I agree

the whole virgin thing is silly too - at least for a grown man who is truly looking for intimacy

Well **** me. Sorry for my french but damn. So guys here's a little update and judging by opening sentence Im sure you can guess it wont have a happy ending unfortunately. So anyways I had told you all about this girl I really liked and well I thought she liked me back. Anyways so today we agreed to go play miniature golf. Anyways the whole rie there and while we are there she doesnt seem into it at all or me. And shes taking about going to parties shed used to invite me to so Im just like wtf. So I take her home early, and when we get to the drive I told her "I think I like you a ittle more than you like me, an I just dont see this going anywhere" and shes like "yea maybe so, like i sai I dont know what I want" Anways a few minutes late she blows up my phone texting about how she obviously couldnt tell if she liked me after only a few dates. really? it was like 4. and then when I told her well what about the making out, holding hands, hugging........She told me "she holds hands with all her friends" wtf?? "she didnt want to kiss me but only did because she knew i wanted too" complete BS and that she shouldnt be blamed for any of this. Guys Im so down right now. i know i just got to move on but wtf :( sorry thats my rant...

sorry about the doom & gloom in the responses

it;s just that u seem like a nice guy who should find someone who will appreciate you...

let it go sugar - I'd comfort you in a minute uf u were a little older or me a little younger

Well your the sweetest girl :). Thanks. Its just weird I never get attached or worked up over anyone else. And then this one I just cant let go. Uhh Idk Im just torn.

completely understand

On to tha next one.....


All Im saying...

move along

life's too short to chase after head cases that just want to be pursued.

IMO

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good point

Kind of a bit of an update for anyone who may care :p. So my ex gets back in a few days. Ive talked to alot of people and against much of yours guys advice Im sure, Im going to try and get a second chance with her.. Honestly Im pretty bad expressing myself emotionally most of the time if something is bothering me or I really care about something I wont show it or mention it. And in turn it usually looks like I dont care. But the fact of the matter is this whole time shes been gone..almost 3 weeks now its been killing me. Ive gone on multiple dates, got a new car, new stuff been working out more but always at the back of my mind Ive been thinking about her. Ive even thought about how Id give away anything Ive gotten in this period, just to have the chance to play cards with her at my kitchen table again.
I know alot of people say there are billions o girls in the world move on youll find someone...fact of the matter is I found her and hate that things ende up the way they did. Like Ive said Ive talke to alot of people and ive basically come down with 3 options on how to approach her again, I really dont want to mess this up so however you think is best Id love to hear. Fact of the matter is Im trying its killed me enough so sorry but if you say not too I still will. but my 3 options i think at the moment are:

1. send her some flowers at work. Someone suggeste yellow roses since the sybolize friendship an attach a note with a small apology and an offer to get together. While flowers might be a nice gesture I am hesitant with this because I think its looks ba Im not doing it in person so she cant see my emotion or hear my own words.

2. Stop by her work and say hi. People have sai not too apologize, so I wouldnt do that. Instead Id ask her about her trip and ask her to get together maybe take a ride in my new car? I was also thinking of bringing just a single flower because thats not as overlwhelming as 12 but still nice..or she is really into a certain kin of music so i wa thiknig maybe a cd? but idk a cd might not be the best thing to give her right now..I like seeing her in person because I can her reactions up close. Plus if you realy have something important to say you should do it in person and also maybe she can see how much ive really misse her this way.

3. I coul send her a frienly invite on FB reading her and trying to talk...Idk though once this seems informal and pretty beta.

What do you guys think? Im still going to try, Ive been missing this girl so much and i really think we coul have something special. But what do you think any of my ideas goo on approaching her again? Or what could i do different/ change? I really really dont want to mess this and will do anything as long it give me a better chance with her. I really appreciate all advice.