn up in our lives. Each of us has a unique belief system, a way of seeing the world that is slightly different to everyone else's. It's almost like our ego has a fingerprint. What turns us on, what turns us off. What we feel is important. did that make sense ? great insight kiss...I never really thought about it that way, but it makes sense! |
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"They" say you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. I have never put much stock in "they" and I've never actually met "them" but it's an interesting thought. What does it mean exactly? I love other people. I get mad, angry, frustrated and annoyed at them from time to time but I love them nonetheless. I often have those same feelings about myself. Is that what "they" mean? Waiting for insight. I really think that's just something people say because they think it sounds good, and it doesn't require them to use their brains at all. I can tell you this -- there was a time when I didn't love myself, but I was perfectly capable of loving other people. When I grew up a little and started to love myself, I never lost the ability to love others -- I just began to be a little more selective about who I was handing it out to. Loving yourself and loving other people are two different things. Either one can give you some insight and perspective on how to do the other one, and I don't think there's necessarily a specific order they have to be in. |
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"They" say you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. I have never put much stock in "they" and I've never actually met "them" but it's an interesting thought. What does it mean exactly? I love other people. I get mad, angry, frustrated and annoyed at them from time to time but I love them nonetheless. I often have those same feelings about myself. Is that what "they" mean? Waiting for insight. I really think that's just something people say because they think it sounds good, and it doesn't require them to use their brains at all. I can tell you this -- there was a time when I didn't love myself, but I was perfectly capable of loving other people. When I grew up a little and started to love myself, I never lost the ability to love others -- I just began to be a little more selective about who I was handing it out to. Loving yourself and loving other people are two different things. Either one can give you some insight and perspective on how to do the other one, and I don't think there's necessarily a specific order they have to be in. Now this I completely understand. Thanks Lex, you were always able to engage my logical mind. |
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"They" say you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. I have never put much stock in "they" and I've never actually met "them" but it's an interesting thought. What does it mean exactly? I love other people. I get mad, angry, frustrated and annoyed at them from time to time but I love them nonetheless. I often have those same feelings about myself. Is that what "they" mean? Waiting for insight. I really think that's just something people say because they think it sounds good, and it doesn't require them to use their brains at all. I can tell you this -- there was a time when I didn't love myself, but I was perfectly capable of loving other people. When I grew up a little and started to love myself, I never lost the ability to love others -- I just began to be a little more selective about who I was handing it out to. Loving yourself and loving other people are two different things. Either one can give you some insight and perspective on how to do the other one, and I don't think there's necessarily a specific order they have to be in. Exactly, that's how it is with me too. |
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I think, if you do not love yourself,
you cannot expect to find an equal. |
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I think, if you do not love yourself, you cannot expect to find an equal. agreed! in a partner that we love, we would accept them for who they are, flaws and all, and be completely comfortable with them. to settle for no less within yourself is to love yourself. if you don't love yourself, how would we expect another to? |
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You can't be happy with anyone, until you're happy with yourself, more or less. Lol. And yeah, who is "they"?
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I am pretty sure that these guys nailed it and I ain't here to give any comment....
I am here to run across the room and hug Chrissy!!! I have missed you Honey! Smooches all over your sexi self! :) ps....with a less than subtle groping :) |
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I am pretty sure that these guys nailed it and I ain't here to give any comment.... I am here to run across the room and hug Chrissy!!! I have missed you Honey! Smooches all over your sexi self! :) ps....with a less than subtle groping :) I've missed you too Krupalicious you sexy beast. And an expert at loving himself. Multiple times a night I understand. LOL |
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A lot of folks tend to think in terms of:
The glass is half empty ... or the glass is half full ... How sad to see life or even live this way because it means one gives and the other takes. One is always emptied in the long run. A person who has learned to love themself is more like: the cup that is overflowing. Then a couple who are "equal" are always refilling each other, and neither is depleted. |
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Hiya Chrissy!....
***shoves Krups outta the way*** Chrissy....you know how you can look at someone and say I really appreciate and respect these particular qualities in that person? Turn that attention, in the same mindset, towards yourself...and if you can say the same about yourself...then bingo!...you got it! We live in an era of NOT stepping up....of NOT being prideful....of NOT sharing our accomplishments...of being denigrated for bragging... apparently we are SUPPOSED to be humble, and small... You know what I say to that? SAYS F * CKIN WHO????  Be large, live large, like you....choose YOU as your best friend... ...because we already do like you, choose you...  |
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Oh Lee, you always know just how to say it in the way only you can. I want to run away and hide at the Asylum. Thanks for sharing it with us of FB. It inspires us and enflames the imagination.
C |
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nothin personal but "they" are stupid ppl that dont exist and the reallity is if u want to meet ppl that will actually like u u have to simple look for those who look for u, and remember ur the most important person to urself as no one else will be there when ur by urself. granted u will hopefully have someone to hold/help u when u need them, however u will always have times when its you and only you to deal with things and if u can do it and handle it youl have a better chance finding the right person as too much pressure/dependancy can kill a good relationship. just a thought from a man who is also tired as many of u girls/women are of ppl's bs and games and f!@ed up mood swings. best wishes to you all in this search and if u want girls feel free to see my profile. :)
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Edited by
Jess642
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Tue 04/26/11 05:33 PM
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Oh Lee, you always know just how to say it in the way only you can. I want to run away and hide at the Asylum. Thanks for sharing it with us of FB. It inspires us and enflames the imagination. C My absolute pleasure Chrissy...  I am OBSESSED... Asylum is like a gallery where I can create to my heart's content...and I love that it inspires others... I am torn at the moment...the weather has cooled down...and it's time to finish the painting inside....but....but...but...I have a million more outside projects I want to get done... I watched your awesome vanity, and bathroom appear...and was grinning like a loon... we rock! <----this is me, loving us!
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