EVERYTHING about parenting is hard...every decision that you make FOR them will change their lives no matter what...and its hard not knowing what the outcome will be in the long run...I think babies should come with handbooks...LOL

Thanks everyone for your replies

My hardest parenting moment was when the doctors told me my daughter was dead. Pretty much anything my other kids have litterally thrown at me has been a cake walk.

FOR ALL YOU YOUNG MOMS........


I am a toddler!


If it is on, I must turn it off.

If it is off, I must turn it on.

If it is folded, I must unfold it.



If it is a liquid, it must be shaken, then spilled.



If it a solid, it must be crumbled, chewed or smeared.



If it is high, it must be reached.



If it is shelved, it must be unshelved.



If it is pointed, it must be run with at top speed.



If it has leaves, they must be picked.



If it is plugged, it must be unplugged.



If it is not trash, it must be thrown away.



If it is in the trash, it must be removed, inspected, and thrown on the floor.



If it is closed, it must be opened.



If it does not open, it must be screamed at.



If it has drawers, they must be rifled.



If it is a pencil, it must write on the refrigerator, monitor, or table.



If it is full, it will be more interesting emptied.



If it is empty, it will be more interesting full.



If it is a pile of dirt, it must be laid upon.



If it is stroller, it must under no circumstances be ridden in without protest. It must be pushed by me instead.



If it has a flat surface, it must be banged upon.



If Mommy's hands are full, I must be carried.



If Mommy is in a hurry and wants to carry me, I must walk alone.



If it is paper, it must be torn.



If it has buttons, they must be pressed.



If the volume is low, it must go high.



If it is toilet paper, it must be unrolled on the floor.



If it is a drawer, it must be pulled upon.



If it is a toothbrush, it must be inserted into my mouth.



If it has a faucet, it must be turned on at full force.



If it is a phone, I must talk to it.



If it is a bug, it must be swallowed.



If it doesn't stay on my spoon, it must be dropped on the floor.



If it is not food, it must be tasted.



If it IS food, it must not be tasted.



If it is dry, it must be made wet with drool, milk, or toilet water.



If it is a car seat, it must be protested with arched back.



If it is Mommy, it must be hugged.



I am a toddler!

Hardest parenting moment was being told that my adopted profoundly mentally ill adult child was being dropped from the social security rolls presumed dead in a foreign country.

I guess mine would be having to tell my children that the state wasn't going to let them come home after 8 months of being in a children's home, because their mother relapsed. Back on track though.

Finding out my son was autistic. That was a rough time, and I was 7 months pregnant when we found out. But I guess I can't complain because he is healthy as can be.

Regrettably there has been more than ONE moment that ranks a tie place for THE hardest moment... but not so many that we are permentaly scarred ;o)

One of the hardest moments as a parent to BOTH of my children was:

having to tell my girls that Dave passed away was a hell I never want to go thru again. Not just the knowing how badly confused, scared and hurting they were, but also that I was in no state to comfort them. Feeling that level of guilt on top of my own grief... *sigh*

I think mine was when my 15 year old daughter ( her mom and I had just gone through a divorce)called me and said" Dad, i already got the O K from Mom on this, but i want u to know I just went on the pill!She said nothing had happened yet,but it came close a couple of times, and i dont wanna be pregnant at 17 like mom was". I was proud of her to take that step, but told her if it did happen, not to tell me cause id kill him!!!! and if it did happen, she never told me, thank God!!!!

kaspyv...That was great! My little one is almost 15 months old and that is sooooo her right now.

I have read over this thread and am so sorry to hear what some of you moms and dads have been through! Parenting is life's biggest challenge, imo. I think so far I have been doing ok. I am a single mom and her father is not involved. I am responsible for everything financially, and that has been tough.

I think the hardest upcoming challenge I will have, is telling my daughter (when she is old enough) that her father will be in prison until she is a teenager. I really don't want her to be involved with him. But I think if she wants to meet him (and I know she will, she doesn't understand what he has put us through) I will go along and supervise. He keeps sending her letters. I have kept them for her. It will be a big challenge raising a child on my own, but I am strong and I know I will get through it!!!

I thought at time my 18 yr old daughter telling me she was pregnant, Now its the joy I get from my 21 month old grandson.

I agree with those who say it is great at moments, and tough others, but worth it. I remembered one time a friend ask me what my kid was worth to me? I laughed and said sometimes I would trade him for a plug nickle others I wouldn't take a million. Then he said here is a math problem (which I am not particularly good at) but I thought ok. Try it it will surprise you if you ponder on it a while. ((24hrsx365days)18years)$7.25 Pretty amazing amount? What is frightening is how often we waste a number we can count.

haing them stolen by their mother filling them with lies

and not lowering myself to her level

Wow, mine sounds pretty minor now, but it was walling myself off from my son, so he could make his own choices regarding society and its laws and his interactions with them.

Hardest thing now, waiting 6 yrs for them to move home & spend time with the grandkids. Counting the days.

Time sure creeps along when waiting to see grands. I can hardly wait for Christmas I am so excited. Hope all of them are wonderful together Sage.

I will see them in March, when #3 arrives & son is home.
GOd willing.

toughest decision i ever had to make as being a parent was whether to get him immunised against a certain illness or not. it took me months to come to a decision, and still a year on i am not sure i made the right one.

worst moment of being a parent was when my little boy was just born and he wasn't breathing and unconcious...i thought he was dead, he was black and alarms were going off all over the place. the medical team eventually did get him breathing and i could actually see his heart start to beat in his little chest. started off the worst time of my life, and turned into the best.

the hardest thing was not know if i was going to return after going to court to protect my children from a voilent ex. i broke the court order and refused him access.. penalities could have been up to 1yr in jail if the majestrate didnt believe that i had just cause.... not as bad as cancer though or mental issues

i think we all battle through whatever it is thrown at us. as mums and dads we just want the best and we all deal with something different... i take my hat off to all the mum and dad who have dealth with any of the hardship parenting has caused.... now i know why we have lots of grey hair and even bauled heads lol