Obviously people have given me cause not to trust them. I know that i could always walk away from people i can't trust, as that would involve less heartache. I don't wanna beat around the bush as it is. Lol. I feel like i have to force a smile around them. It isn't fair on them. I just don't wanna offend them.

its hard to trust people i been there too many times my self you trust them then they do something to hurt you all over again then as you go along u find it hard to trust someone else just take your time move slow an sooner or later you will trust someone again.

It's not offending if you're honest with them. You can speak the truth about how you feel in a considerate manner.

Thanks guys :) Yeah it gets more difficult, the more things that happen. I'll try to take it slowly.

Trust is not to be given but earned. <3

You don't need to learn to trust people, you need to learn listen to your instincts.

Some people are trustworthy and some are not. Trusting everyone would be fool hearty, trusting no one would be paranoid.

Never trust people. They're only human.

I have never liked the idea that I have to be happy all the time just because everyone expects me to be. Putting on a smile for everyone is a whitewash, a facade. But just because I'm not happy doesn't mean I am going to be rude or unpleasant to people. Bluntly, if they don't want to be around you because you can't put on a smile just to please them, then you don't need them around. They've got a "ME" attitude.

So maybe you have trust issues. It happens to a lot more people than perhaps you realize. Some cover it over with a smile and a laugh, and move on. Others become phonies. Others become withdrawn or anti-social. Each person deals with it differently.

For one, I have trust issues. I'm still sociable. I can be moody, but I can laugh and let things roll off my back too. I handle my trust problems by trying to choose who I want to be around. I make sure I know people well enough before allowing them into my real life circle of friends. Sometimes I am phony and act as if I like someone when I don't, but maybe it's because we know some of the same people and I don't want to cause problems. I certainly don't let people I don't like and respect into my circle of friends.

I also recognize the source of my issues. A lot of people mistreated me when I was younger - verbally, psychologically, and physically. I've had bullies chase me firing CO2 powered BB guns at me. I've been ganged up on by 4 and 5 kids at a time. Once I wrote a letter to girl I liked, and my best friend found it and read to a full bus load of kids. I've been punished for standing up for myself against bully while he never was punished at all. The list goes on, and I haven't even mentioned family or work problems yet. What got me over the hump was when I realized that many more people like and respect than those who were mean to me. A LOT MORE. Once that lesson is learned, then I could begin to tell who I did and did not want to be around based on behavior.

Some people may think I am too wordy, or that my stories are unnecessary or irrelevant. But, the reason I post like this is because maybe, just maybe, someone will see something in my post that lights a bulb in their own mind. Perhaps something they overlooked or never thought about enough. It is too easy to oversimplify. Truth is life is complicated....People are complicated. If everything was simple, none of us would have problems.

Good luck.

^this. Some people are worth letting in & some are not! Trust yourself in making these decisions. If things don't feel right...then they ain't right so end it & move on. Don't be too afraid to let the right ones in. Don't allow your past to ruin your future

"trust yourself first before you trust other people"

Trust is given to those who earn it. It is but right to walk away from those who do not deserve to be trusted in order to avoid wasting one's time and effort, much less avoid heartaches in the future. This applies to any relationship we embark with.

Sounds to me like the people you're referring to don't deserve your company.

you really can't completely because trust is a very egocentric POV - someone may break ur trust without realizing it because they do not see thru your eyes

and then again there are those who are untrustworthy and just don't give a rat's ***

Unless I know not to, I will trust someone until they give me reason not to - if they give me reason not to - I prolly will not ever trust them because I have learned that people do not/ rarely change

You can always trust people to be themselves. If they are a-holes, trust them to be a-holes. LOL

So what is required is to learn to be a better judge of character.

I knew a girl who was a pathological liar. I trusted her to tell whopping lies. I did not believe anything that came out of her mouth so it did not effect me in the least.

Trust everybody, but cut the cards.
-Finley Peter Dunne

Good call, Tessa. I can remember having trust issues with myself. Sometimes having too many choices can be as bad as having no choices at all. "In God we trust." "All others pay cash." I can remember reading that in a bar one time.

or a sign that it's time to start associatig with some new people

yea and I thank u for pointing out where this lesson was necessary


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